Does she suddenly overwhelm you?

betaboy

Let's say many months or even years ago, you've been through a bad break-up. You now feel you're over the person, and indeed for many months (or at least weeks) you really ARE fine - you don't cry, you don't obsess over her, etc.

And then suddenly when you least expect, she's there - all you can see is her face. You are transported to the past, the suffering is back ... you're overwhelmed. All the things you did during the breakup - the obsessing, the tears, everything - is back. You are confused, not knowing what to do.

Point is, You feel you've had certain issues under control, and then suddenly when you least expect - maybe in the middle of the night or during the day at the office - those issues get the better of you.

Does this ever happen to you? Does she ever catch you unawares? You walk in daylight; she lurks in the shadows. While you are smiling, she's scheming. And when you turn your gaze away, she suddenly overwhelms you. No one can understand her, although many have tried.

Who is she?

Gui

I don't know. But she who is in your mind is telling you to practice seriously.

David

betaboy said:

Who is she?

My self

jae

Desire..addiction

federica

betaboy said:

Let's say many months or even years ago, you've been through a bad break-up. You now feel you're over the person, and indeed for many months (or at least weeks) you really ARE fine - you don't cry, you don't obsess over her, etc.

And then suddenly when you least expect, she's there - all you can see is her face. You are transported to the past, the suffering is back ... you're overwhelmed. All the things you did during the breakup - the obsessing, the tears, everything - is back. You are confused, not knowing what to do.

Who is she?

Clinging, grasping, attachment - all the things you label as 'pessimistic'.
Because as yet, although you've learnt the lyrics, the melody escapes you....

betaboy

federica said:

betaboy said:

Let's say many months or even years ago, you've been through a bad break-up. You now feel you're over the person, and indeed for many months (or at least weeks) you really ARE fine - you don't cry, you don't obsess over her, etc.

And then suddenly when you least expect, she's there - all you can see is her face. You are transported to the past, the suffering is back ... you're overwhelmed. All the things you did during the breakup - the obsessing, the tears, everything - is back. You are confused, not knowing what to do.

Who is she?

Clinging, grasping, attachment - all the things you label as 'pessimistic'.
Because as yet, although you've learnt the lyrics, the melody escapes you....

Yeah, but these are melancholic melodies.

federica

Time the record was changed.... I think.

David

It's an odd parallel... Being sad seems to make you happy.

ThailandTom

Yes and it does happen. Like a boxer keep your guard up

Hamsaka

ourself said:

It's an odd parallel... Being sad seems to make you happy.

One little tweak: "Being sad seems to make you FEEL."

Feel something, anything!

Gassho

Steve_B

Is your goal to escape the wallowing, or embrace it?

taiyaki

You will never know her.

But you can appreciate her.

lobster

Here she is . . .


:wave: :bowdown:

droogiefret

I used to line up all my past girlfriends in my head - that helped me stop obsessing over any particular one. Also, your kind of hurt softens the heart and makes it easier to direct love at strangers as you walk down the street.

DairyLama

droogiefret said:

I used to line up all my past girlfriends in my head -

Was there enough room?

droogiefret

SpinyNorman said:

droogiefret said:

I used to line up all my past girlfriends in my head -

Was there enough room?

Easily