Right Speech is difficult, but so necessary

For the last year, my intention has been to focus on a specific spoke in the wheel of the eightfold path—Right Speech. Almost immediately after I set this intention, I experienced big challenges and big failures. The lessons learned were painful but utterly necessary to truly take Right Speech to another level. Through the process it has been easy to see how the spokes are related to one another—Right Intention and Right Speech are intertwined at every level.
Dhamma Wheel

My first lesson came in the form of a deep intuition of a long friendship. It was clear to me that the stories some friends had of me were not how I saw myself or my current story. I felt this disconnected undercurrent as I struggled in my new and stronger self, one that left any trace of victim aside. The new self was one that others could not recognize, and one that showed significant growing pains through repeated mistakes.It would be the easy way to go back to feeling misunderstood and as a victim of others’ opinions of me—however, I was focusing on MY Right Speech. I could not judge if they were following their own path.

I realized that Right Speech was not just the words that came out of my mouth, but the stories I told that they would never hear. These stories, told to myself or others, colored my speech and must have been affecting the other.

Managing Right Speech while holding stories of the other that are outdated, judgmental or demeaning, is like trying to hold a lid on a boiling pot—sooner or later the lid is going to slip and not hold in that steam. Right Intention guides us to let go of the many ego-centric causes of these stories. The stories can cast us in the role of victim, rescuer or the abuser. We may be looking to fill an emotional need that is not right for that person to be asked to fill. We may be expressing anger towards this person or another. Keeping our focus on ‘us’ as separate and different from the ‘other’ turns up the heat.

We tell that story of the ‘other’ that meets our needs, and sometimes the other has little impact. Then maybe we cringe. We know this story is not all the truth, we know this story does not encourage compassion. Feeling our failure, we can sit in compassion for ourselves and the other. We can also heat up the stove, tell it to others, and get validation to justify telling the story to begin with.

We know we are not separate—we experience we are not separate when we meditate. We are not our own little unique snowflake, but rather part of a storm. So by holding this hurt we only keep it going, setting everyone up for hurtful speech which passes on and on.

The question is how, how do we transform a lifetime of not watching Right Speech and possibly being in a culture that focuses more on the negative than the positive in others?

First of all, metta. Start with people who are a little easier than the person you feel many negative emotions about. Then ease into those who anger us. The entire process takes a lot of metta towards ourselves since we will not get it right very soon. Remember it is all practice, on and off the cushion.

Next, examine those stories about self and others. That friend who is always a victim? Treat them as a powerful survivor. This does not take away their challenges but may empower them.

Watch what causes more negative stories and makes that metta difficult. After two weeks, I can say I am almost ready to practice metta for the person who verbally attacked someone I care about because of a misplaced protective feeling towards me. That is pretty huge, but if Ghandi could do this for his would-be assassin, then it is possible. Take your time and give yourself compassion until you are ready. This may take dropping or limiting some friendships, not watching the news or reading horrible stories or putting a reminder alarm on your phone to bring yourself back to your practice.

Notice I did not say goal. Setting our goals, New Year’s resolutions and exercise plans can be helpful, but more often we get discouraged at a setback and then judge ourselves until we quit. This is not going to be a goal we achieve but a practice that refines over time. You will be aware of one area to work on and then feel as if you are starting over. The rewards, however, are still very powerful.

One result of my focus on Right Speech has been being seen as a strong positive force in my workplace, and as a result having my input respected even more. I am getting more opportunities to train and speak in groups to represent the interests of our programs.

For me, Right Speech has meant shutting up often, but even more than that—speaking up.

100 thoughts on “Right Speech is difficult, but so necessary

  1. There is a saying which goes, "Even the swiftest horsemen in the Emperor's army, riding like the wind, cannot retrieve the word, once spoken."
    The most difficult Spoke of the Wheel for anyone then, is not necessarily the one we feel is the hardest one to practice.
    It is perhaps the one which enables us to realise which spoke is the hardest one to practice.
    And that is Right Awareness, or Right Attention.....
    Mindfulness is vital.
    I have a keyring fob which reads, "Of all the things I've ever lost, I miss my Mind the most."

    Ain't that the truth......
  2. good article thanks for sharing...body speech and mind must aligned well for liberation.
    Right speech is not an interesting topic and we ignore most of the time the benefits of practicing right speech but it is so crucial. This article is great...
  3. There is a saying which goes, "Even the swiftest horsemen in the Emperor's army, riding like the wind, cannot retrieve the word, once spoken."
    ..

    I love it, as I get older I realize those words do not fade fast.
  4. we are having problems with zen it is used to control people in the wrong way. check with 14th dalai lama
  5. Right speech is always the hardest to do. I work for the customer service field. Yes, I do admit I do have to lie to get my job done. Is it wrong? Yes it is, but it gets the job done on those rare occasions. Like for example a customer has a policy issue. Customers usually don't accept: "Because it's policy." I sometimes I have to make up a reason on why we have that policy.

    Words can easily make enemies as well. I don't one of my cashiers that I want to do a better job than my boss. Since my current boss has a hard time keep her cashiers brakes and lunches on time. Now my boss thinks I am there just to fire her and take over my position. Which would be nice, but I don't like back stabbing people. I done that for three years working for Rent-A-Center and I do not want to do that.
  6. Right speech is always the hardest to do. I work for the customer service field. Yes, I do admit I do have to lie to get my job done. Is it wrong? Yes it is, but it gets the job done on those rare occasions. Like for example a customer has a policy issue. Customers usually don't accept: "Because it's policy." I sometimes I have to make up a reason on why we have that policy.

    ...
    Why do you have to "make up" a reason for the policy, when I'm quite sure there "is" a reason for the policy?


  7. Why do you have to "make up" a reason for the policy, when I'm quite sure there "is" a reason for the policy?

    Yes, there is an reason for some. Yet, customers would just like to argue with me so I have to make stuff up to get them out of here because a lot of then don't want the truth.

    My life:
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  8. For the many years I was a school administrator, I often had parents questioning school policy, which was usually determined by the school board, not by us at the school. When my hands were tied, I often had to tell them that I had to abide by the policy. If they wanted to know why there was such a policy, I would explain if I could, and if I couldn't. I would attempt to learn why there was such a policy, but that meanwhile I would still have to abide by the policy. Few ever questioned beyond that, and if they did I usually found out the answer to "why", or referred them to someone higher up. I NEVER lied about it, because in the end, lies usually are found out or you just look incompetent.
  9. For the many years I was a school administrator, I often had parents questioning school policy, which was usually determined by the school board, not by us at the school. When my hands were tied, I often had to tell them that I had to abide by the policy. If they wanted to know why there was such a policy, I would explain if I could, and if I couldn't. I would attempt to learn why there was such a policy, but that meanwhile I would still have to abide by the policy. Few ever questioned beyond that, and if they did I usually found out the answer to "why", or referred them to someone higher up. I NEVER lied about it, because in the end, lies usually are found out or you just look incompetent.
    Unfortunately, you don't have 5 angry customers waiting in line and one customer wants 100% of the attention. After 10 years in retail, you learn how move them out of there and get to the next customer. Also a lot of customers don't want the truth.

