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  • @lobster said: Silence isn't necessarily condonement... Indeed. However the silence of the 'spiritual' heads of the Jehovah Witnesses and Catholics over child abuse makes their behavour indictive of hypocrisy and cri…
  • @federica said: @Kaydeekay said: ... Hmm. I am talking about in cases where someone was sexually harassing someone, or another member of the group had admitted to sexual misconduct. The group was very passive and did not speak out about …
  • @federica said: I do agree with you, @Kaydeekay.... Passive resistance is still a better tool than any violent kick-back though.... Turning the other cheek is not, as many people still believe, a way of permitting aggression to continue. …
  • In addition, being 'kind' isn't the same as being good. I have watched Buddhist friends who were very warm and lovely on the surface not stand up against abuse and harassment. Other friends, who are less 'gentle' and warm on the surface and don't fo…
  • @Kerome said: @genkaku said: attracts a certain kind of person, someone with a kind of gentleness, sensitivity and purity. Sometimes they surprise you... not everyone is gentle and nice and frankly I…
  • @ScottPen said: @Kaydeekay, thanks for your input. The only symptom I have experienced so far has been the inability to sit with the images of the experience while attempting to focus on my breath during meditation. That has persisted a bit over…
  • You can also try something called Somatic Experiencing therapy, it's a mindfulness practice that uses the body and the innate intelligence of the nervous system to release PTSD symptoms. I used it to help recover from my PTSD, followed by EMDR. I'm …
  • Hmm I think that donation's are reasonable as long as it's not implied that YOU HAVE to pay. Like some people seriously can't even afford that and it's embarrassing and stressful to have to pay, if it's pressured. But, I think $10.00 is reasonable i…
  • @Jason said: I'd just add that pleasure, joy, gladness, etc. isn't verboten in Buddhism. And sometimes, directing the mind towards something pleasant or inspiring can be beneficial to one's meditation, as suttas like SN 47.10 illustrate: …
  • Honestly, actually - I think it really depends. People with complex PTSD or borderline, anxiety, or depression can experience very strong emotions and irritation can easily spill into rage, mild emotional pain can easily spill over into an intense f…
  • @karasti said: Substances don't mostly lead people to addiction though. Issues in their life and emotional/mental/genetic makeup do. There are people who drink without addiction or even intoxication. Some things, of course, are more likely to cau…
  • Hmm one may be mindful when drinking a beer, but one is not mindful afterwards.
  • Hello . I suggest getting into meditation: both metta and insight/breathing. Have you heard of Headspace? It is a great app that really helped me get into a regular practice. I find listening to videos very helpful - I listen to Pema Chodron's talks…
  • @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: High emotionality and hopelessness can be a sign of borderline personality disorder. As can a trauma history. What kind of t…
  • @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: High emotionality and hopelessness can be a sign of borderline personality disorder. As can a trauma history. What kind of therapy is she getting? Her official diagnosis last I heard was …
  • Watched a short one on Ram Dass, simple, beautiful and inspiring.
  • Sorry to hear about your friend 💕. Has she had a diagnosis of anything? High emotionality and hopelessness can be a sign of borderline personality disorder. As can a trauma history. What kind of therapy is she getting? If there is something deeper a…
  • Contrary to someone else's somewhat rude post suggesting you are not a good parent because you are asking for advice on how to parent your child, I think this seems like a quality of a great parent. You want to do what is best for your child and to …
  • @federica said: Would it surprise you to know that you share this 'struggle' with... well, probably every single decent person you know? Ooh yea, welcome to the WWC (The WorldWideClub). There's a fine line between 'Selflessness' and 'Doorm…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 10
  • @federica said: Tackle the sense of low self-esteem you have which seems to be preventing you from believing and accepting the fact that much as you owe others respect and consideration, you deserve it too, and have a right to participate in some…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 7
  • @Tosh said: @Kaydeekay said: As an exercise, I'm trying to replay my 'good deeds', like the past volunteering I've done. Why can't you try to amend the situation you feel guilty about? If you've harmed someone, can't …
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 7
  • I think anyone who has would never say they have, so they are hard to spot. It's just a way of being, endless selflessness and kindness because they see that we are all one in the same and they wish to help free us all from suffering.
