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Kerome · Love, love is mystery · Veteran

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  • Thanks @Person ... Ive been discussing this with a few people of my acquaintance and that seems to be the conclusion, that there is no single rule here but you need to think it through on a case by case basis, keeping in mind a respectful and compas…
  • This page is a tremendous resource on Lions Roar, it has reading lists on a wide range of subjects and all kinds of links through back issues of the magazine... https://www.lionsroar.com/category/buddhist-teachings/guides/
  • I’m still not able to manage gardens to the software’s satisfaction?
  • I use the website and find things of value once in a while. I slightly prefer Lions Roar though.
  • @federica said: When you say 'people', who do you mean, exactly? Those who run the 'cults' or those who have escaped....? All attitudes, opinions and interactions will be completely different.... at opposite ends of the spectrum I would say.... …
    in Cults Comment by Kerome July 13
  • If you have better suggestions I’m all ears... of course there needs to be a suitable introduction, space to talk, exchange confidences. But an approach towards making people think is also part of that.
    in Cults Comment by Kerome July 12
  • I’m reliably informed that the best way to start people thinking about how their cult may be irrational is to ask difficult questions. So I’m going to practice formulating some of these. Thanks @lobster for the examples of cults
    in Cults Comment by Kerome July 12
  • That’ll teach me not to click on every shortened link...
  • Apparently the boys coach had spent some time as a Buddhist monk... https://www.cnbc.com/2018/07/10/stanford-expert-explains-how-meditation-helped-the-thai-boys-survive.html
  • @Ugyen_Yeshe said: Is there any interest in this sort of thing? I’m certainly interested in learning more about this. By all means bring on the slogans.
  • I occasionally help myself to a beer or a glass of wine, but I don’t feel particularly guilty about this. I feel the precepts are intended to help us avoid behaviour harmful to others, and if anything a small amount of alcohol helps one feel happier…
  • I think the idea is rather to help people process their cultish-past experiences. But I think it is best to go into it with an open mind and see what happens.
    in Cults Comment by Kerome July 9
  • It seems the first couple have emerged but the whole operation may take a couple of days. I wish them all the best of luck, it can’t be easy to make your first dive under such dangerous conditions.
  • I was discussing this with my uncle, who has some background in Zen, and it’s quite interesting to see how much of the world we live in is shared. It’s like a series of concentric circles, where the center is the commonly shared experience, the next…
  • I do a little volunteering in the town where I live, and I’ve been asked if I want to facilitate a group of ex-cult members who want to discuss their experiences. The people in charge seem to think that my knowledge of matters spiritual and backgrou…
    in Cults Comment by Kerome July 8
  • Yes it is one of the things I do not like about karma, that it encourages magical thinking, while in fact almost all of such things have good scientific explanations and in fact people should rely on reason.
  • I think economic slavery is probably the most pernicious danger out there. With every new, impressive innovation the assumption has always been that it will lead to new freedom and some “benefit” but in real terms it only seems to be benefitting the…
  • I don’t, but I once typeset and designed a book called The Buddhist Directory, a thick tome, and it was surprising how many different centres there were dotted all over North America.
  • @kando said: Came across this today and like it 'if you get obsessed with Buddhism then Buddhism is a worldly thing. If you are not obsessed with worldly things then worldly things are Buddhist teachings' - an old saying quoted by Zen Master Muso…
  • Are they wearing woolly slippers as replacements for the cushion? It does seem like an odd pose to meditate in...
  • Yeah I thought Colombia were slightly the better passing team, England a bit better on set plays, but both teams were a bit toothless in attack. I guess the English were due a win on penalties though. Now a couple of days’ rest and then Sweden in th…
  • The second half of the Belgium v Japan game was amazing, lots of goals and really technical football. But I think as a team Belgium are really strong, and they have a lot of individual quality.
  • @genkaku said: if people around you are displaying unquestioning devotion rather than great freedom and creativity, then your cult is probably heading in the wrong direction. but the fact may be hard to swallow ... my angel…
    in Cults Comment by Kerome July 2
  • And the surprises keep coming, Russia knock out Spain. That makes that half of the draw pretty weak. Russia v Croatia in one quarter final, and in the other the two winners of Sweden v Switzerland and England v Colombia.
