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I know how most people let things go, they watch entertainment on the phone and funny things on youtube/facebook, its just to sweep it under the carpet, out of sight out of mind :P
Spot on! And as good Buddhists, our challen…
How solitary will you be? I assume you'll still need to do a trip to the supermarket occasionally? What about distractions? Will you be on the internet? Television?
I look forward to hearing how it goes.
In the monastery I stay at occasionally…
It's funny how nobody boldly says, I am an atheist.
Pffff...you want to come and have dinner with my ex wife and father some time. Two more anti religious out spoken atheists you'll never meet!
Nice post @Shoshin - have had similar experiences recently in meditation. The thoughts are still popping up but not able to pull me away from the object of meditation....it's a nice experience and place to get to.
Stop watching the news.
Stop watching television at all if you can.
Don't mindlessly surf the junk that makes up most of the internet.
Seek out the goodness in the world. And there's plenty of it.
As the Buddha said, "It is…
Sounds like you are I are similar @Kerome - I always feel like I am going to let people down and it causes me anxiety.
Not sure if it's related but, like you, I moved around a lot as a child.
I am getting better though.... slowly finding mysel…
I just looked at my horoscope:
Your sensitive heart may be touched by anger today, Sagittarius. Don't be afraid of hurting other people's feelings as you express this emotion. You'd be doing yourself and other people a disserv…
I just looked at my horoscope:
Your sensitive heart may be touched by anger today, Sagittarius. Don't be afraid of hurting other people's feelings as you express this emotion. You'd be doing yourself and other people a disservice by not revealing…
I was just thinking along similar lines @IronRabbit - it's amazing how many times in a normal day somebody does something nice for us and we hardly notice.
But if someone is rude to us or does the wrong thing, we kick up a fuss and stew on it (so…
@Bunks, yeah I've experienced that, however I heard from a teacher that if the mind was purer their would be no joy, just a calm appreciation.
That's not what I have heard.
A Mahayana teacher said when someone realises…
If you're articulate and game enough, another thing you could possibly look into is teaching the Dhamma online or at meditation centres?
There are lay people out there making a (fairly modest I'd expect) living this way.
Good on you @Kerome.
I have thought along similar lines a bit over the last few years.
But my latest idea is that if I keep working in the (relatively) high paying IT job I have now I cann save more money so retire earlier to spend the rest of…
I'd say use it yourself, for the Buddhist adventure - it's unavoidable anyway - you are a Buddhist or Buddhist-leaning. You might find someone to meditate for. Just a way of meeting others. In casual conversation with someone, yo…
No, not conditional. However I'm sure they'll assume I'll use it.
Having said that, I have decided to give it to my ex-wife's best friend who has been going through a particularly hard time lately. Her and my ex can have a girl's night and stay t…
Thanks for your input guys!
@karasti is right - the very fact it keeps coming up is probably a good sign I am not really comfortable with some of my life style choices at the moment.
I'll keep looking into it.
@Bunks said: ....But I am unwilling to stop at this stage.
That, right there.
That's the Key Comment.
THAT'S the one which carries every aspect of both the precept and The EightFold Path.
No offence at all @karasti - I always appreciate your thoughtful comments.
I am not entirely convinced it's right myself.
But I am unwilling to stop at this stage.
Who knows, I may change soon. I have certainly changed quite a few behaviour…
Hi @karasti - I should add further that I have taken the five precepts and I intend keeping them as best I can.
I have given up alcohol completely for some time now and am trying to keep the others.
I suppose, as you say, it's up to me to deci…
I know I am harping on a bit about it but I do struggle with the idea that as a single person I should stop having sex.
I am happy to openly admit I sleep with sex workers (it is legal in Australia) fairly regularly. And there are times when I fe…
Should the Middle Way also apply when it comes to sexual misconduct...?
Avoid the two extremes...
Find a happy medium
I actually don't really understand what you mean.
If I went to a monk and said "Hey, I…
Just to add to the confusion:
What about a single person sleeping with a prostitute?
The vibe I got from some interpretations of the third precept is that if you're single you should be celibate.
Not sure how I feel about that......