  • It's snowing here and I wrote this cheesy poem about how transitory 'we' are and how nature is a mirror of that. Snow fall Iridescent flurries of white cloud float on air And melt into rooftops with icy kisses I am made of snow I am…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 6
  • @Tosh said: @Vanilli said: Has anyone else struggled with this and does anyone have any advice that they'd kindly share please? Oh, yes, lots and lots of it. I've been a real idiot - massively so - when I was yo…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 6
  • Thank you everyone, your wisdom and advice was much appreciated and very helpful to me. I've decided to let it go, all I can do is be better than yesterday and I intend to be so.
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 2
  • I follow Dr Greger, a physician who was inspired to become one through his Grandma's recovery from heart disease - she was given weeks to live, after three triple heart bypasses, and went on to live 30 years by going on a whole foods plant based die…
  • Also, wanted to add that sometimes for women it feels like a double-bind. You get shamed for being 'sexy' and wearing makeup, but then you get judged and 'rated' based on how attractive you are. So, what - we are supposed to be flawlessly beautiful …
  • @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: I feel like in a lot of ways relationships, love and marriage are clung on to as the golden ticket to happiness and fulfilment and that leaves a lot of us unhappy and frustrated. I think …
  • Also, in meditation - I think it's important to not become too attached to anything that arises, or to feed into too much aversion. Just let it be.
  • @Bunks said: @Kaydeekay said: @Bunks said: Marriage is hard. Both men and women will look (hopefully not touch!) elsewhere at different stages. From a male perspective, we're bombarded with images …
  • @Bunks said: Marriage is hard. Both men and women will look (hopefully not touch!) elsewhere at different stages. From a male perspective, we're bombarded with images of sexy women wearing not much from morning to night. On television, the…
  • @spiderlily said: @Kerome said: Relationships are give and take... I don't think it's breaching a precept to dress more sexily or use makeup, so if it were me I'd probably just go along with it. But these things are individual and y…
  • Why are you interested in this (out of curiosity)?
  • @upekka said: @Kaydeekay said: @upekka said: I think the complexity of the issue was explained in the first post and it's not relevant now because I am practicing mediation without any issue, which w…
  • Most studies agree that coffee and green tea are good for the brain (woo). I drink a couple of cups in the morning and afternoon but find it keep me up if I drink past 3-4pm!
  • @federica said: @upekka said: @Kaydeekay said: you might know what is the result and what you should do next Are you replying to my first post lol? I've been practicing …
  • @upekka said: @Kaydeekay said: you might know what is the result and what you should do next Are you replying to my first post lol? I've been practicing for a few years now, think I've got the hang o…
  • @upekka said: did you read the thread 'how to practice Buddha's Teaching in day-today life' practice it few days when you feel like doing so come back with the results or you might know what is the result and what you should d…
  • @Hozan said: Hey @Kaydeekay sending you every best wish . Great advice from everybody here. May you be happy. May you be well. May you be safe. May you be free. Thank you Hozan, that's very kind of you . Sending lots of metta your way
  • Thanks Lobster lol I don't get any creepy culty vibes
  • Thank you @JohnMac - good advice
  • Hi everyone ^_^, just came to say thanks so much for your support and advice. I recently began my EMDR therapy and it has been amazing, it has helped me so much and I resolved a lot of the effects of my childhood and beyond. I'm doing really well no…
  • Hello.... I am opening up this thread again as I go to this centre as it's the main one in my city (compared to another buddhist centre which is way too religious/seems more culty to me). The people I have met here seem to all be very nice and ke…
  • Take it easy on yourself and go slowly but steadily increase fruit and veg and cut out your junk food. I normally start the day with a huge smoothie - I normally put some greens in mine (they are supposedly the healthiest food on the planet - packe…