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who is to say what is morally correct? acting like the morals police will definitely not make things easier for you friend. Kids are kids and they are going to make comments and say stuff like that to test their limits and be cool for their friends. I remember in high school they made us go watch Schindler's list in the movies and there was plenty of jokes going around, I'd venture to say I probably even participated in one or two.
there are times where you should speak up, perhaps in defense of others, and other times where it's better to keep watch on your own thoughts and words and not worry about what others do and say.
as you get older you will realize that what people do and say is their own kamma, you cannot save or change others and putting them on the defensive is certainly not going to be helpful.
and also don't be hard on yourself, if you meditate and practice mindfulness you will know what to do because you are fully aware of the entirety of the situation.