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ajhayes Veteran

Knock on the sky, listen to the sound.


Northern Michigan
Last Active
Northern Michigan
Languages Spoken
English, some French, some Spanish


  • I may have gone for the classic "nod and smile" approach. I find myself using that a lot when I don't know what to say, particularly when someone makes a really outrageous claim that I know isn't rooted in reality. HOWEVER It could be argued t…
  • I'm not. I don't know what is out there, I think there has to be something. It can't be proven or disproven, so, it's irresponsible to say one way or another. I'm sure I'll find out someday.
  • In the absence of a Sangha, I put my trust in all of you to fill that void. I appreciate the humor and wisdom. Thanks everybody.
  • I generally trudge. There is a certain nobility in trudging. Al Bundy (Married: With Children) is a wonderful example of the nobility of trudging. As we plod along, shoulders slumped in defeat, face downward, each step agonizingly long.. We realize …
  • Is "I don't know" an acceptable answer?
  • @Hozan I think we got all of your rain in Northern Michigan, USA. Can we please send some to you? It's very soggy here.
  • @Kerome said: You probably mean "The Big Lebowski", which is a fabulous film http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0118715/fullcredits It is the rug that ties us all together.
  • "To practice Zen Buddhism is to train oneself to eliminate hatred, anger, and selfishness and to develop loving-kindness toward all." -Thich Thien-An But, sometimes that is a very lofty goal. I've found that if I sit and try to just be, it's a g…
    in zen Comment by ajhayes July 9
  • I thoroughly enjoy his talks. I think he's very wise and funny at the same time.
  • A bow and a crisp high five to all of you.
  • I've always found that my thinking is much more clear after a good workout (running in particular). I'm also very mindful when I work out, all of life's troubles and other nonsense just float away as I am fully experiencing the moment. Certainly …
    in Monk health Comment by ajhayes June 13
  • @Hozan said: Im not sitting on the fence here. I utterly reject trump and what he stands for. Today he pulled the US out of the Paris agreement on climate change. He is a petty, vindictive, small minded man and one man shouldnt have the power to …
    in Trump Comment by ajhayes June 12
  • It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.
  • I really, really love it when my 4 year old tells me to "just breathe, dad. In through the nose, out through the mouth. You'll be fine."
  • Thanks for all the words of wisdom. I read a bit last night then sat in my naughty corner and thought about it. I'm fairly well settled, management has our backs and my kids were all snuggly last night.
  • @karasti what complicates matters is that it is management from the other section that is a part of the problem.
  • I like the Detroit Tigers (for Baseball), Toronto Maple Leafs for Hockey, and I just enjoy watching Football (proper football, not handegg) and rugby. My favorite sport, however, is pro wrestling.
    in Sports Teams Comment by ajhayes May 8
  • Welcome back. Nice to meet you.
  • I have 2-3 cups of coffee in the morning, then it's tea and water for the rest of the day. The coffee snaps me out of the fog of my meds and the actions of baby twins all night.
    in Coffee ??? Comment by ajhayes April 13
  • I am merely an illusion
  • I'll have to check that out.
  • I enjoy the Twitter Machine™ Sometimes my hippie views are mocked by "more (western) civilized minds" but, no sweat off my back. As long as I can get a few nuggets of wisdom and Star Trek discussion, I'm happy with it.
    in Twitter Comment by ajhayes March 16
  • @Cory said: @tosh I joined the army, and quite the time I have had. And @ajhayes I was in Casey for 6 months but my unit deactivated, and then I went on a rigmarole around Korea for a month or so and got to see a little bit of everything, …
  • @lobster said: Hindus do better curries. We need to up our game. True. Their curry game is on point, as the kids are saying.
  • Welcome back! I was stationed in Korea near Camp Casey. I agree, it was absolutely wonderful! That was where I was first exposed to Buddhism.
  • I've done martial arts for most of my life- Tae Kwon Do, Muay Thai, Jiu Jitsu, Judo.. And since I've started down the Buddhist path, I've not found anything that would make the two incompatible. I am also a (retired) pro wrestler, and I really di…
  • My wife and I made a stop there on a cruise and it was lovely. Nice sights to see, pleasant climate. Should be a fun place for a vacation.
  • I've been trying to find a way to look on the bright side of suffering and sadness. When I am sad, or experiencing suffering, I find that the experience of that (PTSD, Anxiety, Depression, Loss, etc) has given me better insight into what someone els…
  • I was stationed in Korea (when I was in the Army) too, @Cinorjer I was stationed at Camp Castle, near Dongducheon. Were you at Seoul, by chance? I took a tour of the base in 2002 and it was amazing (comparatively). It is also where I was first i…
  • @nakazcid said: Hmm, I'm getting testosterone overload from this thread. How 'bout a little estrogen? Outstanding song.
  • Welcome to the party, @Tigger . Looking forward to traveling with you on this wild journey.
  • You've got to watch out for the militant wing of the salvation army. Frau Farbissina is a brutal woman.
  • CWF had some great stuff. No TV would greatly simplify life, though I do suffer from an attachment to Star Trek and Wrasslin.
  • I like comedy movies, action movies, documentaries, Star Trek... And most importantly- Pro Wrestling. Nothing says "one with the universe" and "loving-kindness" like dropping an elbow from the top rope.
  • @dhammachick said: @federica said: I honestly have no idea what 'normal' is. I'm an Aussie - ain't no way I'm normal ....I didn't want to be the first to tell you that. Thanks for taking the initiative.
  • Welcome to the party.
  • Schizophrenic is a diagnosis. What's more important is the person afflicted with the condition. I heard the Dalai Lama (I think) say that people are not their illness, they are people with the illness. There are not criminals, there are people wh…
  • I've recently started acupuncture, but, I'm not able to attend my sessions frequently as the wife and I had twins almost 4 months ago in addition to our 4 year old. Once things calm down, I'm very excited to see what acupuncture will lead to. Thanks…
  • I attended two inpatient treatments at the Veterans Affairs hospitals (two different locations in Wisconsin, USA). I've done EMDR, Prolonged Exposure, group sessions, one on one sessions, and a lot of different acronyms which I can't remember. There…
  • I have PTSD as well (among other things) and I find that meditation and general practice really helps. For me, meditation is not always sitting on a cushion. It can be working on my Zen garden, painting miniatures, building with legos (I'm an adult,…