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  • @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: High emotionality and hopelessness can be a sign of borderline personality disorder. As can a trauma history. What kind of t…
  • @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: High emotionality and hopelessness can be a sign of borderline personality disorder. As can a trauma history. What kind of therapy is she getting? Her official diagnosis last I heard was …
  • Watched a short one on Ram Dass, simple, beautiful and inspiring.
  • Sorry to hear about your friend 💕. Has she had a diagnosis of anything? High emotionality and hopelessness can be a sign of borderline personality disorder. As can a trauma history. What kind of therapy is she getting? If there is something deeper a…
  • Contrary to someone else's somewhat rude post suggesting you are not a good parent because you are asking for advice on how to parent your child, I think this seems like a quality of a great parent. You want to do what is best for your child and to …
  • @federica said: Would it surprise you to know that you share this 'struggle' with... well, probably every single decent person you know? Ooh yea, welcome to the WWC (The WorldWideClub). There's a fine line between 'Selflessness' and 'Doorm…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 10
  • @federica said: Tackle the sense of low self-esteem you have which seems to be preventing you from believing and accepting the fact that much as you owe others respect and consideration, you deserve it too, and have a right to participate in some…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 7
  • @Tosh said: @Kaydeekay said: As an exercise, I'm trying to replay my 'good deeds', like the past volunteering I've done. Why can't you try to amend the situation you feel guilty about? If you've harmed someone, can't …
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 7
  • I think anyone who has would never say they have, so they are hard to spot. It's just a way of being, endless selflessness and kindness because they see that we are all one in the same and they wish to help free us all from suffering.
  • It's snowing here and I wrote this cheesy poem about how transitory 'we' are and how nature is a mirror of that. Snow fall Iridescent flurries of white cloud float on air And melt into rooftops with icy kisses I am made of snow I am…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 6
  • @Tosh said: @Vanilli said: Has anyone else struggled with this and does anyone have any advice that they'd kindly share please? Oh, yes, lots and lots of it. I've been a real idiot - massively so - when I was yo…
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 6
  • Thank you everyone, your wisdom and advice was much appreciated and very helpful to me. I've decided to let it go, all I can do is be better than yesterday and I intend to be so.
    in Guilt Comment by Kaydeekay April 2
  • I follow Dr Greger, a physician who was inspired to become one through his Grandma's recovery from heart disease - she was given weeks to live, after three triple heart bypasses, and went on to live 30 years by going on a whole foods plant based die…
  • Also, wanted to add that sometimes for women it feels like a double-bind. You get shamed for being 'sexy' and wearing makeup, but then you get judged and 'rated' based on how attractive you are. So, what - we are supposed to be flawlessly beautiful …
  • @Kerome said: @Kaydeekay said: I feel like in a lot of ways relationships, love and marriage are clung on to as the golden ticket to happiness and fulfilment and that leaves a lot of us unhappy and frustrated. I think …
  • Also, in meditation - I think it's important to not become too attached to anything that arises, or to feed into too much aversion. Just let it be.
  • @Bunks said: @Kaydeekay said: @Bunks said: Marriage is hard. Both men and women will look (hopefully not touch!) elsewhere at different stages. From a male perspective, we're bombarded with images …
  • @Bunks said: Marriage is hard. Both men and women will look (hopefully not touch!) elsewhere at different stages. From a male perspective, we're bombarded with images of sexy women wearing not much from morning to night. On television, the…
  • @spiderlily said: @Kerome said: Relationships are give and take... I don't think it's breaching a precept to dress more sexily or use makeup, so if it were me I'd probably just go along with it. But these things are individual and y…
  • Why are you interested in this (out of curiosity)?
  • @upekka said: @Kaydeekay said: @upekka said: I think the complexity of the issue was explained in the first post and it's not relevant now because I am practicing mediation without any issue, which w…
  • Most studies agree that coffee and green tea are good for the brain (woo). I drink a couple of cups in the morning and afternoon but find it keep me up if I drink past 3-4pm!
  • @federica said: @upekka said: @Kaydeekay said: you might know what is the result and what you should do next Are you replying to my first post lol? I've been practicing …
  • @upekka said: @Kaydeekay said: you might know what is the result and what you should do next Are you replying to my first post lol? I've been practicing for a few years now, think I've got the hang o…
  • @upekka said: did you read the thread 'how to practice Buddha's Teaching in day-today life' practice it few days when you feel like doing so come back with the results or you might know what is the result and what you should d…
  • @Hozan said: Hey @Kaydeekay sending you every best wish . Great advice from everybody here. May you be happy. May you be well. May you be safe. May you be free. Thank you Hozan, that's very kind of you . Sending lots of metta your way
  • Thanks Lobster lol I don't get any creepy culty vibes
  • Thank you @JohnMac - good advice
  • Hi everyone ^_^, just came to say thanks so much for your support and advice. I recently began my EMDR therapy and it has been amazing, it has helped me so much and I resolved a lot of the effects of my childhood and beyond. I'm doing really well no…
  • Hello.... I am opening up this thread again as I go to this centre as it's the main one in my city (compared to another buddhist centre which is way too religious/seems more culty to me). The people I have met here seem to all be very nice and ke…
  • Take it easy on yourself and go slowly but steadily increase fruit and veg and cut out your junk food. I normally start the day with a huge smoothie - I normally put some greens in mine (they are supposedly the healthiest food on the planet - packe…
  • I kind of like this idea...for me the idea of offering or sharing your food with someone less fortunate - is helpful because when we eat we are so attached to food - or i am especially lol - so thinking of others and mentally offering cultivates gen…
  • I agree that the news is a source of anxiety, depression and anger for me, therefore it's unskilful for me to consume it. Sure, this may not be the case for everyone - but it is for me, as someone prone to anxiety and depression. So not reading it w…
  • @DhammaDragon said: @Kaydeekay said: In Tibetan Buddhist teaches, you can purify/lessen the karmic weight of your negative actions through meditation. Is this something the Buddha actually taught? I seem to recall he did. …
  • Thanks guys ! Sorry, should have searched first!
  • In Tibetan Buddhist teaches, you can purify/lessen the karmic weight of your negative actions through meditation. Is this something the Buddha actually taught? I seem to recall he did.
  • @karasti said: "the most difficult thing about being a vegetarian is the meals." That totally cracked me up I'm not vegetarian, but I'm about 75% veggie these days. I eat dinner with the family because entirely different menus just isn't d…
  • Yeah, they are kind of gross (not offence little roaches ). I'd probably try and scoop it up and put it outside. But if I see a creepy bug inside, I just tend to leave them....but I'm in the UK, so maybe they are bigger and more common in Canada :P.
  • Thank you everyone , you have helped me to feel much better .
  • Thanks a lot @federica and @Shoshin
  • @karasti said: But when someone suffers from illness, would we be so hard on them for not always walking the walking? I'm not excusing bad behavior, and I don't excuse what Trungpa or any others have done. But addiction lends oneself not able to …
  • Haha, get a room full of women together and you will see what women talk about: sex, bowel movements - absolutely everything. We are human beings, we talk about whatever we please. In the same way a woman is a lady, a man is a masculine man who s…
  • @Kerome said: To put my mind at ease, I have actually consulted a psychiatrist, but he seemed to have very little to offer besides medication, which I'm not keen on. There is no history of mental health disorders in the family, besides my grandmo…
  • You might find this video helpful as well , on the unexpected effects of meditation practice. It also points out that meditation alone should not be used to tackle troubling material, and advises accessing common therapeutic techniques used in the W…
  • Thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts! I will look into everything that you have suggested !