Over the years, the women in my life have pointed out a bad quality of mine. When they’re talking I will sometimes miss an important detail. (Interestingly no male friend or relative has mentioned this.) Fortunately, they usually forgive me (I guess I have some redeeming qualities) and life goes on. But I don’t like being inconsiderate, so I’d like to do something about it.
My fiancée had a theory about this. She thought that since I had a nagging mother, so I learned to filter out female voices. (Remember Charlie Brown’s teacher?) I was also diagnosed with ADHD when I was a child, so that may play some role in it as well.
But it seems to me that the problem is actually a lack of mindfulness. When someone is talking to me my mind will frequently be considering the implications of what they said 2 minutes ago, instead of focusing on what they’re saying right now. And to be totally honest, sometimes it’s just random garbage that pops into my head. I’m actually pretty good at reconstructing what others have said, but sometimes I slip up.
So would mindfulness meditation help correct this flaw, or do I need to look elsewhere?