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  • @vinlyn who is complaining about anyone's cherry picking in this thread? A bit confused by your cherry picking comment, as I didn't see anyone complaining in either case. But maybe I missed something. It's a subtle issue throughout much of t…
  • @federica said: @vinlyn said: @federica said: @Bunks said: I know I am harping on a bit about it but I do struggle with the idea that as a single person I should stop having sex. …
  • Interesting that we pick and choose how we pick and choose. Everyone cherry picks and complains when others cherry pick. I include myself in this general comment.
  • @federica said: @Bunks said: I know I am harping on a bit about it but I do struggle with the idea that as a single person I should stop having sex. I don't know that that is a recommendation or expectation. It migh…
  • @upekka said: @dhammachick said: Ok so I guess rushing in and taking that pesky chemo 20 years ago was pointless too right? i did the same thing 15 years ago I mean if I'd just WAITED the cancer would…
    in Mx Angry Comment by vinlyn July 20
  • @karasti said: As always, I appreciate TNH's approach to the precepts. I do think it is time to extend the precepts to include newer phenomenon and account for our more modern lives. And as always, it depends who you ask. HHDL has always maintain…
  • @Shoshin said: If you think about the sexual act, for most sexually active people, 'pleasure' is a driving force...a 'desire' to "satisfy" an urge ( be it short lived satisfaction)... At times perhaps making babies is a goal for some …
  • @lobster said: Incidentally asking celibates for help on sexuality is like asking an anorexic for gateaux baking recomendations ... * I'm not asking them for help on having sex. I'm asking for their understanding of Buddhist script…
  • @Bunks said: Just to add to the confusion: What about a single person sleeping with a prostitute? The vibe I got from some interpretations of the third precept is that if you're single you should be celibate. Not sure how I f…
  • @Jeffrey said: I think it's about not harming. With adultery that would also be 4th precept unless the spouse knows about it and then it is an open relationship or something that the couple decided for their own relationship. For gay relationsh…
  • @karasti said: @vinlyn it's funny how so few words can make you think. Indeed, how often we mistake the two. This is why I am now particularly working on mindfulness above all else.
    in 4NT Revisited. Comment by vinlyn July 18
  • @eggsavior said: no matter what kind of Buddhism we partake in or any at all we will undoubtedly suffer and wallow in ignorance. if we find something, in Buddhism or outside of Buddhism, which helps us find peace and understanding, what else is t…
  • @upekka said: ... in my case i had been deluded 54 years (more than five decades) I know the feeling. Three weeks ago I learned that in some ways I have been coasting through life. I have mistaken being nice for being good.
    in 4NT Revisited. Comment by vinlyn July 18
  • @Dhammika said: And when things seem confounding and unclear, I remember something Bhante Gunaratana wrote somewhere, to the effect that: Even delusion is impermanent. Nice thought, but I've known people who have been deluded for at least…
    in 4NT Revisited. Comment by vinlyn July 18
  • My grandparents raised me, and after I graduated from college and moved to the D.C. area, my grandmother often wanted to visit. For me, it was hell. Hindsight is always so easy, of course, but looking back what I should have done is set very clear…
  • Nicely expressed, Karasti!
  • @federica said: I think two things: Extensive periods of time with definite set figures are - figurative. Rather like Christ's 40 days and 40 nights. Metaphorical figure implying it took a while. Secondly, who was it said it's the journey,…
  • @karasti said: See, and I'm not so sure we can't simply be enlightened here and now. I'm not saying it's something most of us could do, as our blockages don't just disappear usually. But apparently it is possible, per several teachers. Including …
  • @techie said: Normally when people use a certain number (such as 100 times or 500 times), they mean the path is extremely long and arduous. They are not talking math or probability. They're implying that enlightenment is not an overnight process.…
  • @person said: Fair enough. I'm just trying to say that the biggest area of contention I've had with traditional Buddhists isn't so much ontological (what kind of stuff there is) but epistemic (what is knowledge, how we come to know what we kn…
  • @karasti said: If it takes a lay person 500 lifetimes, how many does it take a monk? And isn't it safe to say that a monk probably isn't a monk all those lifetimes, just as a layperson isn't solely a layperson for 500 lifetimes? What if this lay …
  • @Jeffrey said: We don't see where anyone goes after they die. So who knows. But if some Buddhist were to stop clinging would we expect them to disappear? Like in a puff of smoke? Ha I don't think so. But what a way to go!
