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  • Death...piece of cake. Life...are you ready?
    in Death Comment by yagr August 12
  • While we are on the subject...who gets to choose how much thinking is normal? Been told I over-think things all the time. Must admit, usually told to me by people who I believe, under-think. I then realize that I have a subjective opinion of wh…
  • @karasti said: So when you said now that we know, we can address the problem, I'm curious what you have in mind? How do you address it? As a country, we thought we had in the past, but it only resulted in pushing those people down until condition…
  • There are some good things about the Trump presidency. Yeah, that's right - I just said that. There are some very ugly things about this country that for the most part are covered up, ignored, and marginalized. They are now front and center. …
  • Hi federica! Participants for the ACE test were recruited between 1995 and 1997, certainly recently enough in my estimation to acknowledge female abusers. Here's a link to the questions: http://kindredmedia.org/2015/03/whats-your-ace-adverse-chi…
  • @karasti said: I read a great article yesterday on addiction, and a doctor who works with the center for addiction studies and is treating the link between addictions of all sorts (including sex, internet, food and of course drugs and alcohol…
  • @person said: **Are the teachings of Buddha and the way they've been passed down 100%... 99% true? **Or should we apply scientific skepticism to the teachings (especially cosmological teachings) and say that they are untested hypotheses? …
  • @karasti said: If it takes a lay person 500 lifetimes, how many does it take a monk? And isn't it safe >to say that a monk probably isn't a monk all those lifetimes, just as a layperson isn't >solely a layperson for 500 lifetimes? What if t…
  • @Kerome said: A job is about money, but what is the worst case? Living on the streets in ten years' >time? I have land that you can grow a garden on and a trailer you can live on if it comes to that. Find something else to worry abou…
  • My trauma therapist asked me to come up with three beings - a person, either real or imaginary (character from a tv show or from literature, etc), or animal that I would want in my corner as part of a team if I didn't feel safe. Ajahn Brahm was on …
  • @yagr said: * not so much in how we treat women and minorities, but how they treat and think of themselves. One more thing to add on this thought. I belong to two forums - this one and a mental health forum where I interact wi…
  • @karasti said: Yes, we still seem to have a problem with accepting in some circles that women can be leaders. I am writing, although these days most of that writing occurs in my head, about the characters in a story I shared here (The Ma…
  • Fortunately we have @federica to do some extreme vetting. (Can one be banned for comparing our illustrious mod with the Trump administration?)
  • Wait. We let Canadians in here?
  • I think the realization, while doing the dishes maybe twenty-five years ago, that I was truly present a moment before the realization and that the experience cleared up so much theory.
  • Despite decades of practice, I find that I have not improved significantly in foretelling the future. What I have learned is that for every hopeless situation I have been in, an exit has appeared. Trump will be no different. In fact, it is quit…
    in Trump Comment by yagr June 6
  • If anyone saw and remembers villainous Biff from Back to the Future 2, you may be interested to know that he was modeled after Donald Trump. https://www.theguardian.com/film/2015/oct/23/back-to-the-future-writer-bad-guy-biff-was-based-on-donald-t…
    in Trump Comment by yagr June 4
  • I have been to about a dozen counselors over the years, though that number is just a knee-jerk guess and I suspect that it would be higher if I actually got serious about counting. I have had a total of one with whom I've had a good relationship; m…
  • @Bunks said: A young girl I work with came in to the office this morning sporting a black eye. She stood in front of a young Muslim girl who was being verbally assaulted by an older woman for what happened in Manchester, and copped a punch…
    in MANCHESTER Comment by yagr May 25
  • Wish I could wish for the welfare of all equally, but my thoughts were on NB members first. Hope all are safe.
    in MANCHESTER Comment by yagr May 23
  • @karasti said: The author claims we need purposeful activities. But what determine that that is? I find >more purpose sitting in the sun with a book than I ever did working a job. We have the freedom to determine what purposeful means. Right n…
  • @karasti said: @Nirvana in my son's case (not speaking for @yagr) there are things he WANTS to do but cannot conceive of how to do them himself nor can he follow directions. His resentment is not the directions themselves but his inability to fol…
  • @Dakini said: I think Sherman Alexie should base a character in one of his novels on @yagr. There's some great coyote material there, and lots of food for thought about Life. That is one movie I'd really enjoy seeing. Thanx for shar…
  • @Dakini said: P.S. Have you ever tried counting cards at a casino card game, to win big cash? I was one of the last people who got blacklisted from blackjack in Vegas back in the day. These days they 'flat-bet' yo…
  • @karasti said: But he cannot follow a 5 step mac cheese recipe I sent him because it is not as structured. It is a challenge, for sure, but I have learned a lot by learning how to attempt to see things from his point of view. Ironically, …
  • @Dakini said: Most of what you describe--choosing a response based on effectiveness & what you want to achieve--is the essence of "skillfull means" in Buddhism. Congratulations! You're well on your way as a practitioner. Thanks for re…
  • @Wheel - Hello, not sure we've met before, good to have you here. I have PTSD and DID. I've done quite a lot of work, taking help from whatever modality was helpful. Buddhism however, played a starring role. For me, help comes from knowledge. U…
  • @Dakini said: @yagr You should get treatment for your unresolved PTSD relating to your prison time in Russia. Or the hospital time, whatever it was. I wanted to respond to something in this but wanted to check it against right speech an…
  • @grackle - Absolutely (re: leaving the hospital AMA). Not being able to close my eyes for days at a time until I'm gone has it's own consequences though. @Dakini - I am working with a trauma therapist. She is not my first, but she is the first …
  • @karasti said: I just don't get it @yagr. I wish there was a way for you to live in a place that could be more helpful. Of course, I don't know where you live but its amazing the differences between states in what they make available and how help…
  • @federica Actually, already diagnosed with this too. Laughable isn't it?