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In all likelihood....
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Inserting ‘in all likelihood’ preceding a 'yes or 'no' answer, I find, limits and controls controversy – I have found that this can serve to remove fuel from an argument, to make propositions more palatable and even to curb boisterous energy that can distract from the subtlety of the moment by moment experience.
For example: When I am requested to rest on one side or another, I aim to respond as succinctly and completely as possible with my opinion, when I am required to comment on others' opinion, I am able to circumnavigate controversy by tempering a strictly digital response (which attracts its equal and opposite) by taking out opposition and making the response fuzzy, all that is left is the stark controversy of the initial request for the questioner to explore.
Saying ‘probably’ doesn’t work however – I have tried and it just leads to more controversy as I suppose it sounds indecisive.
Do others have such working mechanisms in place?
For example: When I am requested to rest on one side or another, I aim to respond as succinctly and completely as possible with my opinion, when I am required to comment on others' opinion, I am able to circumnavigate controversy by tempering a strictly digital response (which attracts its equal and opposite) by taking out opposition and making the response fuzzy, all that is left is the stark controversy of the initial request for the questioner to explore.
Saying ‘probably’ doesn’t work however – I have tried and it just leads to more controversy as I suppose it sounds indecisive.
Do others have such working mechanisms in place?
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Best place to be in is the opened relaxed pov. On one level these are just symbols and sounds and beautiful works of art coming together to be projected as language. On another someone is trying to convey something.
So there is alwas an element of truth even in the apparent wrongness. Thus smile and nod. When conditions are right, spontaneous action will occur.
Not sure if this relates to your topic. Too early.
there are two ways to live in this world:
clench your hand as hard as you can. that is samsara.
open your hand and relax. that is nirvana.
buddhism's function and purpose is to make you happy.
Starting to see entities as processes, really loosens the mind.
Starting to not take everything so personally, but start to see the larger picture and the web of causality that is build around self/other.
Just relaxing and staying happy regardless of circumstance.
It is meditation practice, along with correct view which gives stability in resting in open awareness.
The opposite of that is to start a proposition with obviously, of course, or Obama's favorite 'look'. Starting a sentence with these says that you have the truth and you're explaining it to the rest.
If I asked people to send tips on how they meditate I suspect that there would be many suggestions such as sit in a quiet room, make time, sit on a comfy seat, close your eyes etc...
What I am seeking to drive from this discussion are personal tips on meditation and joyful participation with life AFTER we stand up from formal meditation (i.e. to explore how practice bleeds into life and after how practice becomes life)... I suspect that people have little things they do every day that may inspire others to extend their period of meditation...
For example - if I dont agree with something I tend to smile or laugh rather than expressly push my disagreement - those who wish to dialogue will explore ideas in a non-dualistic fashion... those who do not and instead seek support for an entrenched position meet the stone wall of my joy! Saves us all an unnecessary argument!
Personally, I like the @tayakai suggestion to "always come in naked..."
Such crazy wisdom resonates with me when discussing the ultimate absurdity of argument - discord - right and wrong.....crowing like a rooster or barking like a dog come to mind....
Disarming the tension of contention with the inane doesn't always work as planned though - it can heighten tension too....
I don't know....
Waka - waka!
and this is what rituals are for. you can read some scripture for refuge, dedication, and arousing bodhicitta. You can bow or do prostrations. You can do some metta practice for loved ones all the way to enemies. Then expand it to your city. Then to your nation. Then to the whole world. Out into space.
How about if we expand it beyond just avoiding conflict and to every day to day tasks of living...
Like I'm into Marley and spiritual raggae generally - I find the ditties are short, repetitive and resonate with wisdom... throughout the day I will have one tune or other running through my mind and I'll be humming or mouthing the words along (sometimes out and out singing) - it allows the moment to flow naturally free of self intervention...
@Jeffrey - agreed on rituals - I guess you hit the nail on the head - what rituals have people invented for themselves in order to widen their practice to every waking moment - I love bowing and prostrations however not overly practical if you work all day in a suit say...
In other words,
"You might have had a different experience, which may put a contrasting but equally valid angle forward.
I would never assert my comments are written in stone, and accept that others may see matters differently - which is really ok, isn't it?"
'YMMV' is shorter, and more to the point.
I see your point on removing 'but' - very positive... you could also just end the sentence and start a new one - that way you'd have the positive impact of the first sentence remaining stand alone and the second sentence could deal with the next step in its own moment.
By working on your subconscious when awake and on your conscious when asleep it is possible to cancel both out against each other leaving nothing and clarity - this timeless state is infinite and complete.
Unlikely.....!