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Iktomi, sometimes I'm selfish when I am good. For example one day I came home from coffee with my dad. My mom was in a pisser of a mood when I got back. Testy. I understood the problem was that the house was a mess and some repairman or taxman or something was scheduled to arrive in two hours.
Based on my recollections I knew that there was only one way to win the situation and I just started cleaning. Mopped floors, cleaned windows, and whatever I could find. I was thinking of myself and how I just wanted to focus on solving the problem rather than express frustration..
When I met her, I had to kiss her. The voice in my head told me to. Almost going on three years now.
Young and hopelessly in love. J/K. Probably the most realistic and open relationship I have ever been. At first it was romantic, but then it evolved to appreciation and kindness. But still the romance is there.
Not being so dependent on another allows for full expression of love and communion.
Okay @everyone... how did you meet your significant other? I love romance.
I was in the Air Force and she was in the Navy, and we worked in the same building. We started hanging out, which eventually ended up with us spending most of our time together.
I had recently gone through a painful divorce, so I was trying to not send wrong signals about my intentions, as I was convinced to never marry again. I remember telling her that I needed my space, and spent time alone at my place on occasions, while the truth was that I really wanted to be with her all the time. Looking back, I can't believe she put up with me and my fears, but she was super cool and never made an issue out of anything.
After a year of us being together and our friendship growing, the thought of my next assignment was weighing heavily on my mind because that presented a distinct possibility of having to move away from my best friend. I realized that she added so much to my life, and that I would be a fool to lose her... so I had to put away my fears and change the way I viewed our relationship, and I was blessed that she was in step with me throughout the whole transition.
We have been married for 12 years, and our love for each other continues to grow...we really are perfect for each other. We are very supportive, rarely argue and have never gone to bed angry with each other.
And to think that I could have easily lost all this this to fear brought on by a previous experience that had nothing to do with her.
My wife was completely naked the first time I set eyes on her. No, no, no, she's not a stripper. Get your head out of the gutter for 5 seconds! She was posing for a life drawing class.
My wife was completely naked the first time I set eyes on her. No, no, no, she's not a stripper. Get your head out of the gutter for 5 seconds! She was posing for a life drawing class.
My wife was completely naked the first time I set eyes on her. No, no, no, she's not a stripper. Get your head out of the gutter for 5 seconds! She was posing for a life drawing class.
I have to admire someone that comfortable with their body... So did you ask her out after right after the drawing assignment?
I was waiting tables and he came in thirty minutes before closing. He seemed sad and mysterious and intelligent. I was 17 and he was 22 and in college, also taking care of his sick dad. He was mature and I was an insane crazy, young, bright light in his darkness.
We had coffee that same night and talked til the sun came up at a diner.
It was not love at first sight, but our souls definitely needed something that we could only find in each other.
12 years later, he means more to me than the word "husband."
He is my best friend and family.
I have been begging for a sister wife, he thinks I'm kidding. But just as a fantasy, you can't practice polygamy in the us.
He is so loveable, kind, and compassionate. Maybe we can move to a Muslim country.
Is it selfish to want sister wives, even wishfully.
Is it selfish to want sister wives, even wishfully.
Sounds cool until I dwell on the idea... (So to put myself in his shoes) I feel fortunate that I get along so well with my wife, so what are the odds of being that lucky with the chemistry again, but not only for myself, but for the wives as well. Sounds great in fantasy, but scary in real life... like you would be risking your winnings at the casino, going double or nothing.
Lol...I think I would benefit more from the experience than him. We are Muslim...he is Sufi. But no, we couldn't afford it right now. It's all about fairness. It's basically a monogamous relationship with each one on a rotating schedule and usually you live in seperatw houses.
On a side note...I think men are built to have plural mates, biologically. They can impregnate a woman per night... so in an end of the world scenario and Adam an eves situation ...yay.
I'm just lonely. I am a only child and collect female friends as a hobbies.
My wife was completely naked the first time I set eyes on her. No, no, no, she's not a stripper. Get your head out of the gutter for 5 seconds! She was posing for a life drawing class.
I have to admire someone that comfortable with their body... So did you ask her out after right after the drawing assignment?
Not right away, no. But I was very taken with her (not just the body). We kept bumping into each other over several months until New Years Eve came along. We kissed that night to celebrate the new year. A once in a lifetime kiss it was, in all likelihood.
@Everyone You are hanging in a tree by your teeth Your arms are bound and your legs are bound, you can't touch the tree. A man with a gun appears under the tree and asks Why did Bodidharma come to China? If you don't answer, he will shoot you and you will die. If you open your mouth to answer, you will fall from the tree and die. How do you stay alive?
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personDon't believe everything you thinkThe liminal spaceVeteran
@Everyone You are hanging in a tree by your teeth Your arms are bound and your legs are bound, you can't touch the tree. A man with a gun appears under the tree and asks Why did Bodidharma come to China? If you don't answer, he will shoot you and you will die. If you open your mouth to answer, you will fall from the tree and die. How do you stay alive?
You wet yourself in fear and hope some trickles on him so he runs away.
It was a normal weekend almost 6 years ago. I went to his house and all of his siblings were there and they were all playing with him. After a bit spending time with him and talking with his "mom" my family and I decide he was the right one and $300 dollars later he was all ours, fury tail and all.
