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  • I've no advice, but I always think people who come out as transgender are brave. I spent a long time in the British army and in the early 1990s we had a male Warrant Officer who came out as transgender. Fair play to the British army, where homosex…
  • I'd still have to go to work.
  • @lobster said: @Tosh photograph intrigued me. He now makes a partial living from photography. So why this blurred image of his wife with a cropped elbow from a mobile phone? Tee Hee. Now Zen? Now then ... We were bot…
  • I find I can't force a change, but what I can do is do stuff, or avoid stuff, and depending on what I'm doing or not doing, change happens. It's a bit like getting fit. I can't force myself to be fit, but I can 'do stuff', like run, which create…
    in Will Change Comment by Tosh November 8
  • @karasti said: they are curious happenings aren't they? Yours and others, OP. How many times do we hear stories where a person is irritatingly delayed only to find they missed a bad accident by 2 minutes? But what about that person who didn't …
  • I'm halfway through a Stephen Ambrose WW2 history book and this thread reminds me of a bit I've just read. One atheist soldier in a foxhole spent the night with a Catholic soldier, mortars falling all around them, and the Catholic soldier spent the…
  • @karasti said: We have to learn to stop giving people reason to hate. We (as in the allied western powers) have created a lot of misery that has contributed to a lot of desperate people. I think everyone has a lot of learning to do to help end th…
  • @person said: @Tosh Since you have the time to listen to audio during your day and like history I can't recommend more highly the Hardcore History podcast by Dan Carlin. Haha; I've listened to loads of them, a year-or-two-ago. And yes, t…
  • I'm currently reading a book about photography, but I devour Audio books and pay a small fortune to Audible. I reckon I listen to a book a week from Audible; I do mostly solitary manual work, and it's like I get paid to listen to talking books. …
  • Catch 22 is class. I've read some of Joseph Heller's other stuff (over a decade ago now) and I think he's a brilliant, but much under-rated writer.
  • Apologies, Kerome, I assumed you'd been living off someone else going to work! I'm good at leaping to conclusions!
  • @Kerome said:I've been unemployed for six years and in that time the most useful thing I've found to do is study the dharma ... nothing else has even come close. Can I ask how have you been supported in the way of food, clothing and shelter …
  • @Frosty said: In Buddhism, where is the source of the strength when you run out of it? We are all finite. There is a limit to how much strength we can harness and possess. What is the "other" part that gives us strength when we are seeming out…
  • @Traveller said: Schizophrenia is more than likely an umbrella term for several different conditions that have similar symptoms. My schizophrenia is probably not genetic for instance but is caused by damage to my nervous system by street drugs. …
    in schizophrenic Comment by Tosh July 14
  • A quiet mind and a tired body are the two requirements for a good night's sleep. If you're not exercising, start, and if your mind isn't quiet, welcome to Buddhism. Hahahaha; I'm like an annoying Yoda.
    in Sleeping pills Comment by Tosh July 9
  • @federica said: I take Zopiclone, but very rarely. I have a pack of 28 tablets, each one divided in two, making 56 doses. It takes me about 6 - 8 months to get through them all. It's good you take them rarely; I haven't heard good things …
    in Sleeping pills Comment by Tosh July 9
  • @Hozan said: Speaking as an Irish person who wants continued peace in NI. I spent quite a few years in NI as a soldier during The Troubles. First tour was 1989 at North Howard Street Mill, just off the Falls Road. It was a typical 'h…
    in UK elections. Comment by Tosh June 10
  • @Kerome said: It sounds like a hung parliament from the early results Yes, I agree, hang the ruddy lot of them. I'd like to see a bit less politicking and a bit more governing.
    in UK elections. Comment by Tosh June 10
  • @techie said: In Buddhism, our original nature is Buddha nature. In Christianity (not in all schools) our original nature is sinful. In the Old Testament Adam and Eve were created and lived in the Garden of Eden until they ate fruit from …
  • In Germany I lived in Bergen Hohne, just two miles from Bergen Belsen, infamous for the concentration camp. It was an old Germany army WW2 barrack block converted into married quarters. One of these rooms was our utility room and we permanently …
  • @grackle said: @Tosh. Thanks for the heartwarming post. It must be wonderful to see others recover and help out along the way. Yes, it is lovely. Sad though at times too. I was joking with an A.A. lady last night and our conversation …
  • I love seeing addicts/alkies recover. We've a very young heroin addict (and alcoholic) in our area; she was grimly underweight and I suspected on some kind of prescription drug (like subutex) coming to our local meetings. One of the older ladies t…
  • @Kerome said: Yet recently it occurs to me that this state is not dissimilar to drunkenness, in that the clear vision one has of things to be done I guess it all depends on what our concept of happiness is. My old concept of happiness wa…
  • I don't like pain of any description. Personally, I'd prefer to think of psychological pain as a reminder that I'm often doing something wrong and see what I can learn from it. And there are types of psychological pain that are perfectly natural…
    in Pain, ego Comment by Tosh April 21
  • @karasti said: Our ability to squat is actually quite important to our health, from the pelvic floor in women to flexibility and strength. Most cultures keep that ability, but those of us who think furniture is the answer to being superior over s…
  • @karasti said: It amazes me that people can hold planks for so long! It's fun to see progress and be able to hold them longer. They are definitely not my favorite. But both core and glute strength have contributed to my SI joint/sciatica issue, s…
  • @grackle said: @Tosh. I was wondering if you had considered body weight squats until you are ready to eventually resume your regular squats. For me even these simple squats help with stamina and agility. I like to feel grounded and to maintain th…
  • @grackle said: @Tosh. Its hard to imagine training without the squat. I've had to drop working legs because it kills my running, which is my main focus now. I'm trying to train for an ultra marathon in November, but have races along the …
  • @karasti said: My husband has been lifting weights 3 times a week. I admit I continue to be jealous at the ease most men (including him) have at putting on muscle from basic 30 min weight routines. I have to do months of 45+ mins of weights to ev…
  • Carbs are a maximum; there's no problems being under the maximum. Fat is a minimum (you need a minimum amount to be healthy though there's no problems in going over that) and protein is a target (you need a certain amount to be healthy). I only …
  • I have a lot of thoughts - they just kinda appear. Some of them are good, some of them are neutral, and some of them are just down-right not good at all. One of the things I have learnt over the past few years is not to trust my thoughts too muc…
  • @grackle said: If he wants you to be "hot" to stoke his desires that is placing the responsibility on you. Manifestly unfair. It's a two way street. What is he willing to do. If after four years of marriage he wants you to get all tarted up to tu…
  • @karasti “What you eat makes quite a difference. Just counting calories won’t matter much unless you look at the kinds of calories you’re eating.” Yes, spot on; a calorie isn't just a calorie, it's a calorie + information. Depending o…
  • @SpinyNorman said: In my opinion obesity is basically a result of eating too much and exercising too little. More walking, less Neapolitan! I was overweight, yet lifting 3 or 4 times a week and running 30 to 40 miles a week. No…
  • Hi karasti, sorry, I can't help you; I've never looked into it at the same level of depth as yourself. I did go through a phase of counting carbs and calories to lose weight, which worked (we kept it under 20g of carbs per day) but now we're both…