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in my case i had been deluded 54 years (more than five decades)
I know the feeling. Three weeks ago I learned that in some ways I have been coasting through life. I have mistaken being nice for being good.
For me, I don't have any goals, long term, for my reasons of being Buddhist. I didn't arrive here so that I could end rebirth. If that's where I end up, then we'll go from there, LOL. for me it has always been about finding peace and balance now, in my every day life. Little worry about what happens after I die.
it really depends who you ask, and as usual, no one knows which is why the answers vary. Some teachers will tell you householders/laypeople can be liberated. Others will tell you only monastics can because living a world-involved life automatically means attachments and desires. But, how can you truly work through having attachments and desires if all you do is avoid them? Eckhart Tolle will tell you he is free/liberated. But he is not Buddhist so he won't go so far as to claim enlightenment and freedom from rebirth when he dies in this life. I personally don't see any reason why a lay person couldn't make significant progress and potentially be liberated in that life. Living a lay life doesn't have to mean attachments. One can live with others and be free of those attachments. Perhaps not easily. But I do think it's possible.
Your posts often lead me into deeper thought! Like this one. I'm glad you're here!