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federica · seeker of the clear blue sky · Moderator

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Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt
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  • @Bunks said: I'd refer you to a book called "The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying" to get an in depth idea of what the Tibetan's believe happens to consciousness (mindstream) at the time of death and afterward. I know @federica is a huge fan of t…
  • existence
  • @kando said: Sometimes just being human is enough! I would think it's essential....!
  • @FairyFeller said: I’ve made my own in the past but wanted something special this time. The ones I have made tended to have either the nylon or elasticated cord I’m now trying to avoid, is there a strong but comfortable cord you would recommend?…
  • The big problem I had in conveying certain behaviours to people, is that the words 'ignore' and 'indifferent' are viewed as negative, on the whole, with regard to Human behaviour. But if you 'ignore' a dog, it doesn't mean you are punishing the do…
  • I subscribe to Matthieu Ricard's articles and 'Thought of the Week' Posts. He's done more to lift my spirits in the past 3 months than anything else has. Not that I've been particularly negatively affected, but it's been gratifying to read his thoug…
  • @Linc will need to address this....
  • @specialkayme I need to tell you something, and I hope you will take it with the good spirit with which it is intended. I'm looking at this situation entirely from the dog's PoV. You dog doesn't have cancer. It doesn't know what cancer is. …
  • @David said: I do like to think Buddha was able to clear up these kinds of understandings without lowering himself to insulting somebody over it. I understand that what I prefer to think may not be the case but it doesn't make much sense. Sure, I ca…
  • And then people wonder why I'm a pedant....
  • I have always made my own... there are a couple of very good videos online on how to secure the beads with interspacing knots to prevent huge loss in case of breaking, and a nice video on finishing a slip knot....
  • The problem with humans is that we are too cerebral. We think. Too much. We have forgotten or too-long ignored that primary sensory instinct, that quality which unites us with animals, and have focused too much on developing and refining the intelle…
  • What you think, and what actually is, differ. If it were the other way round, we'd be living in an Orwellian universe and life would be very different. There is no question that some animals are more sentient than others. But such sentience …
  • That maybe either the original meaning has been misinterpreted, the translation is awry - or that he would never have referred to anyone in those terms, because such terms are judgemental, and he - according to his status - would have been anything …
  • Well I'm glad that's been cleared up...
  • @kando said: Animals are exactly what they are. I do find myself envying that a lot! I like to meditate outdoors and everything out there is just getting on with it. I don't think about other lives as this one is quite complex enough all on its o…
  • As a dog behaviourist, one of the worst "crimes" a dog-owner can 'commit' is to treat the dog like a person; a member of the family. Now before anyone jumps my throat for that one, there are obvious degrees to that, and loving your pet and wanting…
  • For ease of location....
  • In my opinion, while Mindfulness training may help now, it may be useful to seek the root original cause to expose and expunge what ails you. In my opinion.
  • Yes; calculating the use of Right Speech is the sign of a good Diplomatic mind. On that, I couldn't possibly comment....
  • @kando said: You missed 'watch out there's a Humphrey about' @federica, my all time favorite piece of advertising mayhem 😁 Apologies. It won't happen again.
  • Not true. That's like saying that what happens to you, you can't help, because your behaviour is alien. It makes the fault/responsibility lighter. But that's not strictly accurate. Because it brings out a side of you that exists all the time. You…
  • When you say 'people', who do you mean, exactly? Those who run the 'cults' or those who have escaped....? All attitudes, opinions and interactions will be completely different.... at opposite ends of the spectrum I would say....
    in Cults Comment by federica July 12
  • @Kerome said: I’m reliably informed that the best way to start people thinking about how their cult may be irrational is to ask difficult questions. So I’m going to practice formulating some of these. Thanks @lobster for the examples of cults …
    in Cults Comment by federica July 12
  • @Kerome said: That’ll teach me not to click on every shortened link... Part of my 'job' is to check everything out... so I'm not really surprised you missed it.... Not to worry!
  • @Kerome... If you look closely... that's just about the same story I put in my post above yours...
  • "Go to work on an egg." "Naughty but Nice!" "Nice one Cyril!" "You only get an 'ooh!' with Typhoo!" "Because Life's Complicated Enough" "Finger-Lickin' good!" "Fly the Flag" I guarantee you, @Ugyen_Yeshe 's will be better, though.... But wi…
  • in Cults Comment by federica July 11
  • Are you putting up a link...?
  • @Frankj said: But, isn't altering you mind in the slightest bit bad when it comes to the precepts? With that being said, is there one precept that takes priority over another? Is it worse to lie opposed to getting drunk or buzzed, giggly? …
  • Go for it. Every curve is a learning curve....
  • This is as sound as it gets..... With humble thanks to @Brian for publishing this......
  • By the way; the "Steel Man" discourse is also utilised in Relationship Counselling and is known as "The Speaker/Listener Technique". It's been used in counselling fo at least 20 years now. I know; I was trained in it myself, in the late 90's....
  • It's also having the gift of hearing what they DON'T say; knowing how to read 'between the lines'.
  • You have already been told how to counteract negative Karma; by focusing on the present, and generating beneficial karma. Also, nowhere in the texts or suttas, or even the sutras, does the word 'leprosy' occur, and how to counteract it, arise. G…