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  • Re: Meditation NOT focusing on breathing

    Ain't nothin magical about the breath. You can focus on anything. It's not about what you focus on just becoming the observer of your mind and seeing it as just another thing arising in consciousness.

  • Re: GIANT God dam hornet in my room!

    @SpinyNorman said:

    @Mingle said:

    @SpinyNorman said:

    @Mingle said:

    @federica said:

    @lobster said:
    Unfortunately we don't yet get hornets here :(

    I beg to differ... if you mean in the UK that is. I've seen hornets round here, no joking...

    We currently have a tree-bumble-bee nest just under the eaves of our roof. They nest in a completely different way to honey bees. Our Estate Agents were going to have them destroyed, but I pleaded with - and successfully convinced - them to leave them be.

    They don't nest for long; maybe a couple of months - then, they leave.

    I second this, I too am from the uk

    Don't worry, we will have a hornet-free future when BREXIT goes through. :p

    Ha! Then we can tell them all to buzz off home.

    We'll probably then realise we need them back, because our bees are a bit lazy. :p

    Yeah a bunch of slackers if you ask me. This new generation of Bees is so unmotivated. Personally I blame the hives and also the drugs. They don't care about work anymore just always concerned about their next buzz.

  • Re: Meditating in Skyrim

    I like computer games as much as the next guy but I have never considered them an activity good for mindfulness. Mindfulness takes you out of your head and brings you into your body. It's hard to be aware of your body or anything else for that matter when enthralled in a game. Hey that's just my take on it, I'm probably wrong.

  • Re: Seeking Validation

    @federica said:

    @Mingle said:

    @Zero said:

    @Mingle said:
    Is that something I can aim to change or is that just the human condition? Another form of desire.

    What do you find unsatisfactory about it that you want to change?

    Well I'd rather not care what people think. Feels needy.

    I would therefore refer you back to my response.

    The thought-process you experience stems from an "unhealthy" sense of self-worth, and a place of self-gratifying Ego.

    That may sound harsh but first of all, stop and think about it. Under analysis you may find I'm right...
    Secondly, in my younger days I too, was keen to please.
    You'll be relieved to know it wears off with advancing maturity..... ;)

    ETA: I wrote this directly after your 'needy' post, but for some reason, even though I KNOW I hit 'post comment'.... It didn't post. So read it in the context it was originally posted in - before @karasti's post, or @zero's...

    That is relieving. Yes what you say does indeed make perfect sense. If you have an unhealthy self worth you basically want others to notice in you what you fail to notice in yourself. The problem is that if you are so adamant that you suck even somebody telling you the opposite you simply don't believe them. It's like you can only be happy when absolutely every person you meet confirms to you that you are awesome which of course will never happen no matter who you are. A healthy acceptance that you can't please everybody is in need here. The thing is (and I'm a classic example of this) thinking rationally and emotional response are two different things. I can feel lonely, needy and desire attention and I can rationalize it completely. I can tell myself "I'm only feeling this out of low self worth" then I can sit with the feeling, embrace it and hug it but nothing changes. How does one improve self worth? How does one finally make their rational mind convince their emotional mind that this feeling is unnecessary and basically stop?
    Perhaps you cant. I have come to realize that we are not the person on the outside we are on the inside.

  • Re: Coffee ???

    No affect, in fact I read somewhere that some Buddhist monks drink green tea in order to keep them alert whilst meditating.