  10. For the many years I was a school administrator, I often had parents questioning school policy, which was usually determined by the school board, not by us at the school. When my hands were tied, I often had to tell them that I had to abide by the policy. If they wanted to know why there was such a policy, I would explain if I could, and if I couldn't. I would attempt to learn why there was such a policy, but that meanwhile I would still have to abide by the policy. Few ever questioned beyond that, and if they did I usually found out the answer to "why", or referred them to someone higher up. I NEVER lied about it, because in the end, lies usually are found out or you just look incompetent.
    Unfortunately, you don't have 5 angry customers waiting in line and one customer wants 100% of the attention. After 10 years in retail, you learn how move them out of there and get to the next customer. Also a lot of customers don't want the truth.

    Frankly, I'd rather deal with 5 angry customers than an "I'm a taxpayer and I pay your salary" parent who is going to "...go to the Board Of Education" or "sue you" or "report you to the Department Of Education" or "go to the Superintendent and get you fired".



  11. Frankly, I'd rather deal with 5 angry customers than an "I'm a taxpayer and I pay your salary" parent who is going to "...go to the Board Of Education" or "sue you" or "report you to the Department Of Education" or "go to the Superintendent and get you fired".

    The difference you have time to deal with this stuff and also some sanity in the school system. In retail, there is no sanity. You just have to survive.

  12. For the many years I was a school administrator, I often had parents questioning school policy, which was usually determined by the school board, not by us at the school. When my hands were tied, I often had to tell them that I had to abide by the policy. If they wanted to know why there was such a policy, I would explain if I could, and if I couldn't. I would attempt to learn why there was such a policy, but that meanwhile I would still have to abide by the policy. Few ever questioned beyond that, and if they did I usually found out the answer to "why", or referred them to someone higher up. I NEVER lied about it, because in the end, lies usually are found out or you just look incompetent.
    Unfortunately, you don't have 5 angry customers waiting in line and one customer wants 100% of the attention. After 10 years in retail, you learn how move them out of there and get to the next customer. Also a lot of customers don't want the truth.

    Reminds me of my volunteer experiment (I'm disabled) where I was handing out brochures and retrieving jewelry purchases as a 'runner'. I had a santa hat on and I was given the directive of telling the customers that the celebration was over. They had a lot of compassion on me and were humorous with me. But I have very rigid expectations and I was frustrated. I joked to the cutey volunteer coordinator that 'people shouldn't drink alcohol'.
  13. I havebeen in both the customer service and the education feild, One of my ways to handle these toughies is to say "I don't know all the reasons for the policy but it means that someone found a way to take advantage of our old policy/it means that a situation happened with a child or family that made this necessary" If you listen to what they have to say, reflect that back, and try a version of what I said it covers a lot of situations (not all by a looong stretch) just an idea.
  14. This was a wonderful article. Thank you. As others have posted, I see the connection between metta and speech but appreciate the reminder - how is it that this obvious connection is so easily lost? As I wait patiently for the world to become what I would like it to be, another day in which I could have made the world what I would like it to be slips quietly by.

    And the conversation below is quite interesting too. Thank you all. (And, as it turns out, non-members can post.)
  15. Yes, but only on the front page, but it's very nice of you to do so. Thanks for your contribution. :)
  16. all the 8 spokes of the wheel (of right ___) are interconnected to each other and in the center for a reason. You cannot focus on one before quickly seeing how it relates to all the others. The goos news is there is no order to do these in, a specific list we need to go through. It is also the challenge, without a specific list then we have to discipline ourselves.
  17. Thanks for this article. Lots to think about. I'm having BIG issues with right speech lately and before I learn what to say I need to practice NOT saying anything. It's especially difficult when dealing with people who make me so angry but sometimes that's the most respectful thing to do.
  18. What is the most important thing about being human? If someone were to answer "right speech", they would not be incorrect in my opinion, because speech is intertwined with actions (karma). To be virtuous is to follow the workings of karma. Believing in karma is to believe in performing skilful actions. I believe there would be nothing to hold down our selfishness and conceit without karma.
  19. There have often been times I would like to speak my mind, But then I check and find the mind impure and the resulting speech a cause of unhappiness so its better to remain silent.
  20. What is the most important thing about being human? If someone were to answer "right speech", they would not be incorrect in my opinion, because speech is intertwined with actions (karma). To be virtuous is to follow the workings of karma. Believing in karma is to believe in performing skilful actions. I believe there would be nothing to hold down our selfishness and conceit without karma.
    It is not possible not to fall prey to karma. Even if you have never heard about karma, the law still applies to you.
    A beautiful thought I think
  21. What is the most important thing about being human? If someone were to answer "right speech", they would not be incorrect in my opinion, because speech is intertwined with actions (karma). To be virtuous is to follow the workings of karma. Believing in karma is to believe in performing skilful actions. I believe there would be nothing to hold down our selfishness and conceit without karma.
    It is not possible not to fall prey to karma. Even if you have never heard about karma, the law still applies to you.
    A beautiful thought I think
    I'm not so sure that we should call karma "a law", unless we are referring to it as a "law" of Buddhism.

    Laws are supposed to be universal, and the law of karma is not universal to all religions.

    But I do see it -- in whatever way it works -- as a very valid principle.

  22. I personally refer to Karma as a law, not because it applies to all religions, but because I believe it applies to all people, regardless of religion and regardless of what they believe. Same with reincarnation. As I read once "Belief is not necessary. A leaf does not have to believe in photosynthesis to turn green. You will reincarnate whether you believe or not." (paraphrased). Whether I am correct about Karma and Reincarnation remains to be seen. But I do find a degree of comfort in believing that the same thing happens to everyone when they die and as they live life (the same basic "rules"). Just as, I'm sure, people who are Christian find comfort in believing if they are better people than others, they will be rewarded.


  23. I personally refer to Karma as a law ... Whether I am correct about Karma and Reincarnation remains to be seen

    In my view, those two concepts are at odds.



  24. I guess I think that there are a lot of things that are laws of the universe that we don't know or understand yet. We consider them theories, but somewhere the answer exists. To me, the answers to some of those questions are karma and reincarnation, because I believe they are true, but I don't KNOW them to be true. If they are indeed true, then they would be universal laws. The problem is that once we find out the answer, we can't come back and tell everyone it's a law, lol. I think I'm more confused than when I started, so I'll stop now. In my head, it makes sense, but that probably doesn't say a lot ;)
  25. Karma isn't so much a law as it explains how causes relate to effects, both in this life and beyond. A Buddha does not generate new karma for instance. It's like saying if you throw an orange into the air on the Earth, it will always fall. Well, sure, *if* you throw an orange into the air on the Earth. Karma is like that... it applies *if* the conditions are met, which is why killing unintentionally generates no negative karma (the condition of intention is not present).

    Buddhas do not throw oranges into the air, or anywhere else, metaphorically speaking. ;)

    And so karma is really a "derived" principle or law, something that only applies when it applies (where there is intention), and not at other times. It's there to show us what's harmful and what's beneficial, especially in overcoming suffering.
  26. Karma isn't so much a law as it explains how causes relate to effects, both in this life and beyond. A Buddha does not generate new karma for instance. It's like saying if you throw an orange into the air on the Earth, it will always fall. Well, sure, *if* you throw an orange into the air on the Earth. Karma is like that... it applies *if* the conditions are met, which is why killing unintentionally generates no negative karma (the condition of intention is not present).

    ...

