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silver · In the beginning there was nothing, and then it exploded. · Veteran


USA, Left coast.
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USA, Left coast.
  • Re: Are atheistic Buddhists immoral?

    That poor kid!
    Hey, sea lice get hungry too. O.o

  • Re: Godparents

    I'm curious to know what are your neighbor's ideas as to what you and your partner, as godparents' expectations of you as their kid's godparents? Things have changed quite a bit. Do they expect you to be the guardians should anything happen to them? If you google what does a godparent do, you'll find a lot of things that probably should've been made clear between you and them.

    Godparents can definitely be expected to strengthen the kid's 'faith' in the parents' chosen religion as they grow up, among other things. Probably would be a good idea to have a talk with them.

  • Re: I thought this was a very good essay on guilt and shame

    Thx for the share - I skimmed - and this bit stood out as helpful and meaningful to me:

    "And here’s where shame is different from guilt. Guilt is focused on us, not on our actions. Guilt can be triggered by our actions, but we go from thinking that we’ve done something “bad” to thinking that we ourselves are “bad.” The “bad” thing we did is seen as proof that we have a “bad” self — perhaps even an essentially bad self. Guilt is a form of self-hatred. So while shame and guilt may seem similar, they’re actually opposites."

    Most of us could use this healthy reminder of the difference.

  • Re: Test yourself

    Oftentimes, if an opening post uses too much of an economy of words, it can leave people not quite sure about what's going on. I wasn't sure what to make of it in this instance, so then I usually ask a relatively simple question to grease the works. Doesn't always - work.

    After reading your latest post above, I understand much better.
    Glad you pulled through. B)

  • Re: Test yourself

    I don't think change always means improvement.
    Maybe you can share one or two insights you got from your return to NB?