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I want to be more compassionate! What can I do?

I practice metta bhavana just about every day when I practice. I find it extremely useful for lifting my spirit of kindness and noticably makes me more forgiving and peaceful. But I want to know what habits I should pick up that will help me radiate compassion to everyone! I've noticed that if I do something exceedingly compassionate, the evening meditation becomes very smooth and peaceful.
What do you do, even delivering a smile to all whether they're in pain or pleasure, kind or hateful...? How do you incorporate metta in any situation.

Earthninjayagr

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  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    edited January 2016

    By putting yourself in the other person's place.
    "How would I feel if I....."

    Consider not their state, but their feelings and emotions, even those that might be hidden.

    It's the hidden emotions that fuel the behaviour....

    EarthninjaCinorjerKundoyagr
  • lobsterlobster Veteran
    edited January 2016

    @federica advice is the sure fire method.

    I feel the methods [list warning alert] include common courtesy and decency:

    • Be kind (as advocated by Dalai)
    • Be helpful
    • Be generous
    • Be positive
    • Fit in to the mindset, for example listening to a good whinge

    Part of the training is looking for opportunities to practice ...

    Earthninjayagr
  • EarthninjaEarthninja Wanderer West Australia Veteran

    @dooksta123 I like to see the connection between myself and others.
    One thing is understanding that they are suffering. It opens your heart :)
    Metta friend.

    dooksta123
  • reflect every night before bed if you did something compassionate and be happy about that if you did. also reflect on if you missed an opportunity to be compassionate.

    lobsterShoshinmisecmisc1yagr
  • howhow Veteran Veteran

    @dooksta123

    I want to be more compassionate! What can I do?

    Perhaps....

    In this fleeting moment, simply be open to the possibilities of compassion.

    Here, matched to the degree that our conjurings of self verses others stays unsupported,
    true compassion becomes possible.

    ShoshinCinorjermisecmisc1
  • Begin with small steps. Be kind when you find the opportunity. Learn by doing. As you go forward you will probably find your compassion was there all along.

    lobsterShoshinmisecmisc1yagr
  • lobsterlobster Veteran
    edited January 2016

    Well said @grackle we are by nature, nurture and mature inclination compassionate.

    It is a tendency, humanity, basic quality ... Iz more fun!

    Shoshinyagr
  • Will_BakerWill_Baker Vermont Veteran

    Be more compassionate...

    yagr
  • yagryagr Veteran

    @federica said:
    By putting yourself in the other person's place.
    "How would I feel if I....."

    I don't disagree, but for me:

    By putting my wife in the other person's place.
    "How would I feel if she....."

  • drop 'I want to be', you will be more compassionate

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