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  • I can relate to the empty friendship thing. Although the sort of person I am most of my friendships expired very quickly :P In the end passion, feeling and happiness is something that starts from yourself. I have found that if you express yourself …
  • Well there is mystical in the sense of direct perception, those fleeting moments of clarity. There is also the harmful kind illusions, what the Buddha reffered to as the mara. Distractions and entanglements in strange experiences that try to preven…
  • Yes, you have the responsibility to make strengthening decisions or not. Sometimes that free will may be limited by external things but usually there is at least something you can influence.
  • I just ignore it like unless they are famous for that reason or something similar who cares what their religion or political thing is. I don't like when ppl gobble up what a celebrity says but then again the celebrity is free to say whatever they li…
  • True letting go is release of the things you hold, indeed you could call them karmas. Release would be relquishing attachment and old feelings of hurt. That doesn't mean forgetting memories though. With release you want a good balance with life not …
  • Duality co-exists with non-duality. The more you awaken the more you are in touch with non-duality but duality still persists within life
  • “To think in terms of either pessimism or optimism oversimplifies the truth. The problem is to see reality as it is." Thich Nhat Hanh
  • As I learnt the hard way, some people get super upset when you say too much. If you want to keep the peace maybe not always should you be honest, not necessarily going as far as lying, just not saying things that don't need to be said. That said I…
  • With struggle. So much of the world system is interlinked to 'nasty' things. But some things a worse than others. Yea its hard when you are carrying out somebody elses rubbish particularly if you know its harming someone. Although in any case mo…
  • CBT ideas can be sure useful, when used properly. If you have avoidance or anxiety patterns these methods can be useful to distrupt such things and help better functioning. Social media is such a pain, it can be a useful tool minimally but the fa…
  • For me humour is not too bothersome unless it is sarcastic or it is trying to downplay what is being said. Humor can bring a lightness to topics that are being discussed so long as you don't use humor to avoid the topic. It just depends on how skill…
  • Interesting answer. Yep it's true that looking for measurable benefits and targets does hinder a lot the original good intention (or less good) behind many intiatives. I think in intellectual circles at least there is often discussion of this on…
  • I understand that the first part of the process is to spread the overall aim. But at the moment it is a bit too vague to me particularly considering that many well meaning intiatives do not work as intended, due to methodology (though many might ha…
  • @federica said: Smoking isn't allowed in pubs in the UK. It's gradually becoming an entire smoke-free zone, so I'm not sure where you're going where you're passively inhaling.... The Buddha quite clearly advises avoiding the company of 'fools…
  • Red wine in moderate consumption doesn't have true health benefits. Only a very small aspect of some wines (resveratrol) which can be isolated from the drink. However, overall any health effects are cancelled out by the effects of alcohol, if you…
  • @person Thanks, I'll keep that in mind
  • That's the thing practical application of a philosophy can be useful, while continuesly philosphising without practising and only words isn't so much. There are plenty if so called gurus who say big words but don't actually help people or even thems…
  • I didn't really use the word philosophy myself at least in the title. I am refering to the activity of endless philosophising instead of practical application. The state of being in the present and to be is what is favourable. But i guess that does…
  • Hmm? My point is that some people may treat it as a philosophy that is one of clinging and day to day discussions. They may see no practical use, and is more an intellectual puzzle. If you have looked at how some people define philosophy this is see…
  • Also here is an additional thing, I had, that could be relevant (but could also be a thread on it's own. => reality itself is annihilation and change "There are two kind of annihilation, an empirical one called destruction and a transcendenta…
  • I dunno exactly what your view is now, as you write in past tense for some of it (and i found it a little hard to read on my mobile device at least). But to answer what you said, the goal .. is not annihilation (even at death) Yes you transcend thi…
  • @lobster said: It is all good ... vampires welcome ... https://buddhism-for-vampires.com http://hardcorezen.info http://www.thebuddhistsociety.org/page/web-links Huh that buddhism for vampires site is by the same guy who does the…
  • I never smoked but a friend told me there is no easy way to stop because of the additiveness. It requires will power and persistence. Everyday you get a little stronger and more able to be without smoking. Keep looking at your goal to stop and your …
  • Yes I have a bit but not often. Interestingly reverses the taking in good breathing out pain practice that can also be done, but this mode of practice has its benefit in releasing out the good and allowing that to spread. I don't do it for others o…
  • At the end of the day the label atheist is a label that people use to define their belief in a god in relation to those who don't fit into that category by referring to the other as atheist. Kinda like non-smokers and smokers except a bit more than…
  • It's good to be mindful of what you are eating. Sugar can be particularly bad, they try to put extra sugar in some foods to get you addicted (not even a little bit), so always be careful what you buy. Once you eat less processed sugar you will feel …
  • In all honesty, I do think they are quite different, although I know some traditional Christians (non-gnostic/non-mystic) who may have taken on aspects of Buddhist ideas or taken inspiration, or made their own thing. One is about getting salvation …
  • You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop Still I think there is some level of personal through the way we experience things. It is about the process.
