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  • Re: Thoughts on Meditation

    @PremaSagar said:
    One worry that occurred to me was the idea that such a practice could zombify and make me placid yet dull.

    There's your problem right there.

    lobsterHozanShoshin
  • Re: Drunken on happiness

    @Tigger said:
    @Kerome is drunk on happiness :p

    Hey, if you're always either happy or balanced, you're doing something right!

    Does anyone ever experience this little voice in their head when they are trying to be mindful of what they are doing and live in the moment. I appreciate being in the 'now' and completely understand it's relationship to happiness and that it's an important component to end my suffering but when I do it, I have this little voice in my head that tries to resist being in the 'now'. It's almost as if it's afraid that I will forget something important and drop the ball somewhere. Does anyone else experience this?

    Yes I do.

    I have started to keep a diary each day and one of the headings is:

    What do I HAVE to do today?

    The less I write in there the better!

    I have found it a good way to simplify my life so I can spend more time in the present.

    TiggerDhammaDragonlobster
  • Re: Low Carb High Fat...

    @karasti said:
    the stupid thing is, they based the entirety of that diet advice on ONE flawed study.

    A little like the "vaccination causes autism" lie......

    dhammachick
  • Re: Pain, ego

    I understand what you mean.

    Perhaps psychological pain helps us strive for awakening.

    lobsterTosh
  • Re: Buddhism, vanity and sexual conduct?

    @Kaydeekay said:

    @Bunks said:
    Marriage is hard. Both men and women will look (hopefully not touch!) elsewhere at different stages.

    From a male perspective, we're bombarded with images of sexy women wearing not much from morning to night. On television, the internet, advertising posters etc.

    Whether you like it or not, we're affected by it.

    I don't really have any advice. In my current situation (recently separated), I am cynical about marriage i.e it goes against our nature to be with just one person for ten, twenty, thirty, forty years. Why should we fight that?

    Anyway, I hope you guys can sort things out. Good luck!

    Ahhh, hmm - yeah but on another level - this is like me saying that women are bombarded with ideals of super-romanic, passionate men in romantic films (not that I watch that stuff....) and that this affects me whether you guys like it or not. I think it's like trying to be compassionate and see people as people beyond what we can get out of them. We can all go beyond this and not think we a deserved something which is impossible to maintain 24/7, aren't we all just human beings lol?

    We have to take responsibility for managing our own expectations and conceptions as well.

    I think it also subconsciously sends the message that men are owed these super beautiful women, then sometimes this resentment or dissatisfaction then gets projected onto their partner - but that's not really logical, or realistic lol. Water seeks its own level and beauty is going to fade with time anyway...

    Yep. Agree. Women have the same unrealistic crap shoved down their throats.

    Hence my cynicism about marriage.

    Particularly in this day and age in western society where we're constantly told we shouldn't compromise and settle.

    Then on the other hand we're expected to stay with the same person for life.

    Which one do we choose?

    Kaydeekay