Meditating on a particular item/topic?
I have seen many references to people saying "I should meditate on it" and I'm curious how that works. I meditate every day, and I have decent success with keeping focused on my breath. But I don't understand how people meditate on something. If I'm having a dilemma I cannot resolve, how do I meditate to possibly come to an answer without all the thoughts about that dilemma flowing through my head? Do you just set an intention prior to beginning meditation, and then meditate as normal with a clear head? Or do you actually think on one particular thing as you meditate?
A friend of mine is involved in an abusive relationship, and I've wanted to meditate on it but all I end up with is my mind going in circles the same way it does when I'm not meditating, which of course does no good :|