    And so karma is really a "derived" principle or law, something that only applies when it applies, and not at other times. It's there to show us what's harmful and what's beneficial, especially in overcoming suffering.
    From my perspective, your viewpoint doesn't cut it in the face of real examples, but perhaps that's because "we" cannot accurately define karma and its results.

    Specifically, that unintentional killing generates no negative karma. Let's take the real, well documented example of the PE teacher in my school system back about 20 years ago. He was supervising students on trampolines. He had set up a system whereby 2 trampolines were being used, students were lined up waiting to use each alternately while he was supervising in the middle. The procedures had been approved as being responsible and safe. Students have had the procedures fully explained. A student intentionally does not follow directions, falls on the trampoline, breaks his neck on the metal part of the trampoline and is permanently paralyzed. Witnesses all fully exonerate the PE teacher. The parent sues. The case goes to court. The teacher wins. The parents sue a second time. The teacher has a nervous breakdown, but again wins the trial and is completely exonerated. The nervous breakdown over the case leads to deep depression on the part of the teacher. Due to a deteriorating situation at home because of the depression, the teacher's wife divorces him and the family disintegrates.

    Unintentional action (in fact, responsible action) results in negative karma.

    I could give other examples where unintentional action has resulted in horrific depressive karmic results.

  27. @vinlyn, I'm actually too tired to argue with you. ;) It wouldn't be me you'd be arguing with anyway, but Buddhism itself. Look it up.
  28. I'm sorry @vinlyn but it's very clearly stated that karma *is* intention in the scriptures. It's intentional thoughts, intentional speech, intentional actions. Now, that doesn't mean there aren't results from unintentional thoughts/speech/actions, but these are not what karma means in Buddhism.

    Karma is not causation, but moral causation. Intentional causation.
    After several posts now, I think I can see more clearly where you are coming from -- it seems to me you take positions solely on what is stated in Buddhist scriptures.

    Or am I misreading you?

  29. Karma isn't so much a law as it explains how causes relate to effects, both in this life and beyond. A Buddha does not generate new karma for instance. It's like saying if you throw an orange into the air on the Earth, it will always fall. Well, sure, *if* you throw an orange into the air on the Earth. Karma is like that... it applies *if* the conditions are met, which is why killing unintentionally generates no negative karma (the condition of intention is not present).

    ...

    And so karma is really a "derived" principle or law, something that only applies when it applies, and not at other times. It's there to show us what's harmful and what's beneficial, especially in overcoming suffering.
    From my perspective, your viewpoint doesn't cut it in the face of real examples, but perhaps that's because "we" cannot accurately define karma and its results.

    Specifically, that unintentional killing generates no negative karma. Let's take the real, well documented example of the PE teacher in my school system back about 20 years ago. He was supervising students on trampolines. He had set up a system whereby 2 trampolines were being used, students were lined up waiting to use each alternately while he was supervising in the middle. The procedures had been approved as being responsible and safe. Students have had the procedures fully explained. A student intentionally does not follow directions, falls on the trampoline, breaks his neck on the metal part of the trampoline and is permanently paralyzed. Witnesses all fully exonerate the PE teacher. The parent sues. The case goes to court. The teacher wins. The parents sue a second time. The teacher has a nervous breakdown, but again wins the trial and is completely exonerated. The nervous breakdown over the case leads to deep depression on the part of the teacher. Due to a deteriorating situation at home because of the depression, the teacher's wife divorces him and the family disintegrates.

    Unintentional action (in fact, responsible action) results in negative karma.

    I could give other examples where unintentional action has resulted in horrific depressive karmic results.

    In the same way, and to use the same example, the same situations and actions which may lead to depression for one individual may not for another ...the outcome is not entirely about intention


  30. In the same way, and to use the same example, the same situations and actions which may lead to depression for one individual may not for another ...the outcome is not entirely about intention

    To me, karma is a part of Buddhism where there is no consensus about what it is or how it works. I picked up most of what I know about Buddhism while traveling in living in Thailand, and there it appears to me -- after many conversations about the topic -- that there is more of a belief that there is some mechanism where you do something bad and a punishment develops. What that mechanism is goes unexplained (at least by the people I have chatted with about it, and that includes both monks and lay people). Here in the West, and particularly on this forum, what people think about karma is very different.

    I haven't figured it out, and it is not only a cornerstone of Buddhist thought, but also just plain interesting.

    In general I tend to be a very concrete person, and that's why sort of nebulous ideas bother me. That's why I'm more comfortable with (for example) the 5 Precepts being virtual rules than I am with karma being sort of inexplicable. And what I mean by inexplicable is that I've rarely heard 2 people explain karma the same way.

    For example, it seems to me that what you are saying ("the same situations and actions which may lead to...for one individual may not for another ...the outcome is not entirely about intention") is very different from what someone else is saying ("only applies when it applies (where there is intention)).

  31. @vinlyn, I'm actually too tired to argue with you. ;) It wouldn't be me you'd be arguing with anyway, but Buddhism itself. Look it up.
    Please ignore my post at 11 minutes after the hour. Since you see what I thought was a discussion as me arguing, it is better not to continue.



  32. In the same way, and to use the same example, the same situations and actions which may lead to depression for one individual may not for another ...the outcome is not entirely about intention

    To me, karma is a part of Buddhism where there is no consensus about what it is or how it works. I picked up most of what I know about Buddhism while traveling in living in Thailand, and there it appears to me -- after many conversations about the topic -- that there is more of a belief that there is some mechanism where you do something bad and a punishment develops. What that mechanism is goes unexplained (at least by the people I have chatted with about it, and that includes both monks and lay people). Here in the West, and particularly on this forum, what people think about karma is very different.

    I haven't figured it out, and it is not only a cornerstone of Buddhist thought, but also just plain interesting.

    In general I tend to be a very concrete person, and that's why sort of nebulous ideas bother me. That's why I'm more comfortable with (for example) the 5 Precepts being virtual rules than I am with karma being sort of inexplicable. And what I mean by inexplicable is that I've rarely heard 2 people explain karma the same way.

    For example, it seems to me that what you are saying ("the same situations and actions which may lead to...for one individual may not for another ...the outcome is not entirely about intention") is very different from what someone else is saying ("only applies when it applies (where there is intention)).

    I find it interesting too ... I don't have difficulty with the not knowing all aspects; we do know it is very complex and beyond simple understandings.

    Yes, my observation is very different to focus on intention. For example, as my teacher has discussed with me, karma is also factored by what the individual thinks about the situation - for example, some people cope with taking drastic measures because they think the ends justifies the means.
  33. Ahh, I see as we discuss one of the things (which affected my right speech) in how we are comfortable or not with balck and white rules as compared to amore intuitive approach. I generally stay totally out of these things, however at work I was in a difficult situation with a person who took over my after school program at one school. Her first way of approaching it was to read the handbooks in detail, go back to the staff with a rule we had not noticed, and enforce it strictly. Looking back I truly think she thought everyone had the same respect for clear rules and they would be happy. It actually caused a huge rift and one person was eventually moved away from that school. I did not like this person and was caught in the middle of training her while watching this total collapse. a few Parents even took their kids out of the (free) after school program.

