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federica · seeker of the clear blue sky · Moderator


Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt
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Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt
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  • Re: Militant Dharma

    Before I go to a Rally, I need to make sure I'm genuine, bona-fide Rally material.
    No point me agreeing to attend, if I can't come up with the promised goods.

    I might decide for example, to go to the 'Will sit-down without protest' rally, only to find myself firmly on my feet, with the intention of sparking out my adversary with an uppercut southpaw hook.

    Not very Mindful....

    I think, if we want to change the world, we need to start with a small garden....

  • Re: Claiming enlightenment

    "Well, I hope that's working well for you."

    (It didn't work out well for David Icke for whom, I fear, the plot is lost....)

  • Re: Self Pity

    I really don't know where you get any impression that there's anything here about 'beating ourselves up'. "beating yourself up" is not what this video is discussing.
    This video is talking about Compassion for one's self: Recognition that we have emotions that it's ok to acknowledge.
    Recognising that sometimes, Dhukka sucks and it's sucking at us. Those irksome twins, Sam and Sara, are spoiling our game, and not playing fair. And it's demoralising and makes us sad.

    But it's ok to see that. It's ok to appreciate that we could do with a hug. So it's ok to give ourselves one.
    The secret is to not prolong the hug until it becomes suffocating and stifling.
    Give yourself room, give yourself time, give yourself love.
    Then "Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again."

    I think you have a poor understanding of allowing self-compassion, if you mistake it for 'beating yourself up'.

  • Re: Turning 30

    @genkaku said:
    @Mingle -- Take up Buddhism for a change. It may help you to stop believing in time, believing in age, believing in death and worrying about stepping in the dog shit we all step in from time to time.

    Or, alternatively, find a nice quiet corner, sit down, and enjoy being depressed about what can't be changed. :)

    I totally and utterly second the motion.

  • Re: Ever known someone...

    @karasti said:
    The cycle of samsara doesn't stop, even when we try to do the right thing. If we all gave up nuclear arsenals, lots of people would lose jobs there, too. People lose their jobs every day as we automate our world, buy more stuff online, start low carb diets, stop eating meat, etc etc. Someone is always affected and has another perspective. There is bi-partisan support for a bill introduced today so we'll see where it goes.

    This is something I have always maintained, and I'm sure (or at least, hopeful) that others remember me saying it:
    No matter how much "Good" kamma you generate, something, or someone, somewhere along the line (be it linear or non-linear) will 'suffer' as a consequence.
    There is always a Yin to the Yang, a reaction to the action, a minus to a plus, a dark to a light, a down to an up.
    One, without the other, is dead in the water. Everything HAS to have an opposite, in order to be recognised.
    So when we do 'good', elsewhere, in a connected manner, something 'bad is, or will be, going on.