  • @person said: ...but it might not be fully accurate to say that it would take 500 lifetimes. I appreciate the post. But keep in mind I said "may" take 500 lifetimes, not "would".
  • @karasti said: For me, I don't have any goals, long term, for my reasons of being Buddhist. I didn't arrive here so that I could end rebirth. If that's where I end up, then we'll go from there, LOL. for me it has always been about finding peace a…
  • @David said: I especially think it's cute when people mistake Hotei for the Buddha and talk about rubbing his chubby belly for luck. I counter by comparing it to sitting on Jesus's lap at the mall asking him to bring toys. I still hav…
  • @silver said: So, I take it not talking about it is a shorter route to nirvana? Yes, am asking how a layperson can practice Buddhism and achieve liberation so they aren't reborn again. Am not sure, but isn't it or wouldn't that be one of …
  • @upekka said: @vinlyn said: I think that's possible, and they are what would be referred to as "Silent Buddhas". Silent Buddhas are Pacceka Buddhas I know that.
    in Unbinding Comment by vinlyn July 13
  • @karasti said: For my part, I'm not sure I believe there is only room for one Buddha. As it goes, we all have the identical nature of Buddha within us. If there can only be one on earth at any time, as well as on earth only when the teachings of …
    in Unbinding Comment by vinlyn July 13
  • http://www.vipassana.com/resources/nutshell_path_to_nibbana.php
    in Unbinding Comment by vinlyn July 12
  • @Shoshin said: Sitting meditation and or ritual practice aside (due to the fact some do and some don't)... Can one's Dharma practice be separated from daily life ? Eg one's thoughts words and deeds when interacting with other sentient beings, be …
  • @upekka said: the end goal in Buddhism is Nibbana/nirvana if i am correct, Nibbana is translated into english as liberation/freedom/emptiness/unbinding in other words Nibbana = liberation = freedom = emptiness = form = unbinding …
    in Unbinding Comment by vinlyn July 11
  • @karasti said: When my local sangha meets on Sundays, we spend 30 mins meditating together, and 40 mins or so discussing (we usually go over). It's really nice to meditate with a group. Sometimes we go weeks without meeting and I miss it. Our san…
  • @dhammachick said: I'm going back to the sangha in August after a few year's absence. I'm looking forward to it. I need it. If I don't go, I'll end up just walking away and giving up altogether. I can understand your feeling. I had not…
  • It has been very interesting. I give them 2 English lessons a week, and I interweave me teaching them English and having them explain things about Buddhism that I've never quite understood (from more technical aspects to tattoos). Then on Sunday t…
  • Interesting, Karasti.
  • Due to a heart issue, I can no longer take melatonin.
    in Sleeping pills Comment by vinlyn July 11
  • In Pali it is transliterated as "Vassa". By Westerners it is often called the Rains Retreat or Buddhist Lent, but that's not really accurate. Wikipedia actually has a pretty good short article about it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vassa
  • @Shoshin said: I like that, and I think it answers the question.
  • @federica said: What I mean is this: There can be no happiness, contentment peace and fulfilment if the things you say are different to the things you do. If we say one thing, but do another, we reveal the truth about ourselves. Acti…
  • I liked that he addressed "pop Buddhism".
  • I like that. I'm not quite sure what it means about "Drive all blames into one". Anyone have any thoughts about that one? I'm also not clear why one should be "grateful" to everyone, although what I have been trying to do more in the past week …
  • @grackle said: A Pacceka-Buddha is often referred to as a silent or private buddha. He is an arhat who knows the entire scope of Dhamma but lacks the ability to become a teacher of gods and men. This is what I was taught long ago. Yes, I …
  • Well, I had a very interesting evening at the temple. When I arrived there were 5 Thai women there who were very welcoming, and they come from a town up in the mountains that's a 2 hour drive away. First there was the ceremony to bless the food st…
  • @CedarTree said: I think in Thailand they actually have monks giving certain forms of tattoos? Actually, yes, that is true. Personally, I've never been to such a temple, but there are some temples which are actually quite famous for it. …
  • @CedarTree said: I hope you feel better and that you are greeted well at the temple The monks at this temple are VERY welcoming, and I actually thanked them for that today. Of course the two 30-ish monks are most welcoming, but even the…
  • I will never forget years ago a 9th grade student of mine (so he would have been about 14) managed to get a rather large tattoo on his forearm without his parent's permission. They were furious. Nevertheless, he was quite excited about his tattoo.…