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Difficulty going back to a place of a failure

JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
edited March 2011 in Buddhism Basics
When I have a bad experience I have fear to go back to that place. Could be a literal place or website or whatever.

The case that brought this to mind is my project of installing a webspace design. Everything was not working and I additionally outside that had some rough mental nights. It left me reluctant to try again but I don't want to be held back for good.

What have you found as mental strategies?

Comments

  • ZaylZayl Veteran
    The past is past, the failure is in your mind really, not in the space where it occured.
  • TalismanTalisman Veteran
    Failure is created in the mind.

    There is no failure, only opportunities to learn.
  • MindGateMindGate United States Veteran
    I don't mind failure unless people make a big deal about it. I could fail and fail and fail and not care until someone says, "Hey, you suck!" or "You're really bad at this." or something to that extent.
  • ThailandTomThailandTom Veteran
    It is only a failure because the human brain labels it as a failure, further more if a person fails at cutting down a tree for an example, other people would see it as a success.
    The past is the past and maybe this time you will do better and label it as a success in your mind. From what you 'failed' at, there must have been something positive or correct in the situation or place, focus on that rather than focusing on the negative. It's called collecting shit ;)
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Very consistent message, and Tom what can I say. On to more bardos and more bards and more beards.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    I almost look for a more elaborate solution like some unturned stone. But I guess its just that simple and in its simplicity as the mind continues to be active.
  • LostieLostie Veteran
    But Buddhism teaches us not to focus on the positives and just let things be?
    It is only a failure because the human brain labels it as a failure, further more if a person fails at cutting down a tree for an example, other people would see it as a success.
    The past is the past and maybe this time you will do better and label it as a success in your mind. From what you 'failed' at, there must have been something positive or correct in the situation or place, focus on that rather than focusing on the negative. It's called collecting shit ;)
  • ThailandTomThailandTom Veteran
    buddhism hands you the tools, the path, and leaves you to find the answers. I heard Ajahn Brahm one day in one of his talks speak about focusing on what we did 'wrong' will not get you far, but to remember what you did 'right' or what worked, the positive will help. Yes, let things be, things you cannot control, but some things we can control and it is best to not leave them be. If someone is bleeding to death in front of you, would you let it be...
  • aMattaMatt Veteran
    Our resentment (suffering) at our failures might be tied into how much we demand success (attachment to outcome) from ourselves. Try to remember that the causes and conditions of the previous moments have changed, internal and external.

    Things are different now, take a deep breath and keep walking.
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