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  • So it's been an ongoing parade of tests and consultations. Two biopsies have confirmed it's cancer, but they believe it's localized to the jaw and hasn't spread to the lympnodes. The only real possible treatment is a removal of half of Shadow's jawb…
  • @federica Thank you so much for taking the time to share that insight. I found it very informative. I don't disagree with any of it, but concept is easier than execution. It is difficult to remain pack leader while watching your friend be in pain…
  • The vet confirmed it's cancer. A cancerous mass has completely taken over his jaw, to the point that there is no bone anymore in one spot. A biopsy was taken and sent to a lab for diagnosis. The vet believed the cancer hadn't spread to his snout,…
  • @ScottPen Thank you for the support and guidance. I had a very bad experience with something similar 4 years ago. We had another golden retriever who had a toe tumor, and had it removed. The vet told us the tumor was removed, but it was something we…
  • This isn't an easy process. I understand it is part of life, but it doesn't make it better. I greatly appreciate all the support and guidance, even if you allow me to just vent. I didn't sleep much last night. My stomach is in a constant knot, an…
  • @karasti said: Falling into depression without being able to let go of the basic sadnessess of the world and life isn't really a normal reaction to meditation. The fact it's not a normal reaction is the part I personally would want some help figu…
  • @Jeffrey said: Another line of thought is that compassion can get distorted into 'overwhelm'... This topic is the 4 immeasurable: metta, karuna, mudita, and upekka. Or kindness, compassion/love, joy in others, equanimity... So a distortion of…
  • @karasti said: Have you ever tried changing up your meditation? And trying something more like Tonglen, perhaps? I tried it a few years back, continuously for about a month. It made things significantly worse. Or I guess I should say sign…
  • @seeker242 said: @federica said: Kitchen knives and utensils fall into that category. . . . Therefore, kitchen knives and utensils don't fall into that category. . . . A gun would always be considered breaking it.…
  • Firearms are a particular area that I've struggled with. I've read buddhist writings that forbid the possession of weapons, of any kind, and I respect them for what they are. But I've never accepted any buddhist scripture as dogma. I've always do…
  • @federica said: Paraphrasing, you say that @dhammachick read an implication that wasn't there, and that if she saw it, it was her problem not yours. I would ask you to review the comment in question and look at it from the feminine perspective…
  • @dhammachick said: The onus is on the women shopping in the store. The arising of self consciousness is their arising. How is this any different than the person brewing beer, or distilling liquors, knowing (with a fair amount of certa…
  • @Mingle said: @dhammachick said: I never get a tattoo without (at least a couple of hours) planning. To me, a few hours planning is very short sighted. But I'm sure to others that might seem like overkill. I usua…
  • @Cinorjer said: What makes you think promoting sensuality would be wrong livelihood? The benchmark is, does it do harm or take advantage of people's suffering. Selling sexy underwear or even sex toys does neither. A clerk working in a Victoria's …
  • @Shoshin said: The energy used that create a thought is "recycled" unless it is used to reinforce a neuropathway (Sankhara) one of our many habitual behaviour patterns which in turn forms our Thoughts Words & Deeds ... Exactly. Bu…
  • If you want to do what you're doing now, only more, make it part of a routine. Wake up 10 or 15 minutes earlier, and meditate before breakfast. Or do it when you get home from school. Or right before you go to bed. Whichever works best for you. But …
  • This is so sad to see unfold. I don't understand the need for those comments or attacks @smarino. Right Speech. I hope you get what you are looking for.
  • Different people learn with different styles. Some people learn best by turning inward and just doing. Others need some introduction before they do their own trial and error. Still others need to read a manual before they try anything. Zen probab…
  • "[i]n order for the full effect of negative karma to take place, the negative action must have four completed parts: (1) The act is done intentionally, (2) The act is accomplished and completed, (3) The act is not regretted or repented, (4) The act …
  • @DhammaDragon I'd assume most were. @Akasha's post appeared to be directed more at the OP. Just giving a heads up if anyone is attempting to do that again. That's all. Carry on.
  • The discussion on emptiness is educational, and I don't mean to stop the discussion, but I'd like to point out that the OP hasn't signed in since January 17th, approximately two weeks after this thread was started. If you are commenting on the OP's …
  • I know. You don't like that either. Actually I do like the idea. Have I become the "shooter down of ideas"? That's not good.
  • How about the dharma wheel? That's what I'm leaning toward at the moment. What comes to your head when you think about the eightfold path? Right view, intention, speech, action, livelihood, effort, mindfulness and concentration... Is there somet…
  • yin yang symbol to remind me of emptiness . . . or a dharma wheel or a mirror or a fish . . . a Buddha in a bag or a closed mini Tantra shrine . . . or a cross or hollow statue and fill with mantra rolls . . . Or an empty vase, or a Buddha foot, or…
  • When I said any object, I simply meant that any object that you "assign" an associated thought to...could be associated specifically to Buddhism. I could assign a paperclip to be a representative of being mindful, and place it on my desk. If I …
  • I think I was looking for something a little more than a pile of rocks or a picture of a rock garden. Something a little more thought provoking, specifically to the eightfold path. Obviously, I don't really know what I'm looking for. Just looking f…
  • Any object. Helpful.
  • Sorry I took so long to reply Rich9, life caught up to me, lol. A tattoo is so absolute, in my opinion, that to claim to know what I’m going to want and how I’m going to feel 40 years from now, is a huge declaration of self-confidence and self-aware…
  • I haven't started a journal or log yet for that reason. I was advised by someone a few years ago that writing it down is more about the progression. The progression happens naturally, as long as you practice. Meditation is more about the moment. Bu…
  • The current trend with tattoos I find a bit "me" centred, "me the individual", "me making an artistic statement", "me the Buddhist" , "me with the celtic symbol". I think that is really over generalizing a wide range of individuals. To say that e…
  • @Rich9 - it's difficult to relate "regret" from a 3rd person. I spent a significant amount of time in tattoo shops before I got my first one. A few friends of mine were artists, and it was a fun place to hang out. You would see people come in with…
  • " I think that if you choose something to put on your body, just make sure it has real meaning to you even if its affiliated with Buddhism or not." I in no way mean this as an insult to you lotuslove, but this is something that very often comes fro…
  • Johnathan, most well to do tattoo shops will do touch ups on their own tattoos for free. Sometimes the ink just doesn't appear as dark as it's intended. You are, afterall, fighting with the body's natural urge to heal itself. Everyone heals differen…
  • http://www.adherents.com/largecom/fam_buddhist.html Hopefully that will do better for you. Likewise, I started reading "The Dharma of Star Wars" by Matthew Bortolin, but ended up putting it down after a few chapters. I always wanted to pick it bac…
  • Thanks for all the very kind words!
  • Thanks for all the kind words. To be honest genkaku, I don't know what it's called. My terminology may be off, or totally wrong. I was hoping to have a small bench/table to put in front of me to house a few objects. I didn't want it too big, to tak…
  • I think it looks great equake!
  • I can tell you that Geshe Tashi Tsering's series is a good start at some of the fundamentals. If you do decide to read those books, I would recommend against reading them like a novel. Instead, spend a semester or a year studying each book. There is…