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I think my ideal climate would actually be Colorado, unless someone wants to give me millions to move to a place like the Keys. I don't know if I can handle XMas without snow. I love having all 4 seasons, I just winter wasn't so long. We get 2.5 months of summer, 2 months of fall, 1.5 months of spring and 6 months of winter. CO is much more balanced. Perhaps when we aren't still raising children. Being around family is invaluable for us. No daycare costs, full and busy holidays without having to travel.
I really really love it when I can work with my adult son to figure out issues. We can talk without getting upset and solve problems in different ways. I love that he is open to listening to new ideas and is learning to understand himself better every day.
You can be a Buddhist and do whatever. Your Buddhism is up to you to determine. Many things you will find fall away naturally without mental distress over it as you continue to practice. My life has changed immensely and many things i questioned and clung to have fallen away. I have been a Buddhist for years. I own guns. However, it does not cause me mental distress nor does it make me question whether I am really a Buddhist. If you are feeling unsure how those things work together for you, sit with it for a while and investigate why you are concerned. There is no Buddhist council that is going to show up and tell you you are doing it wrong.
Buddhism is an individual path that you travel alone. If you feel uncomfortable, there is a reason for it. Investigate that. Don't worry what others think. Mine are family heirlooms that have been handed down for generations. We do not hunt nor do we keep them for an illusion of safety. They are triple locked, including biometrically. They would not be accessible even if someone broke in, as I have no desire to shoot anyone or protect my family with violence. We use them occasionally for target practice along with archery.
I always loved this poem. It gives me goosebumps!
what they did yesterday afternoon
by warsan shire
they set my aunts house on fire
i cried the way women on tv do
folding at the middle
like a five pound note.
i called the boy who use to love me
tried to ‘okay’ my voice
i said hello
he said warsan, what’s wrong, what’s happened?
i’ve been praying,
and these are what my prayers look like;
i come from two countries
one is thirsty
the other is on fire
both need water.
later that night
i held an atlas in my lap
ran my fingers across the whole world
where does it hurt?
Some people are completely nuts about anyone who isn't Christian. Of course, they are the most vocal. Most people I know don't care, and if they do they don't talk about it to your face (but probably behind your back). I don't hide my beliefs but I don't broadcast them either. I don't much care if people don't like me for what I believe, I figure it's their problem not mine. If I can't get a job because of it, I wouldn't want to work in that place anyhow. But that's easy for me to say. Living in the south is another world. If I had to live in fear of being ostracized or whatever for my beliefs, I think I'd have to move. I couldn't do it.