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Something to bear in mind:
"Some people complain about the Buddha's teachings
on past lives and future lives,
that they are a distraction from the present,
but when he talks about past lives and future lives,
he keeps coming down to the principle of kamma:
that all the past, all the future -everything- is shaped by your choices,
Okay, what choices are you responsible for right now?
The ones in the present moment.
He gives you the teachings on what shapes the past and future
in order to bring you back to the present with an even greater
sense of its importance"
I can only echo what @Hozan said.
I am here and now.
I may be the product of past karmic seedlings that are ripening now.
But I am concerned with the only moment and place I can do something about: here and now.
Do good things, think good thoughts.
Actions have consequences.
Let them be as dukkha-free as possible.
At the end of the day, @Carlita, daily life is chock-full with people and situations that test our patience.
It is better to brace oneself for afflictive situations and learn to endure them stoically and buddhistically somehow.
As Shantideva said, and Chögyam Trungpa rephrased "It is easier to put on a pair of shoes than wrap the earth in leather."
Congratulations to the happy couple
A bit of what everyone has said above.
Our body's automatic reaction when there is a surge of anger/impatience/negative feelings is to get on fight-or-flight mode.
Our breathing gets shallow, our fists and teeth get clenched, and our mind gets bombarded with negative readings into the situation at hand.
So the most important thing is to keep breathing.
As in deep breathing.
And counting to ten or hundred.
And bearing in mind that the same way someone tests our patience, we also test someone else's patience.