Listening to Dan Harris' podcast yesterday he had on guest Gretchen Rubin to talk about her book about the basic tendencies we have in meeting inner and outer expectations, particularly in regards to forming new habits such as meditating, exercising, diet, etc.
Basically we either meet or resist inner or outer expectations and in combination of these there are 4 basic ways of meeting expectations.
-Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations
-Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense--essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations
-Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves
-Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike
She gives tips on how to keep ourselves motivated to keep to our wishes. For example questioners should learn about the topic to motivate themselves, while obligers should get a motivation partner or join a group who also wants to do the activity.
Check out the website for more and take the quiz to find out which you are.
Listen to the podcast with Dan Harris