    In this process I had to realize that the other person was really not a bad person. She was very interested in having a good program, and to have a good program she had to follow all the rules. Of course that is good for the safety of the children, however instead of focusing on how all the other rules were followed well she noticed a staff wearing a hat and handled it. The problem was when all of us (myself included) got into making judgments based on what we saw. I do not think she ever got the understanding I did however with the understanding that she is very rules oriented I was able to make changes in teh working relationship.
  34. Someone earlier made the point that all the spokes are interconnected. Very true. Each leads almost imperceptably into others.
    Before we can practice right speech, we need need right mindfulness and aspiration. It takes right effort to take time to be careful to practice right speech and right livelihood necessarily requires right speech. As does right conduct and all of these would be a lot of effort if we didn't have right belief that there was a purpose to it all. This right belief is to be found in right meditation.
    I often skim through longer posts but this one (the original post) was a pleasure to read slowly and fully. Thank-you
    Andy
  35. @vinlyn
    the principle of karma is extremely complicated in action. also really, it doesn't make much sense unless we see it as taking place across many lifetimes, rather than one. with the example you cited, you are drawing a very rash conclusion.
    This really comes down to a fundamental difficulty in understanding that all humans face: why must the innocent suffer for no obvious reason. This is no easy question, and the answer is very complicated.
    In any case, hastily tying event A to event B is not good. In my opinion, and from my interpretation of scripture, the law of karma is something that should be only generally understood to exist. making specific conclusions is not possible, and inadvisable. We should best see it as something that is real, right and fair, but beyond understanding in a lot of ways...after all the conditions that lead to any and all action are complex beyond understanding.
    Much better to cultivate perfect wisdom.
  36. Not at all,
    I am referring to the connection that you made between the teacher's trials and misfortunes and his responsible activity surrounding the student's accident.
    You said:
    ""Unintentional action (in fact, responsible action) results in negative karma."
    Actually, if we expand our view of cosmic cause and effect, the two events may not be connected at all. Do you see what i'm saying.
  37. Beginners make the mistake of assuming that right speech, of the Ariyan Eightfold Path, is for them. It is not. It is only for ariyasavakas. Period. Unless your are a current-winner (P., sotapanna) you can't really understand what right speech means.
  38. Beginners make the mistake of assuming that right speech, of the Ariyan Eightfold Path, is for them. It is not. It is only for ariyasavakas. Period. Unless your are a current-winner (P., sotapanna) you can't really understand what right speech means.
    Well, this is news. Silly us, all this time we thought that being mindful about speech was constructive and helped further our practice. Could you elaborate a) on your sources for this, and b) what right speech means? That would be helpful and informative.

  39. Yes the eightfold path doesn't start until the noble view. That is what my teacher has said. The noble aryan view is a insight that unhinges the ordinary samsaric view of gain and loss and so forth.

    But until then it is a good way to live life.

    Buddha taught that the dharma was good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good at the end.

    @Songhill could you mention some of the preliminaries during the effort towards the noble view?
  40. Beginners make the mistake of assuming that right speech, of the Ariyan Eightfold Path, is for them. It is not. It is only for ariyasavakas. Period. Unless your are a current-winner (P., sotapanna) you can't really understand what right speech means.
    ;D ;)

    Interestingly enough, the only ones qualified enough to make the assessment of whether or not you are a ariyasavaka and are capable of understanding right speech are stream winners , but since they are beyond discrimination and discriminatory thought, they cannot make this assessment either. Therefore, no one can tell you whether or not the doctrine of right speech is something that you can comprehend. lol
    :D :)
  41. Beginners make the mistake of assuming that right speech, of the Ariyan Eightfold Path, is for them. It is not. It is only for ariyasavakas. Period. Unless your are a current-winner (P., sotapanna) you can't really understand what right speech means.
    What are you?
  42. Sorry for the bad news. Yes, the Buddha was an elitist (but spiritually so). He made a sharp distinction between worldlings (puthujjanas) and his favorites (ariya-savaka/ariya-puggala). For more information on the ruck & rabble vs the elitists I suggest reading Peter Masefield's book, Divine Revelation in Pali Buddhism.
  43. Jeffrey:
    could you mention some of the preliminaries during the effort towards the noble view?
    Always one sign (sort of a secret among Theravadins) is when you enter the current you sense lots of radiant, light-like energy (I mean lots!). Your senses can't detect it. It is not connected with the five khandhas/skandhas (they belong to Mara the Buddhist devil). Let's just say, Mind (not ordinary mind) has found itself. And this is only the beginning of the path — but it is enough of a start to clue you in to the fact that the Buddha was one mystical, kick-ass dude!

    P.S. Notice I didn't address how you get here. That is still somewhat of a mystery in Buddhism. The teachings of the old Zen masters about Mind are really a help. Looking for pure Mind within your own mind helps too. It's there — but it is not awareness or mindfulness — not by a long shot.
  44. No bad news here. I may not be a stream winner, but since I started to get some control over what comes out of my mouth I've had less conflict and less guilt. I was fairly self righteous and belligerent in my younger days. My interpretation of right/wrong speech is good enough for me. When I get it wrong it's obvious.
  45. Yes, the Buddha was an elitist
    :rolleyes:
    Oh my gosh, I assure you, that if he seemed this way, it was only to provide sanctuary to those with affinity for the way.
    calling the sakyamuni buddha an elitist (in any sense of the word) is like calling hitler a humanitarian.
    For more information on the ruck & rabble vs the elitists I suggest reading Peter Masefield's book
    well yes, of course, we hardly need to think for ourselves anymore, since there are PhDs around to show us the way... they never have personal interests involved in their writings, and they are never interested in meaningless circular coffee shop philosophy arguments in which they make sure to get a good distance between themselves and the buddha, because hey, lets face it , he's just not cynical and biting enough to be a really good position to adopt. I love these guys who swear up and down that " in this day and age we are more advanced than the buddha, we can look back and see how he was inferior and naive, especially from the pulpit of our divine university program."

    http://members.optushome.com.au/davidquinn000/Hakuin folder/Hakuin03.html

    I was fortunate to find the remnants of hakuin ekaku, a monk truly and utterly dedicated to the way, selfless, generous, disciplined in the extreme. He has a few nice things to say about such people as masefield, trungpa, etc

    ".........If, on the other hand, you follow the trend of the times, when you gain entry into the eighth consciousness's dark cave of unknowing you will begin crowing about what you have achieved. You will go around telling one and all how enlightened you are. You will proceed to accept, under false pretenses, the veneration and charity of others, and become one of those arrogant creatures who declares he has attained realization when he has not.

    If that is the course you follow, a horrifying future lies before you. Every grain of rice that you have received as a donation will turn into a red-hot particle of iron or a burning grain of sand. Every drop of water you have received will become a speck of molten bronze or boiling excrement. Each thread of the cloth you have accepted will become part of a flaming wire net or white-hot chain.

    Ahh! Hoping to free yourseIves from the press of birth and death you men have your heads shaved. You put on a black robe. But then you make the mistake of falling under the spell of a false teacher. You live out the rest of your life like this as an irresponsible, no-account man of the Way. If you die with your eyes in this unopened state, you are destined for harrowing retribution. You will head straight back to your old home in the three evil paths -- as though you had not suffered enough already! You, who have worn the surplice of a Buddhist priest, will sink to the bottom of a loathsome hellish mire and experience unending agonies. No more horrible fate is conceivable than to fall victim to the delusions these false teachers serve up to you."

    seem harsh? well rightfully so. bear in mind that he did have an excellent sense of humor as well as being practically a saint.
  46. Yes, the Buddha was an elitist
    :rolleyes:
    Oh my gosh, I assure you, that if he seemed this way, it was only to provide sanctuary to those with affinity for the way.
    calling the sakyamuni buddha an elitist (in any sense of the word) is like calling hitler a humanitarian.
    I think he meant in the way that he made the distinction between the skillfull and the unskillful.

