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  • @Kundo said:As a mother, I put my children's wellbeing ahead of my happiness on a daily basis. From the rest of your post, I am leaning toward believing that your children's well being IS your happiness.
    in Being Happy Comment by yagr January 29
  • @federica said: ...And let us not forget the variant spelling (if not pronunciation) of terms in Pali and Sanskrit... Moderator (P) Terminator (S) I have an strong aversion (working on it) to wasting coffee. Even more so when …
  • @lobster said: It's not a matter of choice. We can choose to enable the conditions under which the choiceless is more likely to unmanifest ... The choice is ours. As the lottery commission sez, "You can't win…
  • I remember explaining it like so (many, many years ago): It was like someone had written the Dhamma on my heart, in a font just beyond my ability to make out more than the occasional letter but once it was blown up to Times New Roman font number twe…
  • @Buddhalotus said: @yagr said: Enlightenment in one lifetime? Is there any other way? Seriously? But here and now, at least, you can work on your cessation of dukkha. Is there any other time or place? Many…
  • Enlightenment in one lifetime? Is there any other way? Seriously?
  • @federica said: The most potent word in the English language, is, apparently 'If', so Kipling and the Spartans would have us believe. They make a compelling argument. The most potent instruction in the Buddhist Dhamma is 'Let Go.' Beat…
  • @Linc said: My brain works differently than a lot of folks, and that can turn into really big problems for kids that don't have so many advantages early on. Well, and therein lies the point I was hoping someone else would address. Nothi…
  • @Shoshin said: “No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it is not the same river and he is not the same man.” –Heraclitus Favorite movie is the Circle of Iron w/ David Carradine, written by Bruce Lee. His char…
  • @Dakini said: Maybe worrying about what's holding "you" together is "wrong focus"? Maybe the existential crisis, is your ego feeling threatened, and making a desperate attempt to survive your attempts at realizing that it's an illusion? You k…
  • @federica said: @yagr said: ...Science tells us that every cell in my body has died and been replaced every seven years so it's a good starting point for me... At the risk of blinding you with research and hijacking the thr…
  • Another thought that I take for granted in my own thinking, but forget that others don't accept it as a given... I don't think of time as linear. How this affects your question is that he may have zeroed out the karmic debt long before he lived …
  • @stapeliad Is that the story about the cow that cried? Love that story! If so, it is my understanding that it is true - whatever that means. Anywho, who is the murderer? You know what...I'm starting another thread because this one is about to…
  • Sounds like a good test for someone with multiple personalities... INFJ
  • Well, Shoshin, you know better than most that right speech has a number of components; truth is but one of those. If it is the only component of right speech present, then that is an excellent time to remember that when one's words are no better th…
  • I am, perhaps, the last person on this site you should believe - along with everyone else and the Buddha but... In answer to your question, "How would the Buddha act..." I suspect the Buddha wouldn't act - he would simply be the Buddha.
  • In a past life, I did not value myself. Today, I am worthy of love.
  • @Dimmesdale said: @yagr said: @Dimmesdale said: I disagree with the adage that hate cannot be driven out by hate. It can. Well, unless the hate is an unreasonable hate, in which case I agree. …
  • @Dimmesdale said: I disagree with the adage that hate cannot be driven out by hate. It can. Well, unless the hate is an unreasonable hate, in which case I agree. Could you give me an example of reasonable hate, please?
  • While the folks here have described alcoholism and addiction very well in terms of societal norms at the moment, I have a different take which I offer as food for thought maybe - certainly not to sway anyone or argue. As I mentioned above, I have…
  • Also an alcoholic/addict...26 years clean.
  • You saved me some typing @lobster, thank you. I'm not sure whether to be terrified or ecstatic that I'm starting to think like you. Either way, an extra session this week with my therapist couldn't hurt.
  • So many times, I wonder how HHDL manages to keep a straight face during some of the 'suppose to be serious' moments. This is one of those times.
  • @lobster said: > There I was - this is a true story, lost before breakfast. I had already missed a night bus by one minute, it was two minutes early and empty. Pah! Good luck? Bad Luck? Who can say? Not quite sure where…
  • @federica said: @Vimalajāti said: Suffice to say, wisdom and practice are two wings of a bird, and a bird cannot fly with one wing. I heard it was Wisdom and Compassion.... But I could be wrong. Surprisingly, it wouldn…
    in Maximum Tao Comment by yagr October 2018
  • @Lee82 said: To think people used to be able to smoke in bars, restaurants, offices etc! These days I'll cross the road just to avoid passive smoking, can't stand it. My pediatrician used to accidentally drop hot ash…
  • @Kerome said: There is an interesting initiative called Half Earth which is an effort towards establishing half the earth as wildlife preserve, called for by the biologist E. O. Wilson. Wouldn't this be akin to a peeing section in a pool?…
  • @federica said: > 'No thanks'. "No" is actually a complete sentence, @federica is just being generous with the whole 'thanks' bit.
  • I tell people that I am allergic to alcohol, that I break out in handcuffs. Humor goes along way toward disarming people.
  • @lobster said: In Buddhism kindness does not start with pleasing Almighty Cod (or some fishy Allah type uber-lawdy) but ourselves. How to be kind to that little ego insignificance? I would suggest compassion ... Could you pleas…
  • @Vimalajāti said: > What finally got you to quit smoking? What was your first step away them cigarettes? Not what, but who. You and this post, thank you very much. I wanted to offer some advice but was unable to because I …
  • @Dakini said: @yagr said: Well, while I understand that daily fluctuations does not equal climate change, I'm a few miles from the Canadian border and we are looking at 108 degree (42C) today and 106 tomorrow (41C). Wh…
  • Well, while I understand that daily fluctuations does not equal climate change, I'm a few miles from the Canadian border and we are looking at 108 degree (42C) today and 106 tomorrow (41C).
  • @lobster said: Mindfulness applied to hunting ... Well, to clarify, we were stalking for reasons other than hunting...
  • @lobster said: > How many of our battles are dead fish? How many aren't?
  • He who knows...
  • I was trying to keep this general, but it appears that my question was too vague to be of much value. Over the years, I have found many maladaptive beliefs that I hold. I have found it useful to go back to the origins of those beliefs and examine …
  • I use sweetgrass and sage.
    in Do You Smell? Comment by yagr May 2018
  • On May 10th, I celebrated twenty-six years clean and sober and during that time, I've come to view treatment facilities rather negatively. When I first cleaned up (the first time) it was 1978 and treatment centers were few and far between. In my a…
  • @Tsultrim said: We're all just canaries twittering in our cages. In the relative world, it's mostly money that gets to talk. This reminds me of a quote from The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams. I'm going from memory so t…
  • I remember picking up my then six year old daughter at an after school program one day and she tried to point out her new friend playing in the middle of a gaggle of kids. "The one wearing jeans." I think one of the kids wasn't wearing jeans, …