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@Bunks: Breathe in, breathe out. Deep. 2 to 3 times.
Then ask yourself:
What exactly, right here, right now, in this moment, is happening that is doing me wrong?
I can be angry, if I choose.
I can also be calm, if I choose.
Which would be better for me?
Which would achieve more?
I breathe in, and I am calm.
I breathe out, and I let Peace in.
Hope this helps.
Like every other exercise, it takes practice, perseverance and patience.
You have to commit to yourself, but first of all, you have to accept, and understand that you are absolutely 100% worth that commitment.
Steps like this can be lonely; you have to make them yourself, for yourself.
But you're surrounded here, by supportive friends.
The fact you know what you must do, and the willingness you show, is a bonus.
Come on buddy, best foot forward!
There is a big difference between Happiness and Contentment. I do not pursue Happiness. Yet it finds me.
I Relax into Contentment, and by relaxing, am able to therein abide, much longer.
That's actually a very good question, @Shoshin, I'm glad you asked it... because hopefully it gives everyone scope to consider precisely what that means, to them. And I think it will be a very individual interpretation.
I guess, fundamentally what I mean by it, for myself, is "What would the Buddha do?"
And I think the first thing he might do is smile inwardly and think "Oh, you are so attached to your views and opinions. Do you not know that all this is just more papanca?"
I sometimes have that kind of thought when a customer insists on a particular stance, and all they're getting hot under the collar about, is a £15.50 blouse....
But it makes me look at my attitude towards them too, and to consider the 4 Sublime states vs the 3 Poisons....
In a nutshell....