    There's a story in the Bible about chicks who needed to take some lamps somewhere, and some of them forgot to bring their lamps. Jesus told them to bugger off. That could be seen as being elitist, but in reality he just didn't have time for the people who couldn't be bothered to behave properly, and to take responsibility for themselves. There's nothing you can teach people who refuse to be taught.
  47. RebeccaS:
    There's a story in the Bible about chicks who needed to take some lamps somewhere, and some of them forgot to bring their lamps. Jesus told them to bugger off. That could be seen as being elitist, but in reality he just didn't have time for the people who couldn't be bothered to behave properly, and to take responsibility for themselves. There's nothing you can teach people who refuse to be taught.
    You've got it. There is no doubt that the Buddha spoke about the puthujjanas (worldlings) and ariya (the spiritual) and explained how they are different. The Buddha was no monk lover either. If you were an ariya who was a mother or just a simple farm dude, you were a member of the Triple Gem Sangha. Not even monks could become members. They had first to be ariya. It all boils down to the spiritually blind vs those who can see.
    The Saviour answered and said to them, "Why do I not love you like her? When a blind man and one who sees are both together in darkness, they are no different from one another. When the light comes, then he who sees will see the light, and he who is blind will remain in darkness. ~ Gospel of Philip
  48. I think he meant in the way that he made the distinction between the skillfull and the unskillful.
    Well, that's true, sakyamuni did explain that people have varying degrees of capabilities and understanding. But he does his best to help people of all skill levels, with various methods of teachings for the various levels of capability.
    You could say that he gives special gifts to those with greater affinity and skillfulness, but to characterize him as an elitist.. it's just not right. Even worse is to go around trying to put people in the box of streamwinner, non streamwinner, etc. We cannot possibly know about the nature of these things.

    Look, all i'm saying is, i'm fairly well read and I consider myself a buddhist and have for many years... I would never ever go around telling people what applies to them and what doesnt, what they can understand and what they cant, whether they are streamwinners or not. All these half cocked modern book salesmen love to encourage you to ingrain all these distinctions.. they love to tell you, a caustic, sarcastic, cynical,, attitude, thats what wins you the most coffee shop arguments, so that is what is the most wise. and more than anything, they love to tell you: "you cannot understand without me, and i have a better understanding because i'm tibetan, or i have a phd or whatever". Doesnt anyone else notice how rotten that is??

    What if someone reads that and thinks, well the 8fold path doesnt apply to me....its only for those who have been ordained by some guru as streamwinners... how horrendous! the noble eightfold path is for everyone. If you are a beginner, NO ONE can close doors for you on this path of enlightenment. No one.. not even a buddha himself. the buddha way is as wide open as the sky. If someone tries to impose some limitation on you, or create some unnecessary difficulty for you on this path.. introduce them to Hakuin, who will bash them with his staff.

  49. ocean, if the eightfold path IS for aryas then why would we hide that?

    Clearly we can practice even if our view is not right view. But we shouldn't pretend. Actually before right view the eightfold path is no different from cognitive behavioural therapy. It is good, but we shouldn't falsely say that it is right view.

    Most of us probably aren't even 'hearers - shravakas' let alone aryas or bodhisattvas.

  50. Clearly we can practice even if our view is not right view. But we shouldn't pretend. Actually before right view the eightfold path is no different from cognitive behavioural therapy. It is good, but we shouldn't falsely say that it is right view.
    well, this makes sense, and i really do understand what you mean here.

    But at the same time, we should take great care not to place limitations on people who are starting on the way. and in any case, it is not our place to say, and it does us no good to draw up such concrete distinctions and hold on to them... and also other people will come to rest on such things even more so than a limited understanding of the the depth eightfold way. do you see where I'm coming from?
    Most of us probably aren't even 'hearers - shravakas' let alone aryas or bodhisattvas.
    please dont look at things this way..., its not like this... this is how labels become impediments

  51. I don't think we should discourage effort into taming the mind. Yet we need to keep purity of teaching. As in fact the eightfold path is the noble eightfold path.

    But it's like some dharma talk where they say to first cultivate bodhicitta. If we could do that we wouldn't need to hear the talk. :lol:

    So the eightfold path is like: do everything right. Is that all there is to it?

    So the eightfold path in some lineages is not the first ground stages and in these lineages it is keeping the purity of the teachings to make a distinction.
  52. I don't think we should discourage effort into taming the mind. Yet we need to keep purity of teaching. As in fact the eightfold path is the noble eightfold path.

    So the eightfold path is like: do everything right. Is that all there is to it?

    So the eightfold path in some lineages is not the first ground stages and in these lineages it is keeping the purity of the teachings to make a distinction.
    I completely understand what you're saying here, i really do. this is a good point. but look, as far as discouraging effort in taming mind, the other side of the coin is, that if you beat it into someones head that there are all these barriers in the way, all these stages, all these definitions, you are really really being inhibitive..for a few reasons, not least of all because you are subtly encouraging the mind to continue labeling and discriminating.

  53. I don't think we should discourage effort into taming the mind. Yet we need to keep purity of teaching. As in fact the eightfold path is the noble eightfold path.

    So the eightfold path is like: do everything right. Is that all there is to it?

    So the eightfold path in some lineages is not the first ground stages and in these lineages it is keeping the purity of the teachings to make a distinction.
    I completely understand what you're saying here, i really do. this is a good point. but look, as far as discouraging effort in taming mind, the other side of the coin is, that if you beat it into someones head that there are all these barriers in the way, all these stages, all these definitions, you are really really being inhibitive..for a few reasons, not least of all because you are subtly encouraging the mind to continue labeling and discriminating.

    But that's the point of the middle path, right? Not too much one way or the other.
  54. The initial steps requires alot of discipline and be clear about what is "right and wrong". Otherwise we'd just be like your average teenager talking about "being opened minded about all experiences".
  55. I don't think we should discourage effort into taming the mind. Yet we need to keep purity of teaching. As in fact the eightfold path is the noble eightfold path.

    So the eightfold path is like: do everything right. Is that all there is to it?

    So the eightfold path in some lineages is not the first ground stages and in these lineages it is keeping the purity of the teachings to make a distinction.
    I completely understand what you're saying here, i really do. this is a good point. but look, as far as discouraging effort in taming mind, the other side of the coin is, that if you beat it into someones head that there are all these barriers in the way, all these stages, all these definitions, you are really really being inhibitive..for a few reasons, not least of all because you are subtly encouraging the mind to continue labeling and discriminating.

    Yeah I see what you mean in my own sangha. I asked my Lama about the 8fold path and she said that it was about the right view, at least what Buddha was talking about. But she pointed out that all of her teaches in the sangha about meditation and cultivating a good mindset for practice mesh with right view.

    We are not only dealing with discouragement to practice, but we are also dealing with people who make some accomplishment and then they become ego-maniacs. So it's important to know that the eightfold path is not just meaning you meditate 30 minutes a day or read some books or whatever.

    And yes the inhibitions (remarks) are valid. My lama doesn't give a list on a piece of paper of all the steps and stages. Rather our teaching comes from our own questioning and the materials talks and so forth are there to ask you to examine your own experience.


