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To understand further what is meant by the unbinding of the mind, it is also important to know that the word upādāna — the sustenance for the fire — also means clinging, and that according to the Buddha the mind has four forms of clinging that keep it in bondage: clinging to sensuality, to views, to precepts & practices, and to doctrines of the self. In each case, the clinging is the passion & desire the mind feels for these things. To overcome this clinging, then, the mind must see not only the drawbacks of these four objects of clinging, but, more importantly, the drawbacks of the act of passion & desire itself.
fivebells;129551 said:Attachment is an ambiguous term.
Invincible_summer;129544 said:How do Buddhists deal with love for family, friends and the goal of non-attachment?
Mountains;129561 said:HHDL has some interesting thoughts (which of course, in themselves don't exist, but that's another story, that in itself, doesn't exist...) on this subject. When I read what he'd written, my confusion about this went away. Now, do you think I can find the article? I know it's here somewhere...
17. Then, when the Blessed One had passed away, some bhikkhus, not yet freed from passion, lifted up their arms and wept; and some, flinging themselves on the ground, rolled from side to side and wept, lamenting: "Too soon has the Blessed One come to his Parinibbana! Too soon has the Happy One come to his Parinibbana! Too soon has the Eye of the World vanished from sight!"But the bhikkhus who were freed from passion, mindful and clearly comprehending, reflected in this way: "Impermanent are all compounded things. How could this be otherwise?"http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/dn/dn.16.1-6.vaji.html
username_5;129618 said:Shutoku,When the Buddha was informed of the death of 2 senior students he remarked that it was as if the sun and the moon had been lost. Clearly there is nothing in Buddhism that encourages a callous, unfeeling nature. Loss is loss and it's painful.This is not attachment as I understand it.It's not a goal to not feel pain at the passing of a loved one. A psychopath might have such a goal, but nobody else would. When one we are deeply interconnected with leaves our realm we are left 'disconnected'. That takes adjustment and will certainly be accompanied by a lot of emotion.Dispassion and lack of attachment do not mean lack of love, compassion or caring. It doesn't make us unfeeling robots.I am just going to stop typing now. I understand your pain with Norman passing and how special he was. I won't share my own pain and story, but please understand I can relate.
Love'N'Peace;129986 said:Shutoku, that's how I love my Molly dog, I can't bear to think what it'll be like without her... Be love an attachment or not, we're stickin with it :)
Invincible_summer;129544 said:Is love attachment?