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Okay, not really. But because I've been suffering for the past few weeks (my threads involving obsession over women etc. will help you understand why I've been suffering), I have suddenly stumbled upon something - it may be an old truth to some, cliche to others, but to me it makes perfect sense. There are no problems - all problems are created by the ego demanding this or that. I am not talking here of physical problems like disease or disorders like BPD etc. I am only talking about problems an egoistic guy (like me) might have.
When I look closely I see it's only the ego that's creating all these issues - being happy when praised, being unhappy when insulted, being ecstatic when the girl likes you, being disappointed when she ignores you, and so on. Almost as if our mental states are remote-controlled by people and situations. And the ego's dualistic ways are responsible for giving people/situations this remote control. Without ego, no dualism such as "I want praise, not blame, I want to be noticed, not ignored" etc. Without ego, both praise and blame are one. So no fear or sorrow.
This is what I have learned. Not saying my sorrows have disappeared as if by magic. But at least the insight helps me cope. Let me know what you think.
Thanks so much.