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  • Re: Advice on discrimination at work

    I've no advice, but I always think people who come out as transgender are brave. I spent a long time in the British army and in the early 1990s we had a male Warrant Officer who came out as transgender. Fair play to the British army, where homosexuality was illegal just a few years prior, they were great about it and the Warrant Officer ended up heading the army's Diversity Team, where they travelled around different army units, speaking about diversity issues (sexual and racial discrimination).

    There's official policy around this area now.

    Anyway, as I say, I've no advice, but I reckon it takes real courage to do what that Warrant Officer and yourself has done. It's just a shame you've received a negative reaction to what - really - should be no big deal to anyone but yourself.

    As Fede says, keep fighting, motivated even by compassion for other transgenders who may not be as intelligent or able as yourself, but try to find some peace around the situation too (if that's what she said).

  • Re: Will Change

    I find I can't force a change, but what I can do is do stuff, or avoid stuff, and depending on what I'm doing or not doing, change happens.

    It's a bit like getting fit. I can't force myself to be fit, but I can 'do stuff', like run, which creates the potential for fitness, and the fitness just happens without any input from me.

    I take the actions and the change just happens all by itself.

    Today I'm avoiding chocolate, mostly.

  • Re: Zen in ye anciente arte of Photos

    @lobster said:
    @Tosh photograph intrigued me. He now makes a partial living from photography. So why this blurred image of his wife with a cropped elbow from a mobile phone?

    Tee Hee.

    Now Zen? Now then ...

    We were both running and I took this shot while we were moving; which is why it's all blurred. But I like the colours; the green background particularly.

    And the sense of movement.

  • Re: Barcelona Terror Attack

    @karasti said:
    We have to learn to stop giving people reason to hate. We (as in the allied western powers) have created a lot of misery that has contributed to a lot of desperate people. I think everyone has a lot of learning to do to help end the levels of hatred and violence in our world.

    Spain has played a very minor role in the Middle East. There was no real reason to target them if that's what you're saying that's why it happened to them.

  • Re: Supernatural energy/something bigger than what you have alone

    @Frosty said:
    In Buddhism, where is the source of the strength when you run out of it? We are all finite. There is a limit to how much strength we can harness and possess. What is the "other" part that gives us strength when we are seeming out?

    Compassion, I guess.

    I'm crap at doing things for myself, but a lot better at doing them for someone else.

    Even if I'm making dinner, if it's just for myself, I'll not really bother and put little or no effort into it.

    If I'm making dinner for others, it's a lot better.

    I think us humans are like that with most things.

    In the British army there only two soldiers have ever won the Victoria Cross twice. One of them was a medical officer who, during WW1, kept on venturing into no-man's-land, amid bombs and bullets, to drag injured soldiers back to safety.

    To get a VC, you have had to have risked yourself in a position where there was a 90% chance of dying, which is why these awards are normally given post-posthumously (when you're dead).

    In Korea they say a woman isn't very strong, but a mother is very powerful.

    Compassion is very powerful.