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  • I always thought "dreams bring out what we long for or what we fear" was a pretty good definition.
  • Would you say your practice gets easier with age? @mingle -- Still looking for a silver lining, are you? "Easier" and "harder" are for high school math tests. Practice probably becomes less solemn as time passes, but I'm not sure. To be hone…
    in Turning 30 Comment by genkaku October 14
  • @Mingle -- Take up Buddhism for a change. It may help you to stop believing in time, believing in age, believing in death and worrying about stepping in the dog shit we all step in from time to time. Or, alternatively, find a nice quiet corner, s…
    in Turning 30 Comment by genkaku October 13
  • If you "don't know," what good would it do you? If you "do know," what good would it do you? From this it can be known that what is good for you is suspect at best ... just like what is bad for you.
  • Welcome @jhutter33 -- hope you find something useful here. I suppose if you look long enough and far enough, you can find a statue of "Buddha" doing parkour. Of course that and $2 will get you a bus ride. Symbolism and tall tales have their uses …
  • If you think that suffering will be alleviated because you DO have children, think again. If you think that suffering will be alleviated because you DON'T have children, think again. Kids (full disclosure: I have three) are the closest thing I…
  • If I could, I would urge everyone to relax a little. "Spiritual" stuff isn't labeled and then offered in Aisle 3. Wanting to get things right (spiritually speaking) is only half the story. The other half is getting them sometimes horribly wrong. …
  • I hesitate to mention it, but ... oh what the hell! Once upon a time, in what I then imagined was my trip to the corporate spiritual board room, I mentioned casually to my mother that I was going to try to give up cussing. She looked at me with s…
  • Hey guys! After you have sorted all this out and got the Jell-O nailed to the wall, would you let me know? At 77, I haven't got a clue.
  • September 30 edited September 30 @genkaku said: Call and ask. Of course. One problem. We have a language barrier. I speak no Vietnamese (and Cambodian, Thai, and Japanese). I've researched this. So I am asking you guys too and seeing what…
  • Call and ask.
  • For an introductory while, the mythic and poetic was kool and tasty. Now I stick with the graffito I once saw: "Man without God/ Is like a fish without a bicycle."
  • Funny how "letting go" has the capacity to reinforce attachment. After all, in order to let go, a person is forced to restate what, precisely, needs to be let go of and the result can be a dog endlessly chasing its tail. Hard as it may be, perhap…
  • @nakazcid -- Two possibilities, among others: 1. When something seems too big for you, whittle it down to bite-sized portions. Try meditating for a mere fraction of what you did before. Go small ... as small as you need to. See what happens. 2. D…
  • Isn't "making peace with death" just one more fantasy desire to be able to foretell the future? Pretty arrogant, I suspect -- claiming to know what death is and then making peace with it. I thought one of the characteristics of the future was tha…
  • Welcome @adamcrossley. Hope you find something useful here. * It may help you to recall that what you call "Buddhism" is built for the failures ... it is not built for the successes. What you currently see as a downside to your poor, hobbling p…
  • Sneezewareness? @Dhammika -- I've got five bucks that says you can't do that. PS. The Zen teacher Ummon once observed, "When you can't say it, it's present. When you don't say it, it's missing." FWIW.
  • Make your very best effort to have a wise and profound thought when sneezing. Learn from the sneeze.
  • For the first eight or nine years of my practice, I almost never heard anyone mention the precepts (don't lie, steal, cheat, etc.) I tried to 'study' them on my own. It didn't seem to work very well, but I never was a very good student. After eig…
  • Welcome @jsimon329 -- Hope you find something useful here. I have never heard of the steps you outline, but would suggest you go easy on whatever recommendations you run into. Recommendations point, but it is how you follow that pointing that cou…
    in PLEASE HELP Comment by genkaku August 30
  • There's not much choice, is there? Whether anyone goes kicking and screaming or serene as a kumquat, still there's not much choice. All the fairy tales in the world, religious or otherwise, can't change the facts.
  • Will someone explain to me how you could possibly LOSE beginner's mind?
  • As an assistant during one Zen meditation retreat, I suggested to the teacher that instead of having longer sitting periods, there should be an announced sitting of only four or five minutes. He scoffed at the idea, although later in the day he anno…
  • I once asked my Zen teacher if hope and belief had a role to play in the practice we preferred. "For the first four or five years [of practice]," he replied, "hope and belief are important." "And after that?" I asked. "After that, they are not so im…
  • If I said yes, I would be in the same trouble I would be if I said no. All things considered, I think I'd rather play bingo.
  • As Buddhism proves, names never meant much.
  • Be patient. My preference is to stick with breath-counting: Each time you feel yourself drifting away from the counting -- eg. 1, 2, 3, 4, I want a hamburger -- return immediately to one and begin again. It is infuriating, at first, to find how undi…
  • I forget who said it, but I always liked it: "Do not be too virtuous. Too much virtue makes a person crazy."
  • attracts a certain kind of person, someone with a kind of gentleness, sensitivity and purity. Sometimes they surprise you... Stick around. The glow dims or waxes, but whose business is that? Everyone suffers or has unsatisfactory corners in …
  • Welcome @lookingforlight. Hope you find something useful here. Besides your reading adventures, I suggest you take up a small agenda of meditation. In this way, what is called Buddhism will not become a crystal slipper you feel you must adhere to an…
  • As a possibility within this sometimes complex mix: To the extent (financially/psychologically) possible, consider adding a third party (social worker, home health aide, psychologist) to the chemistry of an aging parent and younger family member as …
  • But if what's happening to me is more like a diving well, where there is no light at the end of the tunnel and it just keeps getting darker, they'll be a point where I've gone too deep and there isn't a chance to make it back. I think one of…
  • I'm assuming this isn't normal. @specialkayme -- The fact that you assume it isn't normal is the only abnormal thing going on, from where I sit. If you assume that meditation is going to strew flower petals in your path and everything is goi…
  • Everyone suffers in or out of uniform. I once corresponded with a military chaplain about the moral ambiguity of his profession. If his highest authority said "thou shalt not kill," how did that square up with his profession within a military cha…
  • When it comes to dying, a buddy of mine had the last word when he wrote, "I'd like to die with a smile on my face, but I guess I'll take what I get."
    in How to die Comment by genkaku July 21
  • I keep my practice pretty private in order to not have toxic people infect it. @karasti -- Funny ... there was a time when I kept my practice pretty private in order not to infect others, toxic or otherwise. These days, my grip has relaxed a…
  • If I don't go, I'll end up just walking away and giving up altogether. @dhammachick -- Wanna bet? Is that before or after you walk away from sneezing?
  • Why? It's like the army ... do it because the sergeant says so.
  • Assuming you mean zazen, you might try, https://zmm.mro.org/teachings/meditation-instructions/ If you're looking to assert your ascendancy, have a hotdog.
    in zen Comment by genkaku July 9
  • This is something that I, as a one-time-student who is now 'of a certain age,' wonder about: Put one way, it is the natural progression of the child or student whose parents/teachers die or retire or relinquish or whatever ... leaving the child or s…
  • A sense of humor helps.