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  • We're still low carb, but once-a-week I take my elderly dog out for a doughnut, for a treat for him. He loves it. The people who work in the doughnut shop all know him and laugh when he's tethered outside, looking in through the doorway, and he's …
  • Jim Rohm reckoned we become the average of the five people we spend the most time with. I believe that to be true in my experience. For example I'm a sober alcoholic because I spend time with other alcoholics in recovery. And I'm a fit bloke who …
  • Didn't Pema Chodron give a talk called 'this moment is the perfect teacher?'
    in Teachers Comment by Tosh May 25
  • @person said: I find most of what John talks about to be well worth considering. Like John says the industry obviously needs more oversight and expertise and knowing about such problems helps us consumers make better decisions. I don't th…
  • "I love you Laurel!" "Who the hell is Yanny?"
  • Not being the smartest, pain and suffering have been my chief teachers.
    in Teachers Comment by Tosh May 17
  • @Kaydeekay said:What else is there to do? Not a lot, really. When it comes to our exes, normally the best thing we can do for them is to stay away. I have met a few women in A.A. who have asked me to be their sponsor. They say stuff lik…
    in Guilt Comment by Tosh April 11
  • @Kaydeekay said: As an exercise, I'm trying to replay my 'good deeds', like the past volunteering I've done. Why can't you try to amend the situation you feel guilty about? If you've harmed someone, can't you apologise and ask what you c…
    in Guilt Comment by Tosh April 6
  • @Bunks said: It’s more important to focus on how to get out of suffering than worry about where it began. No one on here will ever be able to answer that question. I think evolutionary science can offer an insight into suffering. Our bra…
  • Nice to see this is still going. From November to the end of December we came off low carb and went back to eating, well, anything. The result was that we had both gained weight and didn't feel as good as when we're low carb. So 2nd Jan, we wen…
  • @Vanilli said: Has anyone else struggled with this and does anyone have any advice that they'd kindly share please? Oh, yes, lots and lots of it. I've been a real idiot - massively so - when I was younger. I've even abandoned a fa…
    in Guilt Comment by Tosh April 5
  • I think some problems can't be tackled head on. I'm thinking of my alcoholism; trying to stop drinking wasn't the solution to stopping drinking, because I couldn't (not for any length of time). The approach which helped me isn't much different f…
  • @FoibleFull said: Do you ever notice the happiness when the painful experience IS pleasant. That is a much-greater challenge. Sounds kinky!
  • Thich Naht Hahn, who I find a bit flowery for my tastes, does a good explanation of emptiness here: https://www.lionsroar.com/the-fullness-of-emptiness/
  • I'm joking, joking, joking!
  • @person said: if we give up our own decision making Are you married?
  • One thing I like about LCHF is that you don't get that hungry-angry thing going on. Some days I just eat two meals and absolutely nothing in-between. And it's easy; no hunger. For me that's the 'magic'. I also think it's my body's way of s…
  • @Kerome said: But that’s just me, I’m quite attached to sugar. Me too, but no healthy diet, low carb or not, would allow for the quantities I consume. I'm an 'all or nothing' guy; I can't have just a little bit. And who the heck…
  • @karasti said: In ultraracing there are actually quite a lot of people who do keto, it is ideal for that kind of pursuit. When you start talking running 50KM+ it gets very hard to hold food down. When you are a carb-based athlete, you have to eat…
  • @DairyLama said: @Tosh said: I suspect the concept of what many people think meditation should be prevents many from doing it. What do you think Buddhist meditation is for? The cultivation of wisdom. What do…
  • @DairyLama said: @Tosh said:> I've read somewhere that meditation doesn't really start till you start getting bored and hacked off with it. Another view is that if you get bored in meditation you're not doing it right, …
  • @lobster said: * service providers not users Nicked; that'll be useful in 12 Step circles. My take on Buddhism is that the 4th NT breaks down into three categories: * Live an ethical life. * Meditate * Practise compas…
  • @federica said: The irony is, of course, that this is YOUR thread..... Naw; I merely started it; or the universe made me do it. I've a planned relapse towards the end of the month because I'm running a road race, so want some carbs for…
  • I fell off the low carb wagon in about August last year as I ramped up the weekly running mileage for an ultra marathon which I ran in November (46 miles around the Brecon Beacons). Since finishing the ultra marathon and Christmas, I went from 17…
  • I reckon science agrees with the 'pleasure' and 'happiness' conundrum (happiness being contentment, a feeling of abundance, and peace). Pleasure is dopamine fuelled; a lot of street drugs targets whatever bits of the brain this is. Whereas it'…
  • I've read somewhere that meditation doesn't really start till you start getting bored and hacked off with it.
  • I've no advice, but I always think people who come out as transgender are brave. I spent a long time in the British army and in the early 1990s we had a male Warrant Officer who came out as transgender. Fair play to the British army, where homosex…
  • I'd still have to go to work.
  • @lobster said: @Tosh photograph intrigued me. He now makes a partial living from photography. So why this blurred image of his wife with a cropped elbow from a mobile phone? Tee Hee. Now Zen? Now then ... We were bot…
  • I find I can't force a change, but what I can do is do stuff, or avoid stuff, and depending on what I'm doing or not doing, change happens. It's a bit like getting fit. I can't force myself to be fit, but I can 'do stuff', like run, which create…
  • @karasti said: they are curious happenings aren't they? Yours and others, OP. How many times do we hear stories where a person is irritatingly delayed only to find they missed a bad accident by 2 minutes? But what about that person who didn't …
  • I'm halfway through a Stephen Ambrose WW2 history book and this thread reminds me of a bit I've just read. One atheist soldier in a foxhole spent the night with a Catholic soldier, mortars falling all around them, and the Catholic soldier spent the…
  • @karasti said: We have to learn to stop giving people reason to hate. We (as in the allied western powers) have created a lot of misery that has contributed to a lot of desperate people. I think everyone has a lot of learning to do to help end th…