Use sign language. Shrug your shoulders as if to say, "I got no idea, dude, Bodhidharma lived centuries ago. He may not have even lived for all I know. Could just be a legend. I mean, that's just a possibility. By the way, there's a swat team surrounding the area so you better drop the gun and let me go."
@everyone, has anyone climbed a tree in the past 5 years? Even up a few branches?
I climbed most of the way up a coconut palm in Belize over the holidays. Admittedly it was leaning at about a 30 degree angle from horizontal, making it much easier, but alas I couldn't quite reach the luscious looking coconuts at the top
I climbed up a tree 2 years ago, I got stuck and it took me 10 minutes to work up the courage just to jump down.(I was about 6.5 feet above the ground)
@Arjquad. Glad they didn't call the fire department.
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federicaSeeker of the clear blue sky...Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubtModerator
edited February 2012
On a side note...I think men are built to have plural mates, biologically. They can impregnate a woman per night... so in an end of the world scenario and Adam an eves situation ...yay.
I'm just lonely. I am a only child and collect female friends as a hobbies.
Actually, we're mammals. Mammals are not programmed to be monogamous. humans are conditioned to be monogamous. it's the 'fault' of religious morals, cultural custom and social ethics that it is considered wrong, particularly in the west, to be liberal with your sexual favours.... But in essence by being monogamous, we're going against 'nature'.
But in essence by being monogamous, we're going against 'nature'.
That's like saying birth control is against nature. Well, if it's natural to propagate and use up natural resources without foresight or reason then our end will at least be a natural one.
My cat has a habbit of climbing up the closet shelves, 9 feet high. She meows and cries until I have to get a chair andbring her down. And Kitty has claws.
I bet firefighters had a funny report to write on you.
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So selfishly i focus on others so that i can be happy.
Based on my recollections I knew that there was only one way to win the situation and I just started cleaning. Mopped floors, cleaned windows, and whatever I could find. I was thinking of myself and how I just wanted to focus on solving the problem rather than express frustration..
I have also taken the last cookie.
No because no matter what, there is always a price for it. Focusing on self takes focus away from the world...but if done right, it is only brief.
At least that is how I've come to see it.
Self focused is not selfishness. The unexamined life is not worth living says Socrates.
it certainly looks like it.... You need a special slicer....
Lazy Americans, I get it in the block and shredded myself. Kinda like a work out.
My husbandwill go in the kitchen. Take a bite out of the block and put it back in the bag.
Eww...then it has teeth marks.
If it wasn't for killing spiders and twisting jars open...we wouldn't need you.
Sigh.
Yes, I have climbed the mulberry tree in my back yard - last year!
Sheep...I feel another gross joke coming about lonely shepherd boys.
Lol...bah!
The voice in my head told me to. Almost going on three years now.
Young and hopelessly in love. J/K. Probably the most realistic and open relationship I have ever been. At first it was romantic, but then it evolved to appreciation and kindness. But still the romance is there.
Not being so dependent on another allows for full expression of love and communion.
I had recently gone through a painful divorce, so I was trying to not send wrong signals about my intentions, as I was convinced to never marry again. I remember telling her that I needed my space, and spent time alone at my place on occasions, while the truth was that I really wanted to be with her all the time. Looking back, I can't believe she put up with me and my fears, but she was super cool and never made an issue out of anything.
After a year of us being together and our friendship growing, the thought of my next assignment was weighing heavily on my mind because that presented a distinct possibility of having to move away from my best friend. I realized that she added so much to my life, and that I would be a fool to lose her... so I had to put away my fears and change the way I viewed our relationship, and I was blessed that she was in step with me throughout the whole transition.
We have been married for 12 years, and our love for each other continues to grow...we really are perfect for each other. We are very supportive, rarely argue and have never gone to bed angry with each other.
And to think that I could have easily lost all this this to fear brought on by a previous experience that had nothing to do with her.
We had coffee that same night and talked til the sun came up at a diner.
It was not love at first sight, but our souls definitely needed something that we could only find in each other.
12 years later, he means more to me than the word "husband."
He is my best friend and family.
I have been begging for a sister wife, he thinks I'm kidding. But just as a fantasy, you can't practice polygamy in the us.
He is so loveable, kind, and compassionate. Maybe we can move to a Muslim country.
Is it selfish to want sister wives, even wishfully.
I'm just lonely. I am a only child and collect female friends as a hobbies.
Your arms are bound and your legs are bound, you can't touch the tree.
A man with a gun appears under the tree and asks
Why did Bodidharma come to China?
If you don't answer, he will shoot you and you will die.
If you open your mouth to answer, you will fall from the tree and die.
How do you stay alive?
That bodhidharma never left.
Mammals are not programmed to be monogamous. humans are conditioned to be monogamous.
it's the 'fault' of religious morals, cultural custom and social ethics that it is considered wrong, particularly in the west, to be liberal with your sexual favours....
But in essence by being monogamous, we're going against 'nature'.
I don't think this will ever surpass as an accepted excuse.
@Arjquad are you serious...lol...they wouldn't bring you a ladder, you poor Kitty cat.
My cat has a habbit of climbing up the closet shelves, 9 feet high. She meows and cries until I have to get a chair andbring her down. And Kitty has claws.
I bet firefighters had a funny report to write on you.