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  • I totally and completely relate to you, @Angus ! I waste a lot of my life on online compulsions, usually around news media. It is a real mental health issue in my case. I have gone to therapy for this several times, each time resulting in some im…
  • Wherever Buddhism came and stayed, it married the local ways and produced a unique offspring. Think Tibetan, Zen or Pure Land- all quite unlike the original Buddhism of India, at least in appearance. And also in the West, I think it will need to …
  • I do not like calling myself a "Buddhist" these days. I have taken in some practices and attitudes, however, and am somewhat consistent trying to apply them. My personal experience with those is that one's direction should be dealing with truth …
  • Hi @federica . I acknowledge that lately I haven't been on my best behavior on here. Been trying to figure my path out and have gotten a bit too carried away. Really unsteady mind lately, and it shows in my words and actions. Not proud. A cons…
  • First, I don't think Buddhism has any whistles, only bells Second, good question that has been on my mind plenty. I do think that most of what goes by the name of Buddhism, has undeniable elements of religion. The process of rebirth or the pe…
  • Ha, curious how things work! This morning got into the car to drive home and turned on NPR. They just happened to have a conversation with Jack Kornfield on. He was sharing a vision that is rather positive and quite embracing of human-ness. Talke…
  • Happy New Year, all, and thank you for honoring my questions with responses! I am happy to see that some of you actually questioned original Buddhist teaching along the lines similar to what I expressed. And then arrived to interpretations that a…
  • Appreciate the thoughtful and to the point responses, @person ! I feel like I want to clarify where I am coming from with all my recent doubting. I have been to many retreats and have been a regular meditator for over 10 years, 7 of them as a par…
  • @Carameltail said: Maybe need another thread to talk about these things? Yeah, you are right, it does not belong in this thread. I have said all I had to say about sex and celibacy. Sex wasn't the point of this thread at all, I was te…
  • @person said: I can say for myself that I've been able to reduce my sexual cravings over the years. The mind in general seems pretty pliable with effort and also allows a wide range of experiences and states of being. Wholeheartedly agree…
  • I do not mean to be provocative but just trying to look at available evidence with an open mind, @federica . I realize that what I say may hurt those who are invested in spiritual traditions but I firmly believe that not saying this does much more h…
  • @federica said: Yeah, monks seem to on the whole, be ok with abstinence and celibacy. No emotional issues or hang-ups there. A layperson has no such restrictions, and self-imposed celibacy is both unnecessary and unrequired. I realize tha…
  • @lobster said: why not maximize joy rather than minimize suffering? Go for it. @shadowleaver said: In this post I will try to explore the very foundation of Buddhism, the Four Noble Truths. …
  • Thank you for the well thought out response, @person ! @person said: When referring to suffering Buddhism makes a further distinction between various levels of suffering. 1)Suffering of suffering. Which is the normal type of pain and lo…
  • Thank you, thank you, thank you all for bearing with my conflicting posts! So now, a few days later, I am looking back at the yearning, dissatisfaction and anger evident from my writing above and am really wondering: what was that all about? T…
  • @David said: Like others here have said, I can't help but wonder if Thich Nhat Hanhs style of Zen would be better suited for you. The Heart of the Buddha's Teachings is one of my favorites. In the Mangala Sutta Buddha addresses a deity ask…
  • Regarding the love and Playboy association made and commented on above: Love to me is what one feels when listening to Beethoven or seeing a long missed parent. That which is felt upon seeing Playboy imagery is something quite different. It ma…
  • @karasti said: I've never felt that Buddhism actively discourages loving relationships except for monastics of course. I've never felt unBuddhist for loving my children or husband. But I have found that that connection and love for them allows me…
  • @federica said: Remember that Buddhism isn't a Western religion, it comes from the East; and both the Middle and Far East have a different viewpoint when it comes to affairs of the heart. Arranged marriages, Polygamy, and sexual inequality I'm s…
  • @Bunks said: Ah. I see what you mean. There does seem to be a certain sense of "detachment" from the world if one is to fully realise this path in this life. Bear in mind, when you look at the bigger picture, we've all been brothers…
