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  • I wanted to add, I don't think I finished my thought on serious study of Buddhism. Laymen of course can study seriously! I just meant that that type of in-depth, 24/7 study you see from monks is more for them for a reason. Unless you are looking to …
  • I think I tend to be a drifter. Initially, I watched the raft from afar but never got on. then I got on and paddled like mad (but mostly went in circles). Now I drift a fair amount of time. Sometimes I paddle like mad for a while again, then I drift…
  • It's common to be overwhelmed sometimes. Step back, read an easy-read fiction book, watch a non-documentary movie, play a game, etc. Serious study of Buddhism isn't for people who aren't monks. You have to have a life otherwise, too. Eventually Budd…
  • For most people this is a heart-wrenching decision. If all the babies that were aborted in the past, say, 10 years, were to have been born, would that really have been the best case scenario for all involved including the planet when the mom or pare…
    in Abortion Comment by karasti 3:02AM
  • As a sangha we celebrate the Tibetan New Year and Saga Dawa, which celebrates Buddha's birth, enlightenment and death all at once, for a month. Usually around May, as it goes by the Tibetan calendar. For us it's just a time to connect, we usually do…
  • @Kerome Yes, that is my experience as well. That you can find the best response for the situation if you know how to do it. That doesn't, however, mean another person involved is going to be happy with your response. I think when we can operate fro…
  • I am totally grammar police, but I bite my tongue most of the time. It's like fingernails on a chalkboard to me, I enjoy Mondays as well. I like family time on the weekend, but I like the return to my routine when everyone leaves Monday morning. …
  • @federica Indeed, and I think we should all be doing that. Sometimes I do well, sometimes not. I assume, at least in part, you are speaking as being a moderator here? It is hard. I moderate a few local FB selling pages (and have moderated other pla…
  • I don't think the teachings are judgmental, but our perception can make them seem so. Our world is dualistic by nature. It is pretty hard to explain things without using dualism to do so. But we can sense that that is not the only way, and we can wo…
  • @Bunks For aspie kids (I'm sure you know already) there is a lot of associated discomfort with crowds or groups of people. It often causes a spike in body temp, noise, smells, all the things aspie kids tend to want to avoid because they feel and se…
  • Yes, we are the culprit. The internet, and pretty much everything else, are just tools. But I think most people know this, and when they say "social media is to blame" they are talking about the complexities of all the people using social media. Not…
  • It is not meant to be taken literally, though some teachers do put it forth that way. Mine does not (neither do other teachers I have been on retreats with). My teacher is Vajrayana but we spend a lot of time discussing Bodhisattva-hood. It is a way…
  • @Kindhumanbeing why do you think it's pessimistic? Death is a part of every moment of our living. That doesn't mean we don't embrace life. But part of the reason we do so badly at dealing with death is because we refuse to face and accept it. Many o…
  • "the most difficult thing about being a vegetarian is the meals." That totally cracked me up I'm not vegetarian, but I'm about 75% veggie these days. I eat dinner with the family because entirely different menus just isn't doable. But I eat veggi…
  • Well, it IS a Buddhist forum. Inevitably, other topics come into play as we talk about our daily lives. But primarily, Buddhism and related things is what we tend to talk about. As far as dating, Buddhists really are just other human beings Thei…
  • ^ What she said.
  • We live in a very small rural town, I am quite close to a lot of family and neighbors, so I don't worry about loneliness. We spend quite a bit of time with people, and know everyone we live around. However, the internet is the only way the school, c…
  • I think there is a different understanding that they are brought up with that takes a while to learn, especially comparing Eastern families to Western ones. The way they understand Buddhism is just different because of how they view the mind in thei…
  • I cleaned up my FB during the election. It might not be meme-worthy to say I got rid of everyone who didn't fit my requirements, but I did. It is mostly family and close friends I rarely see, and a few Buddhist and yoga friends. I got rid of the cla…
  • You can't take them back but you can get better about verbalizing them, yes. You can, of course, make amends where necessary. But it does no good to apologize for something you have no intention of correcting. If you say something you later feel nee…
  • I get a mini-retreat every school day, as my kids are all in school and husband is at work. I do yoga and meditate and read and take baths and drink tea and spend time making nourishing food. When 3pm comes and everyone comes home, it's back to the …
  • It does seem like there are people who have "been around the block" a few more times than others. They respond and view the world differently in spite of the typical external influences. But it seems to me just another way to elevate people or ourse…
  • I think sometimes when we focus too much on our "desires" we start to get confused on which are ego-driven pleasure desires, and which are needs. Human beings have needs and it's been shown in many studies that to go without fulfilling them (which o…
  • There is nothing Buddha knew or did that we cannot also know or do. He wasn't magic. He just figured out how it worked for him and told others that maybe his way would work for them, too. There's no reason we can't figure it out for ourselves, we ju…
  • @Jayson the Radical Compassion one is put out by Shambhala Publications. I have it on my kindle so I got it on Amazon along with the prison one (wasn't sure which one you meant). I think both are available in normal book form too. The first one woul…
  • @Tigger I think it's hard everywhere, when a whole culture of a city or country is contrary to your own belief system. But there are lots of people out there who share similar views. You just aren't going to find them by participating in the parts o…
  • Another one I have found useful is a collection of different authors and their take on putting compassion into action. "Radical Compassion." It is a book that was put out for Naropa University's anniversary and they use it in teaching some of their …
  • I just live my life. Our desire to think there is a deep and inherent meaning to life is all about our ego wanting to think it is important. I don't know if there is a meaning beyond my time here, today. There might be. But it'll be a while before I…
  • @Tigger the entire US is that way and quite a lot of people still manage to be in relationships. Maybe because we accept we are all like that instead of assuming we are all the one person who is different and everyone else is simply unacceptable (on…
  • I've never seen anyone say you have to choose one within Buddhism. I've seen people say you can't easily choose 2 different religions, but people do it. Whatever works for you. Everyone has different ways of learning that work best. For those that l…
  • Even though there were challenges and some hard times when my parents split up, it was the best thing they could have done in the end. We all made it through and I think we are all happier for it. They are both with partners that have a lot to add t…
  • Happy birthday @silver! I always wonder what the world would be like had he, and others, lived much longer. Shaun King reminds me a bit of a Malcolm X. So perhaps they haven't given up on Samsara yet!
    in MLK Day Comment by karasti January 16
  • It is really hard when relationships end that are so wound up in every aspect of other people. Even though they are between 2 people, they really often involve the whole family, which is hard! Just something to keep in mind as either of you start da…
  • @Bunks no need to be sorry! I didn't mean to suggest you were like my dad, not at all. I'd never think that is how you were. My dad and I have a great relationship now, we did a lot of work repairing it and are very close. I just wanted to make sure…
  • @David, I saw your message that was deleted, and I have to say I found it rather rude as well. There is just no reason to be antagonistic and say things like "Don't like what I said? TFB." Sometimes, there are just things that are misunderstood, esp…