  56. But that's the point of the middle path, right? Not too much one way or the other.
    Well actually thats absolutely right.. i mean if you look at the scriptures, you can see that there was balance struck between describing stages and so on and yet not creating more confusion. And after thinking about it a bit, i can see how lack of structure can be bent to be deceptive as well.
    Perhaps i just have a bit of a personal vendetta because i see some modern schools and literature using terms to screw people and subjugate them.. its very disconcerting. I suppose i have forgotten about the 60's where loose and selective interpretation of buddhism created some equally strange monsters.

    :D
  57. I suppose i have forgotten about the 60's where loose and selective interpretation of buddhism created some equally strange monsters.

    :D
    It's damaged the introduction of Buddhism in Western countries is a very great manner. Destroyed many aspect of the teaching that could help people, instead it's hijacked by many wrong views that extends to today to lead people down the wrong path.



  58. I suppose i have forgotten about the 60's where loose and selective interpretation of buddhism created some equally strange monsters.

    :D
    It's damaged the introduction of Buddhism in Western countries is a very great manner. Destroyed many aspect of the teaching that could help people, instead it's hijacked by many wrong views that extends to today to lead people down the wrong path.

    And yet.... many might claim this sort of thing is exactly what is needed; being a natural "evolution" that keeps religions culturally relevant and 'alive'. ::shrugs:::

    As HHDL says, "Just because someone travels a road [somewhat] different than yours, does not mean he's on the wrong road...."

  59. The only way to understand the 8fold path is to live the 8fold path so to say that you need to be such and such before commencing is poppycot.
    Anyone who declares having reached any kind of accomplishment or level of wisdom is a liar. Anyone that genuinely has grown in wisdom would never display the ego to declare it and wave it as a banner of superiority.
    The uneducated person that treats all others with respect and as a teacher is much further along the path than someone who thinks they have a full intellectual grasp of the teachings and then will argue to defend their position is too bound by ego to have moved an inch towards enlightenment.
    Give me someone who delights in a moment of clarity during their meditations over someone who is bound in terminology anyday.
    Metta
    Andy
  60. It's also a matter of personal bias regarding the damage to western Buddhism. To some Trungpa is a patriarch of Shambala organized Buddhism as well as a huge author introducing to even those readers on the fringe of Buddhism. Chalk up Pema Chodron, the author, as a disciple of Trungpas. Between them there must be 30+ books.

    So some people say he was a hero. And then some think he trashed Buddhism because he drank alcohol and was promiscuous and/or is not of their sect/view.
  61. "Give me someone who delights in a moment of clarity during their meditations over someone who is bound in terminology any day. "

    I think I love you, Andy. :thumbsup:


    "Give me someone who listens to me and speaks with me about things, over someone who cuts off my words with memorized scriptures any day."

  62. It's also a matter of personal bias regarding the damage to western Buddhism. To some Trungpa is a patriarch of Shambala organized Buddhism as well as a huge author introducing to even those readers on the fringe of Buddhism. Chalk up Pema Chodron, the author, as a disciple of Trungpas. Between them there must be 30+ books.

    So some people say he was a hero. And then some think he trashed Buddhism because he drank alcohol and was promiscuous and/or is not of their sect/view.
    Im sorry friend. I must do this.
    My brother and I do not hold bias against choygam because he drank or slept around. Rather we have read disconcerting stories about him that indicate that he imposes his will on others, is deceptive, and drunkenly agitates people and runs away calling it wisdom. Being promiscuous is not so bad, but running a sex cult is unacceptable. Drinking is not so bad, but being a drunken asshole is unacceptable.

    His terrible behavior aside, as far as his sayings go, we strongly disagree. The way we see it, he was a predator in the hen house. He could have said just about anything with that robe on and had people follow him at that time and place. His 'wisdom' is a mash up of buddhist phrases, daoist sayings, fortune cookies, and various offensive phrases designed to evoke a simple emotional response. IMO he is a fraud of the worst order.
    I must admit that I have not read volumes of trungpa..mostly because i must hold my nose at even the most brief of his original phrases. It's when he tries to originate his own phrases that we witness monumental stupidity at it's most classical state. The fact that this person has his own cult and following is nightmarish to say the least. I have yet to read or listen to Pema Chodron much, although my brother informs me that the legacy of bullying ignorance has continued there. It requires a great act of courage for me to even read a few sayings of Trungpa, as the foul fecal stench around his 'crazy wisdom' is violently unbearable. I have dealt with street people and violent drunks for 7 years, and I have heard far more insightful phrases from people in the gutter. My assessment as a professional dealing with drunks: choygam is just another alcoholic adult-child bully with a big ego and a bigger mouth and a tiny little brain. My assessment as a collector and admirer of buddhist wisdom: choygam is just a common fake, borrowing phrases and deceiving anyone who is not educated. The things he says about buddhism are often very off. Christian churches are filled to the brim with these types btw.. your pat robertsons et al

    Please friend, I beg you, if you don't want to read the scriptures, read Lin Chi [866 CE,] read Hakuin Ekaku [1686-1769], read Hui-Neng [638–713AD] read Bodhidharma [6th century CE].

    The reason I'm being so mean about this is because my brother and I watched a friend who was just becoming a seeker run afoul of this miscreant choygam and the shambala cult.. by the time we got to him he was so heavily indoctrinated that we could not extricate him despite our best efforts. Over time he has become increasingly unhappy, conflicted, selfish, immoral, and unstable.. to the point where no one wants to be around him. Worst of all, the scriptures are forever lost to him because he now views them as being 'inconsequential'.. or they 'dont apply to this day and age'. Why? Because thats what his teachers told him. Why? SO THEY CAN SELL BOOKS full of trite garbage disguised as wisdom. To hell with these book salesmen!

    In case you're wondering, neither I nor my brother belong to any sect or school or tradition. I love the buddhas words and i dont need an interpretation or framework.

    Im sorry for being so inflammatory, but the truth is that choygam and his foul ilk like to use that nasty sardonic, condescending, shocking method of intimidation. In my experience, the only hope against that vile crap is an unstoppable bulldozer, pushing back the bullies. My intention is not to be offensive to members of this board, and I really mean that.






  63. Yes that's what I meant by bias which by that I just mean opinion. I have read his books and found them quite moving.

