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  • Not-Self and Compassion

    In a Lion’s Roar article this month, the Dalai Lama wrote:

    Therefore, full spiritual practice calls for cultivating wisdom in conjunction with great compassion and the intention to become enlightened in which others are valued more than yourself.

    Previously I had supposed that an enlightened mind, which fully comprehended the reality of Not-Self, would value others equally with oneself, not more or less. Compassion—at least according to my therapist!—should include self-compassion. But here HHDL seems to suggest that the compassion of the Buddhas for other people (and animals?) exceeds their self-compassion.

    What do you think? Does an enlightened mind make any distinction between self and others, even only so far as to put others’ needs first? Can anyone bring in other Buddhist writings to add to the conversation?

    P.S. Happy Earth Day for yesterday! May all beings and non-beings be free from suffering and the causes of suffering <3

  • Re: Guilt

    A therapist once told me a CBT trick he had learned, which I found helpful.

    When guilt arises, acknowledge it and think about it very deliberately for two minutes. (He even recommended timing this period with a stopwatch.) Carefully think about ways of resolving the issue and then move on. Let it go. After two minutes, he said, dwelling on it becomes “rumination” and essentially unhelpful and self-attacking.

    I’ve found it easier to move on when I’ve actually dedicated some real time to the issue. Further guilt doesn’t build up so easily because part of me feels I’ve done everything I can.

    Does that make sense? I only mentioned it because it’s been helpful to me, and I know that different from people find different techniques work for them.

  • Re: Syrian refugee poetry

    That’s an interesting poem, I like it very much. Thank you for sharing it, @Kerome <3

  • Re: Buddhism and the Tao

    @David said:

    Accepting things as they are includes everything such as the fact that we can affect change to a degree and that affecting change is best done skillfully.

    Well said :) I totally agree.

  • Re: What is the best way to use our idle time?

    I listen to audiobooks. It can become a bit of a crutch though, I’ll admit.