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karasti · Breathing · Veteran


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  • Re: Abortion

    For most people this is a heart-wrenching decision. If all the babies that were aborted in the past, say, 10 years, were to have been born, would that really have been the best case scenario for all involved including the planet when the mom or parents did not want to have the baby?

    Adoption is a wonderful gift. To choose to go through almost a year of bodily, mental, emotional and hormonal changes for a child you have no intention of raising yourself and that you felt you couldn't keep is a lot more to ask on top of all of that. I am grateful for all those who do make that choice. But I'd never force it on anyone. It has to be a gift of sacrifice and love.

    I found the article to be rather...pokey? When I read it I got about 3 sentences in because I knew it had been written by a man, lol. To assume that "most abortions happen because of embarrassment or wanting to avoid inconvenience" is to completely invalidate the women who make this choice. Pregnancy and delivery are extremely taxing in every way imaginable. Even for someone who wants a baby more than anything in the world.

    The people I know who have had abortions, it was an extremely difficult choice and inconvenience had nothing to do with it. Most of them had to consider if it was fair to bring a child into the lives they were living, and if they were remotely capable of giving a child the things they needed. Those who were unable to consider those questions are those who were on drugs, drinking or partying a lot, etc. In which case it's hard to argue that bringing a baby into that even for adoption would be a good choice.

    All of the problems with abortion, within religion or outside of it, come attached to the question of what is life, really? When does it start? When does the essence of who we are become present? Is a mass of growing tissue a person?
    And the thing is, we have no answers for those questions except for within ourselves based on, as usual, our causes and conditions. For that reason, it is an individual question and decision in my mind. Because I simply cannot answer those questions for another person. And neither should (IMO) anyone else.

  • Re: Dharma Overload

    I wanted to add, I don't think I finished my thought on serious study of Buddhism. Laymen of course can study seriously! I just meant that that type of in-depth, 24/7 study you see from monks is more for them for a reason. Unless you are looking to go down that road, it's ok just to have a life, too, that isn't always laser-focused on a sutra or a precept etc. If that makes sense.

  • Re: Dharma Overload

    It's common to be overwhelmed sometimes. Step back, read an easy-read fiction book, watch a non-documentary movie, play a game, etc. Serious study of Buddhism isn't for people who aren't monks. You have to have a life otherwise, too. Eventually Buddhism works its way into all of it, but it doesn't work so well if you force it. There are 84,000 some teachings in Buddhism. It's not possible to know them all in a life time, even for the masters. Perhaps it's more important to note the things they place the greatest importance on. Generally (from what I have seen) that seems to be simply compassion for everyone. If all you focus on your whole live is doing that, then you've come farther than most. Buddhism isn't something to conquer or cross off a list. The more you try, the more things will be added to that list. It's like one of those self relighting trick birthday candles. The more you think you've learned the more you realize what you really don't know.

  • Re: Food as medicine - how to eat

    It varies so much by person, and a lot of it has to do with historical ancestry and what your great grandparents (and beyond) thrived on. If you hail from a tropical locale, what is ideal to nourish and heal your body will vary a lot compared to someone from the arctic circle. But the overall theme is much the same.

    Learn how to distinguish between what your brain wants because of attachments to food and experiences/pleasures, and what your body needs for nourishment. When you learn how to do that, what you need will come to you clearly, and it should change with the seasons (and even daily depending on so many factors).

    Also, there is increasing evidence that what we believe about our food has an effect on what it does to us. If you constantly eat cheesecake and believe it's bad for you, the effects will be worse than if you simply savor and enjoy it and let it go. Quite fascinating. There is a really good article on it buried somewhere in my FB. I will see if I can find it.

    Overall, the closer to "life" what we eat is, the more healing benefits it has. So much of what we buy has lost a significant portion of it's nutrients, and many are deficient to start because of a lack of good soil. I'd encourage everyone to grow whatever they can manage, even in a window box in a small apartment. You can grow turmeric and ginger root quite easily even, both of which have a ton of healing properties.

  • Re: I love Monday mornings

    I am totally grammar police, but I bite my tongue most of the time. It's like fingernails on a chalkboard to me, :lol:
    I enjoy Mondays as well. I like family time on the weekend, but I like the return to my routine when everyone leaves Monday morning. Today, the kids are off school so we are going to my dad's for the day, which is nice, too.

    I find it really sad and unfortunate that so many people dislike their jobs so much that they suffer through 5 days only to look forward to the weekend. That's a lot of time to not at least somewhat enjoy what you spend those 5 days doing. My husband actually really enjoys his job, but even he hates having to go back on Monday. When he has more than a few days off at a time, he's a totally different person. I dont' think he, and many others, even realize how much their jobs affect them on a regular basis.