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A human being not a human doing!
gracelee
Veteran
Hello everyone,
I always seem to be caught up in getting things done, feeling there is not enough time, running from list of chores to another. I have a lot going on in my life...I am very busy... and I don't want to be!....
I don't want to rush through life and get to the end and realise I missed it all because i was to busy filling out forms!
I would love to hear from anyone who has managed to become more of a human BEING and how you did it?... obviously you can't just stop doing the household paperwork, housework,personal grooming,caring for others, making a living, etc etc etc... so how do you balance it all??
I would love to hear any thoughts....
must dash I've got loads of pointless errands to run.
Cheerio xxx
I always seem to be caught up in getting things done, feeling there is not enough time, running from list of chores to another. I have a lot going on in my life...I am very busy... and I don't want to be!....
I don't want to rush through life and get to the end and realise I missed it all because i was to busy filling out forms!
I would love to hear from anyone who has managed to become more of a human BEING and how you did it?... obviously you can't just stop doing the household paperwork, housework,personal grooming,caring for others, making a living, etc etc etc... so how do you balance it all??
I would love to hear any thoughts....
must dash I've got loads of pointless errands to run.
Cheerio xxx
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She's so annoying. :-)
for alot of things. Managing a household and a group of people.....
try to stay organized and prioritize. Also, give out chores.
Some things will roll
over to the next day. Just accept that. Cost of doing business....hahaha
You can't do everything. Don't take it on as guilt.
I don't balance it....I flow with it. Organization will give the flow
space to happen
What blocks of time can you adjust...and for what?
What is important to you, and how can you dedicate more time to it?
Stress pushes us forward onto the next check box on the list. Where is the joy? Where is the peace? During this check box, the mind is on the list. During the next check box, the mind is on the list.
Drop the list. Look around.
Mindfulness springs to mind!
Now how do you get a moment to moment to moment mind? I think that is where a strong daily meditation practice comes in. Just sitting there for a 1/2 hour a day with in breath, out breath, in breath, out breath. This teaches you how to hold a moment to moment to moment mind. Once you learn the moment to moment mind of in breath, out breath, you can then take that and apply it to everyday activities. So instead of moment of in breath, there is moment of scrub dish with right hand. Instead of moment of out breath, there is moment of squirt shampoo into left hand, etc, etc, etc. My zen teacher gave a dharma talk about this once and he ended by saying "Don't worry, everything will get done".
I guess generally for method one way of expressing it may be, 'consistent mindful application' (the big picture in the little picture?!)
In every activity, there is a like and a dislike - a capacity for attraction or rejection - this is natural - being distracted by the stimulus and / or response is I think the cause of many frustrations and once this is reduced and by understanding eliminated, the task is the task, the breath is the breath and life goes on.
We don't do work we are work, so in a sense, we are human doings (verbs) rather than human beings(noun). We are not humans, we are being human at the moment.
Love what you do because your actions are your only true possessions.
Aldus Manutius was an Italian renaissance writer and printer. He is credited with inventing italics and setting the pattern for publishing as we know it today. His personal motto, Festina Lente - "Hurry up slowly" - remains sage counsel. He captured the motto with an anchor intertwined by dolphins. The rushing dolphins and rugged anchor send a paradoxical truth. True and good progress flows from the gap between impetuousness and procrastination. We are at our best when we make haste and yet don't hurry.
"Though I am always in haste, I am never in a hurry." --John Wesley
I'd rather work my fingers to the bone. At least then I can sleep at night.
You'd be surprised how quickly a terminal diagnosis makes you change your point of view.
Shitty way for it to happen, but maybe I'll master the Six Bardos this time round
In metta,
Raven
In metta.
Raven
eye, ear, nose, tongue, body, mind
of
form, sensations, thought, activity & consciousness.
Getting caught up in things requires an inordinate amount of attention focused on specific sense gate input to the exclusion of all the others. This is unbalanced.
The next time you find yourself caught up in anything, try being mindful of all the excluded sense gate input and you might be surprised at what really constitutes balance........anywhere!
- Stop for three breaths & pay attention. Just three breaths. Anyone can do that. Anywhere.
- Some (not all) things can be left undone or they can be done later. If that allows you to relax & recharge & meditate or whatever you do instead of getting a burnout, that should not be counted as procrastination.
- Take short meditation breaks. Just a few minutes. (I always fail at this one.)
- Look around and notice what's going on around you. Just observe. (Even though 'observe' sounds too much like a verb for this.
Sorry to sound like a cheap online dr Phil.
In zen monasteries they are always keeping things clean and neat, and they do everything with mindfulness. Thick Nhat Hanh has made many gathas for everything he is doing, example:
51 Drinking Tea This cup of tea in my two hands, mindfulness held perfectly. My mind and body dwell in the very here and now.
54 Using the Telephone Words can travel thousands of miles. May my words create mutual understanding and love. May they be as beautiful as gems, as lovely as flowers.
So be mindful in everything you are doing, "her and now" as many other have mentioned in this thread, and your life will not be wasted