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  • Re: A take on mindful living instead of happiness

    He said, it wasn’t something he chased. Instead he watched events come and go, paying especial attention to the silences between, staying as the observer, ignoring both the pursuit of happiness and the avoidance of suffering.


    We have to be honest and realistic about where we are.

    For example regular meditators know the benefits. Regular mindful practitioners know the benefits etc. Armchair dharmaists? Not so much ...

    It is important initially to focus on study, sila, practice for benefits, including happiness. Whatever works for us.

    It takes a very determined, perhaps strong willed person to just be single mindly mindful and undistracted. It can be done. Depends on the individual ...

    I like the term, 'mindful living' that @Kerome uses. It makes Buddhism an inclusive Way of life, rather than a hobby and is closer to the rapid progress possible to the Sangha.

    We do have a plan! We always did ... B)

  • Re: Contemplation, concentration, meditation and sitting mindlessly on a beach

    All those myths ...

  • Re: Just for fun: the random, useless announcements thread!

    ... meanwhile ...

    What happens when two trains meet on the bamboo railway ...

  • Buddha, Knot-Buddha and Nut-Buddha

    From another thread:

    Somewhere I read that one of the hallmarks of maturity is the ability to hold two seemingly contradictory truths together. As I get older, this is something I've had to learn to do again and again as life's complications and contradictions sort of stare defiantly in my face, lol. But in holding both seemingly opposing motivations together, you'll often find there's a lot more flexibility in there than you imagined at first.


    It's complicated ... ? Especially when not-Buddha and yet having Buddha-Nurture?

    How flexible are you becoming in your rigidity? For me the answer is very simple but not enough to give it ...

  • Re: Stymied in meditation

    @nakazcid said:
    To me boredom means "lack of stimulation." When I was a teenager and young adult, it was A Fate Worse Than Death (TM.) That POV has diminished, but I still find it an unpleasant sensation that I feel an aversion to.

    Firstly I feel you have the maturity to understand that boredom is interesting or at least can be explored ...

    So I guess I'll "tighten up" my practice and use a bit more (but not too much) discipline.

    I feel that is the more mature approach.
    However ... there is another way. Examples are:

    • Walking meditation
    • Focus on an internally created or external mandala. In Tantra initiates commonly focus on an image of their guru/lama/teacher or a personification of a Buddha quality (yidam). In Shingon exploration or focus on letters keeps the mind occupied.
    • Posture based meditation, as in Qi-ong, or maintaining a yoga posture for at least a minute

    Keeping the mind or mind/body occupied is a simple example of 'tricking' the mind into settling.

    OM MANI PEME HUM (mantra is another common mind filler/occupier) to settle the easily bored mind ...