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  • To add on, I don't think neglecting my looks stems from a place of insecurity - rather, it's more of a 'look at how vain and showy you used to be and all the trouble that got you into; let's stay away from that for now'.
  • @DhammaDragon I am quite secure with how I look, and I am not unattractive. If anything, I am more insecure about my knowledge on Buddhism, what I should and shouldn't be doing as a 'good' Buddhist, which is why I felt compelled to post on here a…
  • @karasti thank you for sharing your experience. I am for sure, far from the point where I am free from expectations or needs, and I suspect I would be miserable in an attempt to do so, so for now accepting that I have these needs and expectations wi…
  • Hi again everyone. I have had a rather rough day today grappling with my emotions, but your kindness, concern and support (although sympathy is the last thing that I need right now!), has made everything this much easier to bear. Especially given ho…
  • Oh no no, there's nothing medical about this. It's just a beauty treatment using 'intense pulsing light' that removes hair from the body eg. leg hair, underarm hair, hair in the nether region etc. It's a 2 year process and a requirement is we should…
  • Hi again everyone. Thank you all for taking the time to respond. Forgive me for not being able to address all of the comments, because I'd prefer not to divulge too much on something of such a sensitive (to me) nature. However, the replies in this t…
  • @lobster said: One of our regular dakinis @DhammaDragon has a 'relationships' forum with https://insighttimer.com Good place for relationship advice Meanwhile ... One of the great women Sufi Bodhisattva/saints (sorry could not f…
  • @Kerome said: Relationships are give and take... I don't think it's breaching a precept to dress more sexily or use makeup, so if it were me I'd probably just go along with it. But these things are individual and you have to go with what feels ri…
  • @tintran said: Now whenever i have nightmare-ish kind of dream where i am afraid for my life, in the dream, i suddenly remember to chant Amida Buddha's name and chant for 5 or 6 times and I end up waking up from the dream. I hope this is a sig…
  • @Dakini said: Is she an only child? If not, then the filial piety role will be covered by a sibling. Also, it's important to keep in mind that the decision may not be permanent, i.e. not life-long. And even in Asian cultures that are more m…
  • Hello all, I thank all of you for taking the time to leave your comments here. I've gained some wise insights that I wasn't able to figure out on my own. Thank you all for that. If ever my niece should come to me for advice, I shall convey your thou…
  • @grackle not possible The monastery is located overseas, so it's pretty much an all or nothing situation.
  • @grackle I'm not sure about the details. I only managed to speak with her briefly about this. As of now, she is bidding her time and waiting to see how this will all unfold.
  • @federica yes it is, and it's all too deeply ingrained for them (the family) to do much about it. Ironically, they are Buddhists themselves.
  • Perhaps my question should be: from a Buddhist point of view, what should the best course of action taken by my niece be, so that it is compassionate to both parties involved?
  • @genkaku i see both sides of the story, and thus a conflict is born
  • @federica Nothing rude about that I have little influence over their respective decisions, and I don't really intend to interfere. I am asking to sort out thoughts that I have of my own, on this matter. Thank you for sharing your opinions. To an…
  • Hello @DhammaDragon Have always wanted to say this - I love your name! (And I'm a Scorpio too ) Thank you for your advise. I did in fact, try to write freely (though it wasn't Immediatly after a meditation session). I did so today and yesterda…
  • @federica thank you. I've just realized, after reading through everything, that I've been throwing around the term "Buddhism" a lot, and I seem to be using it as a crutch. Time to start looking deeper inwards...
  • @Cinorjer I hear you on that I am unwilling to write stories that are of the horror genre, or of a disturbing nature. Because I am a romantic at heart, my stories are always romance centered. I have a strong theme of 'good triumphs over evil', and …
  • @mockeymind Thank you! I believe so too. @yagr I can see why you found that funny, It made me chuckle too Making adjustments to the story in order to facilitate it's growth - that's a helpful tip. It's very possible that I'm struggling becaus…
  • However to give a slightly different take on this...I am a trained artist and illustrator, and I create art both for a living, and as a hobby (as with writing). There was a period of time when I was creating art pieces not for art's sake, but for an…
  • @genkaku My reply might have come across as brash and I apologize for that. I didn't mean to be nonchalant, and I do take the input that you gave me seriously. Thanks again.
  • Or at least, the understanding that I derived from various sources, on my own, contradict each other.
  • @how Thank you. You've addressed something that I've been pondering for a long time. Seems like this might be a whole new topic altogether and I might create a separate thread for this. I think I might have been confusing myself, because I picked up…
  • @karasti Ah I see! I was wondering what @yagr meant. English isn't my mother tongue, so I thought I might have said something weird Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I debated posting for quite awhile, and I'm glad I finally did. There's a si…
  • @vastmind It's a pleasure to meet you too
  • @genkaku I've always been practising in solitude, so to be hearing advice right now is definitely useful and very much appreciated. Thank you for your words. I'm not too concerned about readers, because as of now, the only readers I have are my p…
  • @SpinyNorman It's comforting to see that I'm not alone on this. Thank you. Although nope, I don't intend to switch to writing non-fiction, or a journal, at least not right now. Fiction has always been my thing
  • @Cinorjer Thanks for sharing your experience and your thoughts on creativity. It's very insightful, and a helpful referral point for me I do have a concern that if I'm not careful, I'll slip up (lack of mindfulness), and fall back into my previo…
  • @lobster Thank you! Sounds like a plan
  • Thank you lobster. It's very helpful that you've laid out the paradox in such a way that I can see it clearer now. I'm starting to realize that this is serving to propel me to the next level of mindfulness practice. To discover new ways of inco…