Living in the now is affecting my work.
I thought I would like to share a conversation I had at work today with a fellow work colleague. I work in a retail environment, I am a part of a team of 4 regional managers that look after numerous stores, growing and developing young managers. I have really enjoyed my job, but of late I have been judged more and more on my so called lack of importance to attend to matters, and one colleague in particular needed to have a conversation with me today, how he felt that I was being dismissive in some of things he talks to me about or even requests he has asked me to do for him.
During the conservation I was sitting there listening to his frustrations, I was thinking compassionately how he was suffering and I had caused this in some way, which again made him feel I wasnt caring by the way I wasnt showing any real concern. I told him that I needed time to understand how he was feeling and would catch up tomorrow with him again, which he happily has agreed with.
So after processing and reflecting on the conversation I had today, I have realised the way I have become more and more aware of living in the now an not concerning my thoughts with the past and the future is affecting others, unfortunitly not in a positive way.
For example I had said to him 2 weeks ago when he asked who are you going to replace as manager in that store when Chris leaves, I said oh I don't know, I don't think that far ahead, Chris may not leave for another 2 to 3 months, and continued on bringing the conversation back into the now. Then the other day he said we may have to terminate one of the staff members in one of the stores, for making racists remarks, I said with compassion and sincerity oh did he, did he give a reason why he said it. I don't know I haven't spoken to him only heard it from one of the other staff, ok I said maybe we need to make sure it's not just gossip and again bought the conversation into the now.
The last month I have been thinking more and more of leaving my job, it's a very demanding job that has a lot of planning around what the If's. Also the amount of compassion I try and give daily to all my staff, leaves me exhausted and leaves with no compassion for myself or others outside of my workplace.
So am I being dismissive?
Am I being dismissive to his lack of understanding of what is causing his own suffering?
Do I need to elaborate more in these situations?
Would love to here anyone's thoughts or any advise you may have