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Tbh I'm nervous posting this, but I'd really love to talk about it and discuss different viewpoints and thoughts.
I am a transgender (female-to-male) man and I experience body dysphoria. This link has good general information on body dysphoria, then several comments by trans people (mostly trans men).
A lot of the time I feel that my trans identity and struggles don't conflate with my Buddhist practice and ideas. As two important aspects of my life, this is really hard for me.
I don't mind being trans. I've known for years, and its given me so many important insights. But sometimes I feel guilty for having body dysphoria, like if I were a better Buddhist it would go away. The emotional/physical incongruity one feels with dysphoria is something I'll never be able to fully explain but I hope you get a gist of what I'm saying.
How am I supposed to stop identifying with my body or gender if both psychologically impact me every day?
I know my identity (male) is something other than what I was born with (female), and because these feelings have followed me my entire life I know they're true. But is such an arduous process to de-identify with one label, then work to identify with a new label, AND change my body to fit this label, a "Buddhist fallacy"?
I know I was born transgender, and nothing will change that. I will never be able to "give up" being male, and will continue my transition no matter what. I'm just confused about a lot of things.
Buddhist article on being transgender if anyone is interested:
There are more I've read, but I can no longer find them