  • @Bunks said: You’ll need to define love for me I’m afraid. Are we talking attachment love I.e. I’ll love you as long as you act in a certain way? Or unconditional love I.e. I will wish you well and care about you regardless of your actions…
  • My personal anecdote: I had been very resistant to vegetarianism for a while. Somehow I was convinced that my body needed meat to feel well. I seemed to feel light headed and empty if I wasn't consuming meet for over a couple of days. But as t…
  • I view teachings regarding rebirth as allegories that describe the flow of psychological changes during this only life that we know. Yes, I can listen to the Tibetan book of the Dead, overlook the otherworldly stuff and still find the imagery helpfu…
  • I sometimes fall into a rut and desperately look for answers on forums and such, @satcittananda . But there is no answer out there. Be a lamp onto yourself, Buddha said. There is some deep yearning within you that fuels your search- forget Buddhi…
  • @karasti you bring up some good points there, as always. regarding there being alternatives to Consumerist lifestyle Not really, as far as I can see. There are four possibilities as far as I can tell: be poor, rely on someone else, work a lot …
  • I suspect the points about being a parent leading to a deeper and more mature life experience are all true. But this thread is not about plusses or minuses of being a parent, it is about deliberately creating one's own offspring. Like I carefully s…
  • Some good argumentation there from environmental/social perspective. My wife has that view as well (coming out as a "no" regarding deliberate procreation)...Let me clarify my take, though. I see the primary lesson of Buddhism as recognizing the worl…
  • So during the last precepts ceremony at my Zen center, media was mentioned in the context of the precept about abstaining from intoxicants. That was reassuring for me to hear, as I have struggled greatly with Internet-powered obsessions... I am c…
  • I am a programmer working for for-profit companies. I have struggled a great deal trying to reconcile spirituality and work. That at times brought intense psychological suffering. My view of this has evolved quite a bit. At first I really felt g…
  • I feel the frustration, @Hozan . Listened to DJT's address in real time and felt hopelessness. And yet, we gotta step back and realize that we do not get to live in a world that aligns with our ideals. In fact, the powers that be have never been …
    in Trump Comment by shadowleaver June 2017
  • Rebirth is definitely in the classical Zen texts. In my school there is some reading during every retreat and the stuff is regularly mentioned. However, we take it more as a metaphora for what our mind does during this very life-- that is, its pr…
  • Appreciate your insights as usual, @karasti . Nevertheless, rural Americans alone do not account for all or even most Republican support. After all, rural population of the US is something like 20%. The bulk of Republican support comes from suburbu…
  • And yet, @karasti , we did not have as much tension 10, 20 or 30 years ago. Yes, there are objective divisions like you said but we are managing them poorly, compared to recent past. We will never be all the same but we must create an environment wh…
  • Much appreciated, @Shak . This guy Brad sees things very similarly to the way I do. Very relieved to hear that there are teachers in the Sangha with a more grounded view of humanity. I think now that polarization and division in this country h…
  • @person said: @shadowleaver I have felt much the same way, my politics being more center left than far left. I also resonate with Sam Harris' opinions around the topic. I'd highly recommend Jonathan Haidt, he's a (by his own admission) for…
  • @Dakini , here is the resource I meant: https://www.lionsroar.com/buddhist-teachers-respond-to-news-of-trumps-presidential-win/ PS. Regarding deportations of legal immigrants, I think I have some insight since all of my loved ones have walked the…
  • @Dakini : just to be clear, the alarmism I was talking about was shared by the minority of members, even though that minority was vocal and has senior members. Some folks in my Sangha seemed to also not be thrilled by the dynamics. Also, a couple o…
  • Thanks so much, @genkaku : that totally made my day!
  • Looking at Europe now turning away from Right-wing ideology, I am tempted to say that we, Americans, are taking one for the West. A part of me thinks it's all for the better in the long term. Now there is a real cause for people to care and to ac…
    in Trump Comment by shadowleaver May 2017
  • While this will sound like magic, I really believe it, based on personal experience: At times there is someone in my life that I perceive as being negative to me in some way. At first my reaction is: they are over there, I am over here and they a…