  • So Uruguay v France in the first quarter final. That’s a tough match, but I thought Uruguay had a bit too much firepower for Portugal, while France I think more than match them. If I were to hazard a guess, I’d think Spain and Croatia will win to…
  • @kando said: I once got marginally roped in at a soon to be cultish ashram in India, but only for about three weeks - it wasn't the guru who scared me off, although he was rather hairy and his personal hygiene was not all it should have been - …
    in Cults Comment by Kerome June 30
  • The gardening approach leaves room for the unexpected, whereas the carpentry gives the illusion of some kind of control over the outcome...
  • Yeah it’s quite hard to name an outright favourite. The big teams such as Argentina, Brazil, and France haven’t been performing, and some second and third tier teams have been good, like Belgium and Croatia. Italy and the Netherlands aren’t even at …
  • For some people the struggle gives a motivating impulse, something that gets them going. Or at least that is the only thing I can think of. But then I am a socialist and believe the redistribution of wealth is a good thing, so let’s do it!
  • So many big teams had a slow start... Argentina, Spain, Germany, Brazil. We could easily have had Iran and Nigeria in the last 16. It’s been an odd tournament so far.
  • It is said that it is a natural stage when you have been meditating a lot that you start becoming aware of your sleep. A lot of yogi’s say they sleep very little, but usually just rest and meditate during the night.
  • Hotei or Siddhartha, it is not very important, it is the intention that counts. I find positivity is great when it happens, but often meditation just leads to stillness and emptiness. Negativity can be interesting too. The key thing is not to let yo…
    in Positive? Comment by Kerome June 26
  • Yesterday evening was pretty interesting, it was this close or Spain would have gone out in the closing stages of those matches and Iran would have gone to the last 16. But instead they went through to play Russia, I think.
  • Cults are an interesting phenomenon. I was reading a book written by Adi Da Samraj who was beter known under the name Da Free John back in the 1970’s and 1980’s, and he put himself forward as a spiritual teacher but exhibited some cultish behaviour.…
    in Cults Comment by Kerome June 23
  • Well, the bottom line is there is very little we can do. Americans voted him in, they will have to get him out somehow. We can be careful about who in our homelands we give support, the populist right is making strides in a number of places. We c…
  • It’s interesting, for many people who are now getting a bit older there was a tendency to not cut their hair for spiritual reasons. For example my stepfather walks around with a topknot. I guess these things vary with the generations.
    in head shaving Comment by Kerome June 20
  • The part of the story that spoke to me was the bit where the tortoise said to the bull, “you are clutching your hurts to you as if they were your dearest possessions.” That’s a mistake that’s easy to make, but in fact you’re just causing yourself mo…
  • I do feel sad to hear that, when family insult eachother it can create a very bad atmosphere because these are people who know eachother and have spent much time together.
  • That is certainly true. I think that Buddhism has adapted to each of the countries of the East as it travelled the region, that you see Vajrayana in Tibet, Mahayana in China, Zen in Japan, and Theravada in Thailand. In each case it has probably take…
  • Taking refuge in Buddha, dharma and sangha
  • Bit of a surprise to see the Germans lose their first match, they left a lot of chances. And Brazil drawing 1-1 with Switzerland. A lot of smaller teams seem to have gotten a lot better at defending.
  • @nakazcid said: While I was speaking of risk in general, one area I’m thinking of in particular is social risk. I’m a hardcore introvert, and find groups of more than three or four people overwhelming. If you’re worried about it, then I’d…
    in Craving for... Comment by Kerome June 17
  • The other thing I’d say Skyfox is to try and be aware of what charges your batteries. You say you feel drained after many years without a thank you, but why should you feel this way just now? It seems as if you’re expecting thank you’s to recharge y…
  • You might like this, an alternate take on Ravel’s bolero...
  • Another way to fleece the faithful?
  • But then the Spain v Portugal match was excellent...
  • I was wondering how much to watch, and so ended up watching some of Uruguay v Egypt. I’d forgotten how a match can sometimes turn into tedious back and forth with nary a chance either way. It ended 1-0, but it was a good reminder that most of the be…
  • @kando said: I got tangled up in a cult in my youth and made a point of learning from the experience - I would avoid any teacher who displayed 'charisma', 'magnetism' or even an inflated idea of his/her spiritual development and understanding - g…