I think of the major teachings — impermanence, letting go of things, not-self — and then I wonder about surrender. I’ve seen mention in a few places of being in control of yourself, which would point to not surrendering, but at the same time it feels like there is so much letting go going on in that list that surrender kind of feels appropriate. If there is no self, what is there to surrender, even?
But on a practical level, a lot of Buddhist monastics, the people we look to as exemplars of study and practice, seem very together. I seem to ave a hard time sorting out some conflicting messages on this topic.