Feeling emotional & upset and my response to that...

Lostie

I was feeling emotional and upset over a long standing issue and after letting it out and acknowledging the emotions and thoughts I notice I was calm after 30 mins.

I have become -

A) cold-hearted
non-chalant
C) a practitioner of equanimity
D) a forum junkie for posting this MCQ

Any advice? Which one am I?

aMatt

E) Externally focused

It is alright to be calm, it doesn't make you uncaring. Quite often it is only from a place of calm we can approach the conditions skillfully, which one could say is the highest expression of caring. Caring skillfully.

taiyaki

Blah I don't want to get all zen on you but...

don't label it anything because once you label it that's how you view it.
and once you view it a certain way that is your reality.

just feel "the calmness" and feel what it was like to let go. breath in love and breath out love.

you just are.

darjeeling

I've struggled with this as well - not because I don't like equanimity, but other people's reactions make me wonder.

"Why are you always so composed?"
"Doesn't anything bother you?"

I'm engaged and paying attention, but just less perturbed by the little vicissitudes I guess. I'm okay with it, but aware that I come across sometimes like I have ice water in my veins. That's not actually true at all!

compassionate_warrior

Lostie, it means you have an effective practice, if you achieved calm after letting the emotions pass through you. I'd say that true equanimity would be when nothing affects you enough that you have to "let it out". There would be nothing to let out. But that would probably mean you'd achieved Enlightenment. So how's your long-standing issue? Can you take steps to resolve it, so you won't go through the same scenario again at a later date?

BTW, we're obviously all forum junkies, you least of all, judging by the infrequency of your posts.

zidangus

Multiple choice, I was never any good at those type of questions :-/ , is there not an E) none of the above ?

tess

I was feeling emotional and upset over a long standing issue and after letting it out and acknowledging the emotions and thoughts I notice I was calm after 30 mins.

I have become -

A) cold-hearted
non-chalant
C) a practitioner of equanimity
D) a forum junkie for posting this MCQ

Any advice? Which one am I?

I hope, NONE.

All those lead to the ''personal hell''

tess

Lostie, it means you have an effective practice, if you achieved calm after letting the emotions pass through you. I'd say that true equanimity would be when nothing affects you enough that you have to "let it out". There would be nothing to let out. But that would probably mean you'd achieved Enlightenment.

I hope , practising Buddhism will not do this to me. :eek2:

I am glad I am only a begginer. :vimp:


I could cope with ''equanimity'' but this also depends on the meaning of the word.

tess

I've struggled with this as well - not because I don't like equanimity, but other people's reactions make me wonder.

"Why are you always so composed?"
"Doesn't anything bother you?"

I'm engaged and paying attention, but just less perturbed by the little vicissitudes I guess. I'm okay with it, but aware that I come across sometimes like I have ice water in my veins. That's not actually true at all!

I have a problem with this too.
Not from the personal point of view .My ego is too big. :bawl:


Buddhism advocate:
Clearing your mind. / Meditating/. Blank thoughts or repeating sutras.

Loosing emotions except compassion.
Very difficult taking into the account variety of our emotions,

In the end of the day it promises you Nirvana. Feeling pure happiness. / human emotion/

It also promises the feeling of ‘knowing it all’’. Emotion or a desire to become a universe law. /feel free to replace the latest with the word GOD/

Are we not suffering from the ‘grandiose complex’?

Ric

Hmm Tess my understand, as a beginner, is quite different.

-Having no thoughts, or blank thoughts, is not the point. Its about not getting involved with the thoughts. Not engaging them, by trying to blank our mind we would just be repressing thoughts, which is the opposite of non-doing.

-Emotions the same kinda deal, you cant lose all emotions. It means not get carried away by emotions, not engage them and in a sense "wear" them.

-Knowing it all...I havent come across this at all...

zidangus

Awareness is the key, its being aware when thoughts or emotions arise, and then deciding not to follow them, or engage with them, but be aware of how they form, their impermanence.

Below is a link to some great guided meditations with Malcolm Huxter maybe the Mindfulness of Sound & Thought meditation is what you want for meditation on your thoughts, anyway practice them all if you can. download them and follow the instructions when you meditate, like I say I thought they were really good,

http://www.buddhanet.net/audio-meditation.htm


With Metta

tess

Hmm Tess my understand, as a beginner, is quite different.

-Having no thoughts, or blank thoughts, is not the point. Its about not getting involved with the thoughts. Not engaging them, by trying to blank our mind we would just be repressing thoughts, which is the opposite of non-doing.

-Emotions the same kinda deal, you cant lose all emotions. It means not get carried away by emotions, not engage them and in a sense "wear" them.

-Knowing it all...I havent come across this at all...

I am sorry as I have to go but

PLS Note for now,

''Its about not getting involved with the thoughts.'' i.e not having further emotion as a respond to the first one.

""It means not get carried away by emotions, not engage them and in a sense "wear" them. '''

Unfortunately, human brain, mind has 2 options:

Rationalize or suppress it.



:bawl: