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Kerome · Did I fall in the forest? · Veteran

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  • Not being allowed to ask questions, really? Must have been a particularly quiet temple or something, or perhaps you asked one of the questions which the Buddha refused to answer (there are only a few, and you can still ask them, you just won't get a…
  • About not every clerk discussing the weather... I think small talk is an art, aimed at putting people at ease, and there isn't anything wrong with it, unlike real chatter or gossip.
  • Hmm. Hope is the conjuring of a bright glow on the horizon, where in reality none can be seen. As such, it is a motivating factor, something that keeps many lives more liveable. Therefore banish it at your peril. One has to accept things as they …
  • @lobster said: ... Ay caramba - destroy the ego? . . . who is going to look after the family, eat the fish post to NewBuddhist, be kind to the enlightened etc ... Zen student: how much ego do I need, master? Zen master: just enough not…
    in Pain, ego Comment by Kerome April 21
  • @DhammaDragon said: Where Right Speech completely fails me, as ever, is that I don't feel like watering down my speech to please my interlocutor. Surely if you are actively pleasing your interlocutor you have deviated from the path of pur…
  • It is certainly true that groups have a persona. I spent some time in the Osho communes and it's amazing how quickly your standard greeting goes from a handshake to a hug, when everyone does the same. But honesty in groups is a really interesting…
  • When I first started drinking Yerba Mate I got some Mate Cocido which came in standard tea bags. It's apparently something less strong which they give to children amongst others. Might be worth a try for those who want something less strong. Pers…
  • @karasti said: Indeed, I wasn't suggesting such issues shouldn't be brought to light (even repeatedly as happens in forums). I just notice themes myself (within my own mind) where I spend more time pointing out the wrongs of others rather than lo…
  • @lobster said: Behold, O monks, this is my last advice to you. All component things in the world are changeable. They are not lasting. Work hard to gain your own salvation. http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhism/lifebuddha/2_31lbud.htm …
  • When I was very much younger, in the 1970's, it used to be a case of just picking your friends and trying to get along, and developing a skin thick enough to ignore some of the small sniping that inevitably happened. You can usually find 3-4 peop…
  • I drink Twinnings chamomile snore-EZ, English breakfast tea, early grey, green tea, lapsang souchong, fresh mint tea from mint I grow on the balcony, and sometimes a bit of yerba mate. So I'm about as much as a tea nerd as a coffee nerd. I do go …
  • Osho once said, when you truely meet a master the process is one of imbibing him, of taking him into your very being. I think with the core of the lore of the Buddha it's the same, you can read the Eightfold Path just to take knowledge, but you c…
  • Our spring is still chilly, about 11 degrees with moderate changeable and sunny days. We've had a few days at 20 degrees, but only a couple, and instead a lot of moderate to chilly weather. Just a case of not forgetting to wear a coat I'm glad t…
  • @Kaydeekay said: I feel like in a lot of ways relationships, love and marriage are clung on to as the golden ticket to happiness and fulfilment and that leaves a lot of us unhappy and frustrated. I think that's very true... I'm probably u…
  • @Kerome said: @Fosdick said: @Kerome I've been going through a tough time of late, my doctor says it's a mental health issue. I'm currently chemically assisted by large doses of lorazepam. Spontaneous arising of th…
  • I've also had a period of very easy entry into meditation, an now suddenly things have gotten more difficult. I think the subtle body sometimes needs time to adjust, and that it's unwise to try and force the issue. Give the body and mind their ti…
  • I still think the first task is to resolve your own attitudes towards feeling beautiful and being sexy @spiderlily - once you can be happy there you can engage with the husband about his desires and how far down that path you should meet him, and ho…
  • Relationships are give and take... I don't think it's breaching a precept to dress more sexily or use makeup, so if it were me I'd probably just go along with it. But these things are individual and you have to go with what feels right to you, if yo…
  • Ok I admit it, I looked into this area in quite a lot of detail a few years ago but I never got as fanatic about as you all seem to have done.
  • Thoughts limit the sum total of what you might do in your life. If you can't think about it, you can't do it. So the range of food for thought that you take in, changes what you are likely to do with your life... the magazines, papers or websites, c…
  • Refugee said: relentlessly negative thoughts So it sounds like you might have a problem with your self-image. These things are built up below the conscious, and forcing a breakthrough there with meditation so that you can start an argumen…
  • I'm not sure that 'giving up' or trying to outmatch agitation is the way to go. That often leads to an unbinding and a period of wildness, or a very high energy controlled state. The agitated mind usually has a focus, some pattern that sustains it. …
  • Smartphones should probably come with a age restriction like alcohol, not for the under 18s.
  • @Fosdick said: Toe tapping involves lying on your back and tapping the toes together fairly rapidly, using rotation of the hip joints to do it, not the ankles, and using momentum to do some of the work - takes a while to coordinate the movement. …
  • I always find baths and showers a great antidote to agitation. Something about water covering the body bringing the skin to rest, and then drying as a quiet re-energisation. Then maybe "sit your butt on the ground" afterwards?
  • I'm still reading Living Buddha, Living Christ by our good friend Thich Nhat Hanh. It's an interesting book that shows a whole series of cross-over points in the respective lore, and a number of encounters between the writer and Christians. In pa…
  • @yagr said: @lobster said: I agree with @federica. Sadly justice does not exist in this realm It is more likely that I don't have a skillful understanding of justice, but I am not sure that I agree. Perhaps thi…
  • @Fosdick said: @Kerome I've been going through a tough time of late, my doctor says it's a mental health issue. I'm currently chemically assisted by large doses of lorazepam. Spontaneous arising of these troubles at my age is rare but…
  • @SpinyNorman said: @Kerome said: @SpinyNorman said: Does it affect the supply of Neapolitan ice-cream? The local supply of ice cream is restored... the two Italian gelaterias in the area hav…
  • @SpinyNorman said: Does it affect the supply of Neapolitan ice-cream? The local supply of ice cream is restored... the two Italian gelaterias in the area have re-opened for summer.
  • @Fosdick said: It could also be argued that all fears are a reflection of the fear of losing control. To let go of the illusion of self, then, would also be to let go of fear. To completely, totally let go of the idea of self is pretty d…
  • Happy b-day Fede...
  • @Tigger said: @SpinyNorman said: It used to be sex, drugs and rock-and-roll. I don't think sex is going anywhere, anytime soon Rock n roll is the new kid on the block so I guess that is most likely to be r…
  • @SpinyNorman said: On the other hand we all get our ideas about Buddhism from somebody, and that person got their ideas from somebody else, and so it goes. Although these days it's more about the lineage of the books. You learn from such …
  • I feel that globalisation is a trend that favours the rich getting richer... it is not directly bad in itself, but it tends to lead to global mega-corporations, huge mergers, cartels, and the necessity for others to operate on similar scales in orde…
  • The Buddha achieved what he did with only the lore of his day to help him. Similarly there has been a collection of dharma available since then to help modern practitioners, and this is what is important, the learning of the dharma. Alongside that i…
  • This seems to be mostly Zen based, and with some reference to Japanese Zen in the hosted articles. I like the approach, there is a certain cleanliness.
  • @silver said: Yeah- throwing a party to prove you're not antisocial sounds not so great an idea. Oh. I love a good party or night of cards but if it's not your thing then I can see it might disrupt your flow. I was wondering, @Hoza…
    in Lone Wolf Comment by Kerome March 28
  • Throw a party or treat everyone to cakes at birthday, just to prove the opposite.
    in Lone Wolf Comment by Kerome March 27
  • Andreas Vollenweider should be well known... he plays electro harp, but this album of his that received a Grammy I never heard until yesterday
  • I remember on Dartmoor there is an inn callled the Two Bridges... they bake their own scones for afternoon tea and they are huge and incredibly delicious. I remember being amazed at the size of those scones on the very sunny afternoon I spent there.
    in Coffee ??? Comment by Kerome March 26
  • Cough, sneeze. (Have caught a cold). I'm looking forward to Gus van Sant's latest Sea of Trees. And may settle down to rewatch a few things from my personal collection like Spirited Away.
  • I don't know... I'm a fully paid up member of the smartphone Trimble, with about 60 apps on my iPhone 7 although I don't do Facebook or LinkedIn. I very occasionally to a bit of searching through twitter. The point is, if you are sensible you can…
  • Yeah I know, I had a Netflix account for a little while on my tablet and on the Apple TV. But then I started looking at how often I watched their content and whether it's worth a €10 a month package, and I decided not. I get my cable - about 30 c…
  • Would love to watch the new Samurai Jack and The Expanse... but I only get standard cable, no SyFy, Netflix, Amazon or other frills. I do have an Apple TV, which I use for watching MLB and some YouTube and iTunes and things. Currently enjoying Le…
  • Personally I found karma to be the wrong end of approaching the dharma for a new beginner. It either is present and active or not, but generally the effects of something are part and parcel of the action, so "karma" is kind of inherent, and far from…