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This has been a tough thing for me. Basically I don't care what others do and often I am drawn to the psychological side of things of WHY others do things (or why I do)...but I find I freeze and don't know how to respond because I want to let judgement go, but I don't know how.
For instance, I know 2 people who were high school sweethearts & it was a very tumultuous relationship. They've met again & have forged a romance 25 years later. Many are happy for them but I tend to remember the dysfunction and tears. I inwardly cringed when I heard the news. I judged them & it messed with my head.
But I judge often...
When my cancer ridden mother chooses to drink aspartame loaded soda.
When my overweight stepfather eats another dinner roll.
When a couple I meet has a good 20 year span between their ages.
The deep psychological reasons they make these choices, I understand them yet I do not know how to work through this. All of these examples - they have nothing to do with me, I do not care how others choose to live...yet that judgement...it's there. And I'm really struggling with it. I welcome any insight anyone may have, thank you.