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I am thinking over this question and thought I'd propose it to everyone and share my own thoughts:
What are you trying to work on right now in life? Any specific challenges or areas that need strengthening? Or nothing?
My current challenge is with attachment to my ex right now and I feel it causing a lot of pain. It almost feels like intense suffering sometimes. I think this pain and emptiness within me is the result of developing attachment for so long, maybe even external reliance out of fear. The actions I did for about 7 years of getting lost in this person and not 100% addressing my own needs and belief that I can be okay on my own, have now created this sense of fear/being unsettled/lonely I'm forced to face and deal with. There were beautiful things about the relationship, but I was way too involved in it and it became a huge distraction from knowing myself completely. It was unhealthy mainly because it consumed me and dictated my well being so much of the time. I feel like I lost my power as an individual since I was so focused on the relationship.
The thoughts/practices which help me are mostly meditating on compassion and seeing the suffering in others and practicing relieving that suffering with love that I really feel. This compassion toward all beings is kind of like transferring the love/care I have for my ex toward others and it feels really pure and uplifting. I literally feel healed with this kind of thinking.
This attachment is related to loneliness and I'm seeing that I'm not alone since I have my own mind and thoughts and all of the life around me. I am visualizing who and where I want to be as a person in life, realizing that I don't need anything to be okay and happy, that it is very simple and okay to sit here now with nothing and enjoy this moment with myself. I think it is possible to have a security where I don't need another person even in my darkest times. I keep thinking how at death it's something I will face alone, something possibly filled with weird images and dreams maybe unsettling to someone full of attachment in this world. I feel so needy for a lovey comfort. I know this is natural and everyone experiences it sometimes, but I'm overly cautious and like to be prepared for death at any moment, as well as prepared for the next moment of my life. If I were dying right now, this attachment to this person or to this desire for love/comfort would be a rock on my path to being completely at peace. Although I know in a way people need people and other external things, I know personally, it is imperative to be okay alone and have a mental peace and safe place that isn't completely relied upon by any external person/thing.
I have a goal to be completely at peace in the face of any situation that may tempt me to feel fear and desire. I have felt this way at times in life, but not lately and not consistently. I need to stop distracting myself.
Thanks for listening and please share your current challenges or experiences I'd love to hear.