  • @kando said: I was fine with this story @Carameltail right up to 'she was your karma' - this is one concept I have a lot of trouble with! I find it too much like the kind of thing I had to listen to from high caste brahmins all too frequently in…
  • Get some balance. Go in nature take some walks. Find some interest to occupy you. I don't think its that healthy always seeking to help people. Especially if you do i out of your own need to help yourself. It's great to assist others sometimes in…
  • Its more my own problem and something I should just get over but I thought i'd write about anyway. I find it annoying when people use the word fair enough when it doesn't really make any sense especially if thats all they say. In many contexts it…
  • Friends affect you that's for sure, the closer they are to you, the more of a influence they are. Well its up to your own judgement to judge who is friend and who is not. And who is in between. I think it's sometimes hard to judge though, it's s…
  • You have to love and accept yourself no matter what. Sometimes we make mistakes and it's important to accept that. I do sometimes think about the past in regret or at least I used to a lot but a lot of the time there was nothing much I could do …
    in Guilt Comment by Carameltail March 2018
  • I think anything that affects the mind (and body) like that is not that helpful if you want to keep it generally 'clear', healthy and balanced. Of course it's true cannabis for some is thought to boost things like creativity or insight. Though long …
  • The problem is it is very hard to move to another system, with industries and cooperation being so dependent on it. It's very hard to change things to that extent even with all the ecological problems and social. In addition, what kind of system ca…
  • Insight nature, movement/body, switching perspective, bring negative into visibility, expanding out 'energy' and breathing. That's 6 wow Also there is walking and lying down.
  • While it is worrying I some senses I think AI could find some good uses to make life easier for everyone. It is how and who uses them that seems most scary. Oppressive governments using them to control people further perhaps? As often is with tech …
  • @federica said: (It never ceases to amaze me how many people really loved Stephen Hawking, considering that 98% of them didn't understand a fucking thing he was talking about.) Yea i'd like someone to explain to me in detail plz I did ha…
  • Marxism has really good critique capitalism, he even did actually praise it for it's merits too but it is limited when people adopt marxism as a way of seeing the world, as it is limited to the idea of two economic classes (perhaps a product of the …
  • The Body as something compartmentalised like in the way of chakras i think is unhelpful, the body is a whole being and though it has weakness points and all I think the idea of a chakra of energy flows becomes a distraction during practices whether …
  • There are many reasons why capitalism sticks. A large population while it cannot be said to be the root of any problems it does make it harder to move from it. Capitalism (as it is now at least) is something that grows and as it spreads it becomes…
  • Without inner peace, how do we make real peace ? * Dalai lama
  • @JaySon said: @David said: @JaySon said: I guess this is on a related wavelength... It's weird to me that modern psychology doesn't base any of their conclusions on the nature of ultimate reality, the absence of …
  • @Snakeskin said: @Carameltail said: Which reminds me there conceptual framework which a certain sort of social scientists use to view people as composed of phenomena. That the person is not one stable object but it composed of many …