    And my teacher says scripture is frozen bodhicitta whereas a guru is living bodhicitta. Is this an issue you have with all of Tibetan Buddhism?
  64. The reason I'm being so mean about this is because my brother and I watched a friend who was just becoming a seeker run afoul of this miscreant choygam and the shambala cult
    I'll add that correlation doesn't prove causality.
  65. If Chogyam Rinpoche is even partially responsible for the teachings of Pema Chodron, which he clearly is, that alone is a great gift to many students. Humans have both gifts and flaws, and life moves on. I'd guess some of Pema Chodron's great gifts, in fact, come from examining both her teacher's gifts, and his flaws. Take what works for you personally, and leave aside what doesn't. Always remember that what doesn't work for you, may work for others; they can decide. We don't need to (and probably shouldn't) decide for them.
  66. I joined this forum a few months ago, and this article was the primary reason why. It spoke directly about some issues in my life at the time and I found that this article helped me gain some perspective on those issues. Thanks, AMH. I'm still working on it! :thumbsup:
  67. If Chogyam Rinpoche is even partially responsible for the teachings of Pema Chodron, which he clearly is, that alone is a great gift to many students. Humans have both gifts and flaws, and life moves on. I'd guess some of Pema Chodron's great gifts, in fact, come from examining both her teacher's gifts, and his flaws. Take what works for you personally, and leave aside what doesn't. Always remember that what doesn't work for you, may work for others; they can decide. We don't need to (and probably shouldn't) decide for them.
    I agree, but I want people to know that not everyone thinks that choygam and his legacy is wise, well informed, or even positive. I have looked through a few dozen Pema Chodron quotes, mostly they seem much the same. . soundbyte machine; condescension intimidation and a very deceptive and circular line of instruction.
    "WE ALREADY HAVE everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement. All these trips that we lay on ourselves—the heavy-duty fearing that we’re bad and hoping that we’re good, the identities that we so dearly cling to, the rage, the jealousy and the addictions of all kinds—never touch our basic wealth. " -Pema Chodron
    Here is a great example; this sounds on the surface to be quite enlightened.. insightful. Actually it's a nice little saying that might help some. But this is not Buddhism, this is not Sakyamuni. And worse it doesnt point back to the source directly..it passes itself off as the teaching of the buddha. Its like a nasty virus.

    The correct way to teach is to say: There is nothing substantial of self, thus nothing which can be improved or left alone. These objects, 'self', 'improvement' and the corresponding negatives 'no-self' and 'non-improvement' are without inherent substance. The descriptions of good and bad are inherently without substance, as well as any object real or imagined that they describe. Basic wealth is this knowledge of self lacking substance.

    The difference between the two paragraphs here is light years wide. One leads maybe to a fleeting, warm feeling, perhaps i little boost of superiority. The other leads to an unimaginable sublime state which defies description.

    Look I just want to direct people back to the more difficult to understand remnants of the aforementioned masters and sakyamuni. I want to provide a little gateway, a little suggestion to examine the old stuff a little closer.. not to give in to soundbyte machines and condescension intimidation.
    If you disagree with me, thats fine. Im not forcing anyones opinion. But these people have had a unquestioned pulpit for years, and this is my little protest.

  68. The reason I'm being so mean about this is because my brother and I watched a friend who was just becoming a seeker run afoul of this miscreant choygam and the shambala cult
    I'll add that correlation doesn't prove causality.
    This is true, it doesnt automatically imply causality. and we considered many factors when we looked at the problems and worsening condition of our friend.
  69. @oceancaldera207, different sects interpret the sutras/oral tradition and Buddha differently all down the line. Chodron is yogacara teacher which teaches buddhanature as something to be uncovered. Shentong - emptiness of other as opposed to rangtong.

    These teachers are bringing a lineage tradition and putting it into english.

    Chodron is of an established teaching lineage.

    The quote is about Buddhanature and shunyata being our basic wealth. In Tibetan Buddhism traditionally the mind is regarded as clear, luminous, and unimpeded. It is how we can follow the path.

    I am sorry that you disregard this quotation, but in any case a lot of people gravitate to both Pema and Trungpa.
  70. Your analysis of the quotation is quite good. But Pema is making an upadesha pointing out instruction. She is showing how to look in your own experience. Kagyu is a yogic practice very much based on a guru. Some other sects of TB are more scholarly like your analysis.

  71. Chodron is of an established teaching lineage.
    THis means nothing. Understanding is beyond, status, sect, lineage, branch, label any other cage these people live in.
    The quote is about Buddhanature and shunyata being our basic wealth. In Tibetan Buddhism traditionally the mind is regarded as clear, luminous, and unimpeded. It is how we can follow the path.
    I didn't simply arbitrarily disregard the quotation. Nor do i arbitrarily criticize the choygam legacy... ie have good reason. I am well aware that this was an attempt to reference buddha nature and sunyata, I'm saying its a train wreck of bad instruction from a well renowned instructor with a questionable level of understanding.

    Did you read what i offered after my criticism? It is in direct correlation to the quote, (which i picked fairly randomly btw)

    I have very good reasons for calling foul here. I'm saying its a lot of cleverly disguised fluff which doesnt accurately represent the principles that sakyamuni left us. All i'm saying is, if you're just beginning, and youre reading this, and you have an affinity
    ; read the scriptures attributed to the buddha sakyamuni. Read them faithfully. Read them all. Have lots of suspicion for so called teachers, renowned or otherwise. Think for yourself.
    I was lucky enough to have this advice early on, and it has served me well.


  72. It's like you can go around criticizing gurus. And this is rhetoric by the way, I mean it is legitimate to ask questions about gurus on a Buddhist beginners website.

    Anyhow you go around criticizing gurus and it's like they all have a home dug well. So you go up to each of their sanghas and say "oh that's well water. Look at the rusty tap".. "I've got a better tap in the emerald city"

    So all the students go off to Oz to meet you at your emerald fountain in Oz. And then they look behind the curtain and see that the water is what's important. What I find in my experience is more important. And if I have a great relationship with a guru, a flowing of samaya back and forth...

    We just all end up as occultists in Oz if we nit pick.
  73. There are five families of Buddhas according to the Jewel Ornament of Liberation:

    Incorrigibles
    Mutable
    Occultists
    Hinayanists
    Mahayanists

    Incorrigibles cannot tell the difference between what is skilfull or not and so they take a long time to be enlightened. Occultists learn on their own. Mutable learn as according to their Guru. Hinayanists and Mahayanists have those respective motivations to practice.

    This is the view of the Kagyu sect which you are criticizing. We can all become Buddhas.

    This discussion boils down to sectarianism and anti-guru rhetoric in my opinion.

    I hope your friend finds comfort from his difficulties!

  74. Look I just want to direct people back to the more difficult to understand remnants of the aforementioned masters and sakyamuni. I want to provide a little gateway, a little suggestion to examine the old stuff a little closer.. not to give in to soundbyte machines and condescension intimidation.
    If you disagree with me, thats fine. Im not forcing anyones opinion. But these people have had a unquestioned pulpit for years, and this is my little protest.
    Serva Mangalam. May those who enjoy your view find the profound wisdom of Hakuin and Shakyamuni.

    I love the story of Hakuin saying "is that so?" when accused of fathering a child.
    A well-known anecdote took place in this period:

    A beautiful Japanese girl whose parents owned a food store lived near Hakuin. One day, without any warning, her parents discovered she was pregnant. This made her parents angry. She would not confess who the man was, but after much harassment at last named Hakuin.

    In great anger the parents went to the master. "Is that so?" was all he would say.
    After the child was born it was brought to Hakuin. By this time he had lost his reputation, which did not trouble him, but he took very good care of the child. He obtained milk from his neighbors and everything else the child needed.
    A year later the girl could stand it no longer. She told her parents the truth - the real father of the child was a young man who worked in the fish market.
    The mother and father of the girl at once went to Hakuin to ask forgiveness, to apologize at length, and to get the child back.
    Hakuin willingly yielded the child, saying only: "Is that so?"[3
  75. The reason I love Pema Chodron's teachings is that they force me to confront my own pleasantly-disguised fluff.

    I don't see how Pema Chodron can be called a soundbyte machine, because I've never heard anyone put things the way she does.

