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The Three Aspects of Equanimity
So I've been reading a book called "Change of Heart-Bodhisattva Peace Training of Chagdud Tulku. So far the book is very informative and have given me some insight into how to have more compassion for other people, and how to keep from becoming irritated at times, and how to keep my mind 'pure' from harmful thoughts. What's great about this is that there are sections (so far) that show a question asked to Rinpoche and he will respond, and it gives more insight into some of the questions I might have had.
But the problem is, the three aspects of equanimity is: the suffering of all beings, who are equal in their desire to find happiness; the kindness of all beings, who are equal in having been our parents; and the essential purity of all beings, who are equal in their true nature. (exactly how it is typed in the book)
Now personally, I'm not quite sure I believe in reincarnation, or the thought that everyone was once our mother or father; but it does give some interesting things to think about. But I personally can't feel compassion, and love for those who do some extreme, incomprehensible things. Such as those in Mexico who kidnap random people and torture them, and mutilate their body, and put fear in the heart of everyone in that country (this was just an example and I will use it until the end of my discussion post). How am I supposed to actually feel compassionate and think "well, maybe their upbringing was in a very harsh environment, and maybe there was no way for them to stay away from the gang way-of-life"? There's no way for me to ever feel compassionate for those kind of people. Not all gang members are like that, and would ever be willing to go as far as doing the horrific crimes that they have committed.
It tells us we need to be compassionate and care for all kind of beings around us, and to understand that everyone has problems and would LIKE to be happy. But those kind of people aren't people anymore in my mind. They're monsters. I don't think there is ANY way for them EVER to be happy and they will forever create pain and suffering as long as they live.
So, is this terrible for me to think this about them? I would LOVE to actually feel compassion and feel that they are good inside and COULD change if ever given the circumstance. I just don't think they deserve it because they've done so much damage to everyone's lives around them. I know that having hatred for even a single person creates more hatred and harm, but it just doesn't feel like I can for them. How would you go about trying to find compassion?
(And as I've stated, that was just an example. I know there are A LOT of things out there that are as terrible as what is going on there, all throughout the world, but I was reading a passage in this book and it made me think about what is happening in that country, and all the people are in a constant state of fear; so I decided to talk about that instance, and I know I said a lot of "but"s lol and that's not a good thing)