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  • Re: Drunken on happiness

    @Kerome said:
    Yet recently it occurs to me that this state is not dissimilar to drunkenness, in that the clear vision one has of things to be done

    I guess it all depends on what our concept of happiness is. My old concept of happiness was (I think) euphoria, and in that state, I really identified with the way you described your concept of happiness.

    I'm a (recovered) alcoholic, but euphoria could also drive me to drink; it was yet another feeling I couldn't deal with. I think there's some anxiety or something unsettling about being euphoric?

    But nowadays, my concept of being happy is synonymous with feeling peaceful.

    TravellerHozanlobsterKeromeDhammaDragon
  • Re: Pain, ego

    I don't like pain of any description. Personally, I'd prefer to think of psychological pain as a reminder that I'm often doing something wrong and see what I can learn from it.

    And there are types of psychological pain that are perfectly natural to experience, such as the death of a loved one.

    I think it's our relationship - how we handle that pain and how it affects us is the important factor.

    For example, does it drive us to do unhealthy things (like drink or drug), or does it drive us to handle it in more healthy ways (like seeking out the company of friends or our spiritual circle for support)?

    As a recovered alkie, I could not stand feeling the discomfort of any kind of psychological pain, which is probably why I drank the way I did. And when I got sober I thought the idea was to 'be happy' (not experience pain) so that I could remain sober.

    But over the years (I'm a slow learner), I've learnt there's no avoiding pain, and I've somehow learnt to be okay, even when I'm not feeling okay.

    lobsterDhammaDragon
  • Re: Buddhism, vanity and sexual conduct?

    @grackle said:
    If he wants you to be "hot" to stoke his desires that is placing the responsibility on you. Manifestly unfair. It's a two way street. What is he willing to do. If after four years of marriage he wants you to get all tarted up to turn him on then what is the rest of you worth to him?

    I agree with you, but you know how we learn in Buddhism (or at least I was taught this) that we 'create concepts' with our minds, well as a man, who has had children, we tend to create our partners as 'mothers' or 'caregivers' and it's not the most on-turning of concepts to create.

    What helps me is not only to see Mrs Tosh as a 'runner' or a 'mum' or a 'care giver', but as a 'fully-fledged sexual beast, who knows what she wants, and isn't afraid to take it', because that's a lot hotter than a 'care giver'.

    Us men, we're simple things (in many ways); humour us with some suspenders and trashy make-up.

    I'd happily wear a bat-man costume if asked!

    HozanVastmindKaydeekayspiderlilyDhammaDragon
  • Re: Low Carb High Fat...

    @Bunks said:

    Thanks @karasti - I must admit I have been feeling sh*tty today. I suspect it is for the reasons you've mentioned above......

    They call it 'keto flu'. I didn't get it; maybe a little.

    It'll pass. Maybe 3 days to a week. After 21 days you'll be swinging it. After decades of relying on carbs as fuel, changing over to being a lean-mean-ketogenic-fat-burning-machine can have a few bumps.

    Try to be strict, especially during your first 21 days. Primal Endurance reckons that after doing this for a while, we can dip in and out of being ketogenic; our bodies become accustomed to both ways of eating.

    I don't know if that's true; in things like this there's a lot of 'bro science', so for me it comes down to experimentation.

    Bunks
  • Re: Low Carb High Fat...

    @Namada said:
    Low Carb High Fat...

    High fat? I cant belive its good for you to eat a lot of butter, bacon and read meat, your colestrol will increase and your blood pressure aswell.

    The 'fat is bad' for you is based on outdated and bad science.

    Ancel Keys was one of the first to promote this myth when he observed fat blocked drains. He did a study called The Seven Country study and cherry picked his findings.

    They also did stuff like feed rabbits a high fat diet and they all got heart disease. Rabbits produce all their own cholesterol, so adding yet more wasn't going to be good for them. And had they done the same experiment using dogs, they would've gotten a totally different result.

    There is no evidence that fat is bad for you.

    But I understand that we've had the 'fat is bad' drummed into us from an early age, while we're chugging down fruit juices, which were advertised as healthy, which is basically just sugar water (carbs).

    lobster