    We can promote our own favorite teachers without denigrating others', I hope. And however bitter one is towards a particular human, it is unfair to extend that criticism to other humans based only on association. We must judge individual behavior--not who's hand someone shook. I shook Ed Gein's hand once. Didn't know who he was at the time, but whatever.

    I see absolutely nothing in Pema Chodron's actions which justify anyone flagellating her for someone else's behavior. She is very open about Chogyam Rinpoche's flaws. Are we as open about our own?
  76. "WE ALREADY HAVE everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement. All these trips that we lay on ourselves—the heavy-duty fearing that we’re bad and hoping that we’re good, the identities that we so dearly cling to, the rage, the jealousy and the addictions of all kinds—never touch our basic wealth. " -Pema Chodron
    Here is a great example; this sounds on the surface to be quite enlightened.. insightful. Actually it's a nice little saying that might help some. But this is not Buddhism, this is not Sakyamuni. And worse it doesnt point back to the source directly..it passes itself off as the teaching of the buddha. Its like a nasty virus.
    I must respectfully disagree. It cannot possibly be a nasty virus to suggest we all have buddha nature; the Buddha himself said we have tathagatagarbha, Buddha nature, the buddha seed. That's her point, imo.

    Westerners--Americans, at least, speaking from experience--are so overwhelmed with guilt and self-doubt that ofttimes we can't even get off the starting block. Her point is that it's unnecessary to drown ourselves in this kind of heavy-duty self-condemnation; this stylish seeking for "self-improvement." She doesn't mean we don't have room for improvement; rather that the Western concept of self-improvement, which means looking outside ourselves, is flawed; the true path to self-improvement is already in our nature. We have to reveal it, not siphon it into ourselves from someone else.
  77. haha
    Right Speech as taught by mum:

    If you can't say something nice ... don't say anything at all.
    haha

    All right, well as always I have taken your viewpoints to heart. You guys are good people and I appreciate you very much. I promise not to be so negative in the future, but I felt that I had a serious bone to pick with these people.. now ive done it, and i'm satisfied. I just wanted to put out some opposition out there, and encourage focus on scripture. Thanks for listening.
    m

  78. Are you experiencing an unimaginable sublime state which defies description?
    image :lol:
    Sometimes yes absolutely. Ive said it before in other threads, but yea, it's pretty amazing. Very very pleasurable really. Thats part of the reason why i'm so adamant about people sticking with the sutras; the payoff is incredible.. and you don't have to be a saint to benefit from them btw. correct understanding is key. despite appearances, the teachings are utterly positive, and they can and will blast you into powerful, lucid, and ecstatic states of a thousand flavors, some of which never really completely go away.big joy my friend. makes drugs look weak.

    And this, mind you, is coming from a person who works a lot, has a girlfriend and has lots of everyday stresses, and not a huge amount of personal discipline...if i can find it, and use it, you probably can too.
  79. Here's another teacher who says basically what Pema Chodron says:

    "Right now, with this very mind and in this very moment, you have the potential for all temporary and ultimate happiness, even up to the peerless happiness of full enlightenment." (Lama Zopa Rinpoche, How to be Happy)

    I think the teaching that we all have tathagatagarbha is clearly a valid one; I'm not sure how it can be construed as false.
  80. "Beginners make the mistake of assuming that right speech, of the Ariyan Eightfold Path, is for them. It is not. It is only for ariyasavakas. Period. Unless your are a current-winner (P., sotapanna) you can't really understand what right speech means. "

    I find this statement dangerously liable to misinterpretation, Songhill. The practice of right speech is for anyone at any level, is it not? The understanding of it is for later, of course, as you say, but these words might be interpreted as the suggestion that right speech can be crossed off the beginner's 'to do' list, which would be an absurd idea. I read it in this way the first time.

    As far as I know it may be true that only current-winners can really understand what right speech means. Only current-winners could know this, just as only a current-winner could know what a current-winner is.

    It seems an uncontentious point though, a bit like saying that we can't really understand the world until we are a Buddha.

  81. The difference between the two paragraphs here is light years wide. One leads maybe to a fleeting, warm feeling, perhaps i little boost of superiority. The other leads to an unimaginable sublime state which defies description.
    Yes Pema Chodron teaches that meditation is not to reach states. In her CD, Pure Meditation, she says 'meditation is not to attain pleausre.....I can hear the shockwaves going through the room and out into the corridor...' She teaches five points that she emphasizes:

    Being a friend to yourself
    Seeing what is there
    Staying with difficult states
    Attending to the present moment
    No big deal

    (I've listened to her CD as my main practice for maybe 3 months)


    Trungpa teaches that there are three Lords of Materialism: Lord of Material, Lord of Beliefs, and Lord of States of Mind..

    The meditation Pema teaches is not Dzogchen but it is 'opening outward into Dzogchen'...

    The present moment is attended to but it is attended to 'as it is' whether it is pain or pleasure..

    Shunryu Suzuki taught that the meditation can be painful, neutral, or pleasurable but the important point was to be there with the meditaiton..


    Me: All of those teachers contradicting your point might give you pause that your understanding of the Buddha differs. I know you are convinced that your way is better, but it is no surprise that others will differ from your own interpretation.

    Soto Zen (Suzuki) and Kagyu Tibetan Buddhism (Trungpa/Pema's) differ in meditation and interpretation of scripture from your own emphasis. These are whole lineages. Appeal to majority is a logical error of course but at the same time I hope you can appreciate the differences and have gentle words to have a discussion. I can assure you that my own teacher, Shenpen Hookham, has studied the scriptures during her time as a nun though of course she only has one lifetime and is not familiar with every piece.

    This is nothing new to have sectarian disputes.
  82. I think the teaching that we all have tathagatagarbha is clearly a valid one; I'm not sure how it can be construed as false.
    Welll, I read your last two points and considered them for a while. I also re-read the chodron quote a few more times...It seems that in the context of the tathatagharba teaching it is not incorrect..we certainly have a very good debate topic here.
    but I still disagree with it.. mostly because it can be far too easily misunderstood, and even in the context of the tathagatagarbha teaching it isn't quite right to say that there isn't any need for self improvement, unless you also explain that expedient means are required to remove the 'kleshas' or deluded mind states (one of which is attachment) that cover or cloud over the tathagatagarbha, or buddha mind. Ie, for gods sake dont fall down that well of 'everything is fine as is'...the kind of thing Hakuin railed against.
    I think a still very legitimate fear of mine is that people see this and dont intuit the deeper meaning..taking it to be another self-help phrase. and there is a very deep meaning here; the storehouse is no small deal, no cheap trinket.
    And I still think that my commentary here is very useful in clarification preventing misunderstanding.. although it may not be perfect either.
    There is nothing substantial of self, thus nothing which can be improved or left alone. These objects, 'self', 'improvement' and the corresponding negatives 'no-self' and 'non-improvement' are without inherent substance. The descriptions of good and bad are inherently without substance, as well as any object real or imagined that they describe. Basic wealth is this knowledge of self lacking substance.
    Anyways, @Sile, i appreciate that you called me to task on this, and I learned a lot from this. thank you.


    Here is the Tathagatagharbha Sutra, which is really a very beautiful text btw
    http://huntingtonarchive.osu.edu/resources/downloads/sutras/02Prajnaparamita/Tathagatagarbha.doc.pdf
  83. If there were a quote button, @oceancaldera207, I would've quoted your worry about the danger that people might brush Pema's words off as a self-help phrase, and said, I agree!

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