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federica · seeker of the clear blue sky · Moderator


Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt
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Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt
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  • Re: Raise a glass to the 12 Days of Christmas...

    Found this, here.....

    "Most people wrongly believe that the '12 Days of Christmas' refers to the days before Christmas. However, it's really the period starting on Christmas day and finishing with the Epiphany (January 6th, when the 3 kings from 'the East' brought gifts).

    You may be familiar with the Christmas song, The 12 Days of Christmas. The first few lines go like this:

    On the first day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    A partridge in a pear tree.

    On the second day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the third day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    The song continues, adding 4 calling birds on the 4th day, 5 golden rings on the 5th, and so on up to the 12th day, when 12 drummers add to the cacophony of assorted birds, pipers and lords leaping all over the place.

    Notice that on each day there is one partridge (so I will have 12 partridges by the 12th day), and each day from the second day onwards there are 2 doves (so I will have 22 doves), and from the 3rd there are 3 hens (total of 30 hens), and so on.

    So, how many presents are there altogether?

    Partridges: 1 × 12 = 12
    Doves: 2 × 11 = 22
    Hens 3 × 10 = 30
    Calling/Colly birds: 4 × 9 = 36
    Gold(en) rings: 5 × 8 = 40
    Geese: 6 × 7 = 42
    Swans: 7 × 6 = 42
    Maids: 8 × 5 = 40
    Ladies: 9 × 4 = 36
    Lords: 10 × 3 = 30
    Pipers: 11 × 2 = 22
    Drummers: 12 × 1 = 12

    Total = 364

    We observe that we have the same number of partridges as drummers (12 of each); doves and pipers (22 of each); hens and lords (30 of each) and so on. So the easiest way to count our presents is to add up to the middle of the list and then double the result: (12 + 22 + 30 + 36 + 40 + 42) × 2 = 364."

    It never occurred to me to calculate it that way, neither have I ever realised the numerical connection between the gifts...

  • Re: Omg yet another rant

    What the heck this is doing in the Meditation forum is beyond me.
    Given that the OP shows scant, if any inclination to discuss Buddhism, or seems to have not even the mildest interest in implementing any form of practice, to any discernible level of dedication, I fail to see why he posts.
    Thanks to all who contributed.

  • Re: Just for fun: the random, useless announcements thread!

    I have to agree with you there.
    I genuinely, literally surprised myself, this week: I had a real specimen of a customer this last wednesday, who for absolutely no reason whatsoever, decided I would make a great target for whatever ailed him.

    Now, we at M&S pride ourselves on being polite, courteous, efficient, understanding and infinitely patient in the face of whatever the day may decide to place before us, or fling in our faces.
    This guy undoubtedly knew this, and I bet was quietly confident that whatever he could hurl at me in the form of bad-manners-bordering-on-abusive, I would in the spirit of my employment, take it.
    He wasn't wrong.

    He was rude, yelled in my face, wouldn't allow me to finish my sentences, and his manner, demeanour and sheer volume even astonished both the customer at the till next to him, and the lady waiting in line, behind him.
    It could have been their expressions which triggered it. I'd like to think it had a lot to do with the Daily Meditation 'regimen' I have imposed on myself.
    Whatever; I didn't bat an eyelid or miss a beat.

    I maintained a serene exterior, although inwardly, I wish I could have punched him in the face - but it was a momentary desire....
    Whereas a short while ago, the experience would have played on my mind all day, furnacing resentment and animosity, this time, I turned it around, silently and fervently wished him sincere Metta & Karuna, and felt deeply sad for him that he must have been wrestling in his own private self-made hell.... And nobody is more surprised than I, that I could do this....

    I did nothing to provoke his prolonged outburst. As @DhammaDragon says, It was a miserable person, behaving miserably.
    I bet he actually knew it. He simply chose to not behave, and decided it would be ok to let rip.

    Had I retaliated, I fear the outcome would have been very serious, and far more negative.

    Wherever he is, I wish him well.
    I can't even bring myself to call him names here... He's miserable enough as it is, without my compounding his load, albeit in an unseen way...

  • Re: Funny Stuff

    What does a Christmas tree have in common with the Pope?

    The balls are purely decorative...

  • Re: The Five Recollections

    @Kerome said:
    I wonder what the benefit is of being reminded of exactly these things. They are true, but so are other things which are less depressing.

    If you look at for example Thich Nhat Hanh’s teachings on suffering, he often emphasises that the reason we should learn about suffering is to also learn about happiness. I like his balance in that.

    After all the reason why we pursue the cessation of dukkha is not in order to stare at dukkha for long hours, but to be free of it.

    You've fallen into the trap of believing that such teachings are 'depressing' along with many other people.
    It surprises me that one following Buddhism should consider such a Universal Truth as 'depressing'.

    They're not depressing at all. They bring you into the Now and make you realise how precious each moment is; they're a reminder to live well and skilfully, because time is one thing we have no guarantee of. So use your time skilfully, joyfully, kindly and compassionately.

    Do not dwell on past matters, because that is a dangerous Chaise Longue to sprawl on... Do not dwell idly dreaming of what may come, because plans have a tricky habit of tapping you on the shoulder and blowing a raspberry in your ear.

    Live each day, to the full, in joy, companionably and amiably with those around you; leave a good impression of yourself, so that you will be missed and held up as a beacon of goodness, rather than one whose outlook was all eeyore and grumbles.

    Is basically, what it's telling you.