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Sex, Lust and Masterbation
Hot topic, eh?
Anyway, I was over at another buddhist web site looking through their forums and was kind of appalled at what I was reading!
There were people there that were talking about feeling lust grow within them, watching pornography and then masterbating. They were also talking about how much this bothered them and that they wish they didn't do this.
Some people fended these feelings off by walking around in their house praying. Some went on long walks in nature. Some practiced forms of self-flaggelation. And I started wondering what is wrong with lust. I know there is a precept that discusses "sexual misconduct" - but I guess I think of sexual misconduct as an act which is sexually wrong against someone else - or with youself in a way that you are treating your body in a demeaning way.
I have no problem with couples having sex. As long as it is done in a consentual manner. I think this includes all types of sex - even homosexual.
I think most of these posts might have been by people that were single. I have no problem with men and women masterbating. Why have people gotten to the point where they define this as being something wrong. Is masterbation sexual misconduct? If so, how? Who is it harming? Why is a natural feeling within us (which is not something that drives us as an outside variable like nicotine, alchohol, etc.) wrong, bad or evil?
There are human conditions that are a part of us like skin and bones. I think it's about as normal to say "I'm not going to have anymore sexual desires" as it is to say "I'm not going to poop anymore."
It's part of us. If it wasn't - we wouldn't be creating hormones. We wouldn't go through puberty. Sexual organs wouldn't change if that's not what they were supposed to do.
I know some Christian religions have made masterbation into something that is wrong. To me, it's about as wrong as cooking an egg. There is no "being" that is being lost in male masterbation. If that were the case, you could say that by being a woman you're killing a life every time you have a menstrual cycle and your body discards an egg.
Some Christian religions make you confess masterbation to members of religious communities that are filled with promiscousness and pedophilia. Which does nothing other than, at the least humiliate someone or at the other end of the spectrum - titilate some pervert.
Even the Dali Lama, when asked, "where did this Buddhist aversion to homosexuality come from?" he said, "I don't know." There was no statement from Buddha that said, "Oh yeah... don't be a homosexual and don't masterbate."
So - after all of that, I'm just wondering what other people thing. What are some of your thoughts about this?