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Something I have struggled since I stopped believing in a man in the sky years ago. Where does it come from? If I wanna nice car why shouldn't I just steal it from someone else? Why would that make me weak? I get that there is prece…
Do we really have to force ourselves to let things go? I understand that to engage ourselves in some sort of discipline may change us, but I think there is a more natural way to that. If you meditate long enough, your perspective will change, your p…
This question reminded me of a passage in Jon Kabat-Zinn's book, "Wherever you go, there you are". He quotes a student, who told him:
"When I was a Buddhist, it drove my parents and friends crazy, but when I am a Buddha, nobody is upset at all."
If we are in a garden, what do we see? Red flowers, yellow flowers, many shades of green. Some flowers may have thorns, some plants may grow in uncommon shapes. However, we don't think that any of these must be fixed, or handled. We just appreciate …
I've been thinking a little about "I" and what it means.
If "me" is my whole body, mind games and thoughts included, then how come people who lose an arm or a leg keep a sense of self?
Or people who suffer brain damage?
Hello. I am a practitioner of Soto Zen. As my practice is deepening, I am feeling slightly apprehensive. I enjoy reading, writing and listening to music, however, I feel like my practice requires these hobbies to dissolve.
I think compassion and kindness come from understanding, empathy and selflessness. These are internal aspects that may be cultivated. The acts are secondary and will naturally derivate from these intentions when they are strong enough.
I think we focus to much in what to do with our problems. And because of that, we seek formulas about how to deal with this and that. Naturally, in a Buddhist forum, we look for Buddhist solutions.
My impression is that the "do" part is the end o…
@vinlyn, there are people who can explain it much better than me. For example, Tara Brach, with her concept of radical acceptance:
If we think about mindfulness as awareness with acceptance — acceptance meaning non-judgement — the author makes a good point: we focus more at the awareness (which is the easy part) and less at the acceptance (which is the difficult part).
For instance, if this glass were to break, normally you would experience suffering. We know that this glass will be a cause for suffering, so we get rid of the cause. All dhammas arise because of a cause. They must also cease because of a cause. Now…
My feeling about the article was that if you cannot adequately and precisely identify the alleged problem -- "death" -- then any solution is likely to be fuzzy at best. But that's just me.
I agree with you. Death is usually…
Hello everybody. From what I've read, a person filled with equanimity will feel sympathetic joy when seeing a happy being, compassion when seeing a suffering being and friendliness when seeing any being. According to th…
After reading another thread on anger, I decided to read a book by Thich Nhat Hanh caller Anger: Wisdom For Cooling the Flames. Most of what I've read so far I agree with, including "tending" your anger and eating mindfully. Howev…
Call Me by My True Names
Do not say that I'll depart tomorrow
because even today I still arrive.
Look deeply: I arrive in every second
to be a bud on a spring branch,
to be a tiny bird, with wi…
Thinking and exploring more deeply (instead of just turning the page), I came to realize that, whether on the smaller or larger scale, anger is anger. If someone accuses me of doing something I didn’t do, I get quite upset. If the …
I'm not sure, but isn't your controlled breathing... natural? You could observe whatever happens, even that, noticing how your mind creates an expectation and judges your practice. And it's ok.
Just for clarification... The chapter in question is called "Abandon Any Hope of Fruition". She starts this chapter by saying:
"Our next slogan is 'Abandon any hope of fruition.' You could also say, 'Give up all hope' or 'Give up' or just 'Give.'…
Indeed, these are awful lyrics. You are right to feel the way you do. However, to point these things to people that don't want to hear them (as you do in other forums) is really beneficial? I imagine they will probably just shut you out and become e…
Do you experience anything like this? Not actual compassion or (agape) love but some sort of pity born of fear.....
Yes, because there is a lot of suffering in someone who harms others, and acting like this just buries them…
The clouds above us join and separate,
The breeze in the courtyard leaves and returns.
Life is like that, so why not relax?
Who can stop us from celebrating?”
― Lu Yu
Thank you for the reminder
@yagr, I'm very sorry to hear that you've been through this. I don't know how you should act, I don't have any more answers. But I hope you find some way to deal with this that's beneficial to you and your wife.