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Is It Ever Appropriate To Feel Shame?
Not to be confused with guilt, but shame does not appear to be particularly useful. I am sure many of us can recall hearing statements like "You should be ashamed", but should we really?
The most natural response that would appear to be defensive of shame, would be "should a murderer feel shame". The gut says, yes they definitely should, but what happens when they feel this deep shame? Does it end up helping them to change? Without a doubt, this deep shame would make them miserable. It is a precursor to depression, suicide and other behaviors that would definitely be considered as self-destructive. But is it ever a precursor to extraordinary achievement as well?
Maybe it is. What do people think?