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  • Re: Married on Nov 11

    @federica said:
    ...Still waiting for the awesome photos, @Linc....

    Me too. I expect we'll be a ways into 2018 before the photographer finishes editing them all. :) There are a few kicking around Facebook, but I don't really wanna collect a bunch of random shots when I know the good ones will be along.

  • Re: Let's ease off on the "metta", please

    @Shoshin said:
    Perhaps for the members concerned its a case of ..... "Fake it till you make it!"

    A funny sentiment, but let's take care to not wag fingers. It's very easy to turn a discussion about our culture into a discussion about individuals, but only one of those discussions is productive to have.

    Perhaps overusing metta is a case of "Fake it till you make it!"

    That's funny without singling out folks.

    Perhaps us overusing metta is a case of "Fake it till you make it!"

    That's funny while taking responsibility for something greater than yourself, which is what communities are built on.

    I've never signed anything with 'metta' but whatever it's symptomatic of is my own issue as much as it is anyone else's because I help define what this place values.

    Anyway, apologies for belaboring your point, it was simply a useful illustration for me to play with it a bit.

  • Re: Mindstream question

    My approach to dreams has always been that they are unimportant junk. Finding meaning in them feels like wringing sweat from a shirt and wondering what you can use it for. It already did its work, let it go.

  • Re: Let's ease off on the "metta", please

    @DhammaDragon said:
    As usual, I am responsible for what I say, not for what my interlocutor understands.

    Of course. But we can strive to repair even that for which we are not personally responsible. And most especially we can use our empathy to try to understand how what we say will be received by a person before we say it to them. Too often "metta" is essentially a shrug of intention, as if to say "well I meant it well even if you read it badly" which is an abdication of too much responsibility.

  • Re: Let's ease off on the "metta", please

    I hope, @federica, you may be taking @techie too literally. I didn't read that as a contradiction of what I was saying but rather furthering the point - that it's become a mindless tack-on we should avoid. That's how I chose to read it, anyway. :glasses: